Cheating Wife?

[DenverBroncosJM]

OK I need some advice..(no its not my wife)

My wife and I are friends with another couple and we have been for years. We camp together, vacation together etc.

We (my wife and I) have noticed a difference in the way lets call her Sarah is acting recently (past 3 months) she goes out approx. 4 nights a week now and stays out way past 2:00 AM. My wife and I discussed it briefly a month or so ago about how that's a drastic change in how she normally is, she was dressing different the whole nine yards. I told my wife then she is having an affair but she blew it off and said no she would never do that. The problem is her husband doesn't question anything hes the kinda guy if she is happy he is happy so I'm not sure he is picking up on the nuisances but they are obvious.

Well Sarah came over our house the other night and she explained to my wife (after a lot of wine and "excusing herself to take a call") that she has been out all these late nights with another man. I was in the den so I did not hear the conversation etc.

So my wife tells me all of this the next day and then tells me that I cannot tell the husband because she is the only one that knows. So I have been racking my brain on how to let this guy know. They have two kids (One she had from a previous relationship and the father was a dead beat so he adopted the kid legally) together and I feel like after all he has done for her AND her family (loans them money when they are in a tight spot...a lot) its a real sh*tty way to treat him.

I have to let this guy know...so here is the idea I had send a letter addressed to him to someone out of state have them drop it in the mail so it has a different post office tag on it and just have it say something along the lines of "You should hire a PI to follow Sarah" or hell something.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

[elsid13]

Stay out of it, and distance yourself from the couple.

[underrated29]

why does everybody have to be a cheater these days? Messed up. I would certainly distance myself, but i would say something like hey man I was at a buddys house, we went to the liquor store and saw your wife there with another dude. She didnt see us, but you might want to figure out whats happening here.

[Requiem]

You have an obligation to your friend to let him know. Go for the gold.

[bronclvr]

Originally Posted by Requiem

You have an obligation to your friend to let him know. Go for the gold.

No, you don't-if you want to be seen as the guy that broke up those two people, go for it-he'll find out soon enough-

[Blueflame]

It's a tough situation. No matter what you do... or don't do... you run the risk of one or both of them getting angry with you and/or your wife. If you tell the husband, it's a certainty that his wife will blame yours. And your friend may not believe you either... thus be angry that you'd even suggest that his wife was capable of cheating. And if you don't tell him, then later he may blame you because you didn't.

Kinda think in your place I'd do what Elsid suggests...keep my nose in my own business and hang out with them a little less.

[ghwk]

Aww man, coming to the mane for advice.....risky....move to south carolina maybe?

[underrated29]

Originally Posted by ghwk

Aww man, coming to the mane for advice.....risky....move to south carolina maybe?

bEST ADVICE POSSIBLE HERE!!!



I hear they have a surplus of jobs that maybe his wife could find you.

[theAPAOps5]

Stay out of it. If he can't see the signs he either doesn't want to see them or is stupid. Its his life just feel bad for him and make fun of his skank wife.

[DenverBroncosJM]

Originally Posted by ghwk

Aww man, coming to the mane for advice.....risky....move to south carolina maybe?

Haha yes and become waitress.

[dbfan4life]

I bet your friend has an idea of what's going on. It might open the door for your friend to get some things off his chest that he's keeping bottled up. It may backfire on you, too. I suggest you both go to a bar one night, get ****faced. That way when it comes out you can just blame it on being drunk!

[Irish Stout]

Man this is so friggin tough. I understand people saying keep your nose in your own business, but thats whats best for you. What do you think is best for this guy?

I remember my first real girlfriend in college... she was a total asshat. But I stuck with her for two years, until one day a new friend of mine turned to me and said: "Shes a real b*tch huh? Why the hell are you with her?" And my eyes opened, I saw exactly what this chick was, when I could never really see it before (or ignored it) and I dropped her. I always wondered why nobody ever said anything to me about it before and question some of the guys at the time I thought were my best friends.

Now that chick wasn't cheating on me, and I did feel like it was a waste of two years of my life, but part of me was so godamned happy someone helped me see the truth.

I think, if you can, you oughta ask your buddy what the hell he thinks is happening when his wife is out all the friggin time. Eventually he may find out she has been cheating on him and if he comes to you then and figures out you knew and didn't tell him, he'll have a harder time forgiving you than if you at least try and point him in the right direction now.

I believe its important to help him open his eyes now so he doesn't quit wasting his time, money or life with a two timing tramp. Maybe they'll patch it up, but regardless, I think he has the right to know that hes not the only dick in that hole at night.

[TailgateNut]

My reaction to this would consist of telling the cheating biaotch to stay the **** away.
I have no room in my life for people who decide to look at the grass on the other side of the fence while still "grazing" in the home pasture.

It will be tough, and you will loose at least one friend in the process, if not both.

[Los Broncos]

Tough call, I would let it run it's course, she should be the one to tell him.

[loborugger]

What is it with modern American society where we think we need to interject ourselves into other's problem and 'fix them?' It's an F-in disaster... look at our foreign policy.

However, if you decide to over rule prudence and confront someone, you need to confront the wife. She needs to fix the problem she created.

On a sidenote, if she is hot and in her early/mid 30s, feel free to send her my way.

[ghwk]

Say doesn't that south carolina train wreck disaster dude owe us an update?

[Spider]

man up .......... tell him ........ no need to dance around the barn .........he will find out , and when he knows that you knew all long and didnt tell him ..... Just might end up kicking your ass , or at least trying .......

[orinjkrush]

depends on what you value most.
do unto others as you would have them do to you.

[Jay3]

Sing like a canary. Tell what you know.

It might be different if you spotted them somewhere and you could not be sure.

But she (the skank) TOLD it. She's running her mouth about it. Total disrespect. She cheats on him and tells his friends and neighbors. It's on. Matter of time.

[Jay3]

And also you forgot to tell whether the skank is hot.

[Rohirrim]

Call up that reality TV show that sends a camera crew after the cheating skank. Let them do the dirty deed.

[Meck77]

Why would you involve yourself in that mess? It's football season!

[Dukes]

Seriously, is this guy just numb or something? This chick goes out for hours at a time, DURING THE WEEK, and he has no problem with it? Does she have a lot of money? Does he have any self esteem? Does he even like his wife? All of these questions need to be answered.

And I'd stay the hell away from that mess.

[Garcia Bronco]

I'd confront the whore of the dude and tell her...either you tell him or I tell him, you cock sucking slob.

I have no patience for cheating spouses.

[oubronco]

Bro's before Ho's