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Sassy · 02-03-2007, 05:50 PM

I just spent a week with my friends' 10 and 14 year olds...kind of ticked that they didn't even offer to pay me. (Not that I wouldn't have helped them out anyway...just pissed that they didn't offer because they aren't the type to "not offer" ) For those of you with kids would you ever expect that of your friends..."free kid/housesitting" ? What do you think would be a fair amount to pay someone to watch your kids for that period of time?

ksBRONCOfan · 02-03-2007, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Sassy

I just spent a week with my friends' 10 and 14 year olds...kind of ticked that they didn't even offer to pay me. For those of you with kids would you ever expect that of your friends..."free kid/housesitting" ? What do you think would be a fair amount to pay someone to watch your kids for that period of time?

Wow! I'm not sure what would be a fair amount, but the fact that they didn't even offer would tick me off.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 05:53 PM

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Wow! I'm not sure what would be a fair amount, but the fact that they didn't even offer would tick me off.

Trust me. It did...and they can afford it...They were in Hawaii! It's not like they aren't great kids...but I was still responsible 24/7.

ksBRONCOfan · 02-03-2007, 05:57 PM

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Trust me. It did...and they can afford it...They were in Hawaii! It's not like they aren't great kids...but I was still responsible 24/7.

I would say $50 a day would be fare, unless you had to incur extra expenses.

Pendejo · 02-03-2007, 05:59 PM

From my perspective...when you help friends out you do it because you want to...not because you expect something out of it.

A thank you or a barley pop should be enough. Although if you had to spend money to feed the them that changes things.

Just give them the cold shoulder for awhile. That will even everything out.

(Edit: If you're really upset with them. The next time they ask you for help tell them to cram it with walnuts.)

cutthemdown · 02-03-2007, 06:01 PM

I guess it depends on the circumstances. What ever you think it's really worth minus a little because they are close friends I guess. I will say it's not worth being too upset about since like you said they are good kids and the couple are your friends. If you say something and the kids find out they may get the wrong impression that you didn't have fun with them. What a cool friend you are to put yourself out like that.

ksBRONCOfan · 02-03-2007, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Pendejo

From my perspective...when you help friends out you do it because you want to...not because you expect something out of it.

A thank you or a barley pop should be enough. Although if you had to spend money to feed the them that changes things.

Just give them the cold shoulder for awhile. That will even everything out.

True, but the fact that they did not offer anything would be upsetting. If I was in that situation I would want to offered something out of respect and I could decline.

snowspot66 · 02-03-2007, 06:05 PM

They may not have paid you but they do owe you and they know it. You've got yourself a big ol favor waitin in the wings now.

loborugger · 02-03-2007, 06:12 PM

I got 3 kids of a similar age. I dont ask someone to watch them without some kind of compensation, whether its $$$, I'll watch your kids, stay in the house and eat the food, whatever. Now we do have a family that we owe - they watch ours, we havent watched theirs - but they are muslim and I guess that is just something they dont do in their culture.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 06:18 PM

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True, but the fact that they did not offer anything would be upsetting. If I was in that situation I would want to offered something out of respect and I could decline.

That was my point...it's not like I wouldn't watch them...but it still is my time and gas. I'm pissed at the fact they didn't offer.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Pendejo

From my perspective...when you help friends out you do it because you want to...not because you expect something out of it.

A thank you or a barley pop should be enough. Although if you had to spend money to feed the them that changes things.

Just give them the cold shoulder for awhile. That will even everything out.

(Edit: If you're really upset with them. The next time they ask you for help tell them to cram it with walnuts.)

Do you have kids?

Pendejo · 02-03-2007, 06:27 PM

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Do you have kids?

What does that have to do with anything? Do you have kids?

More silliness coming from your direction. Instead of starting threads...why don't you address the issue with your friends. Tell them that it hurt your feelings that they didn't offer you a reward for doing them a favor...and be done with it. Make it clear that you've been snubbed.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 06:30 PM

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What does that have to do with anything? Do you have kids?

More silliness coming from your direction. Instead of starting threads...why don't you address the issue with your friends. Tell them that it hurt your feelings that they didn't offer you a reward for doing them a favor...and be done with it. Make it clear that you've been snubbed.

Just wondering...and No, I don't...but I would offer to pay anyone watching mine if I did.

Silliness? Whatever...there are more worthless topics started by others on this board...and I was just wondering what "parents" thought about paying for "childcare" so to speak. If you think I'm silly...ignore me.

Why is it that you're always trying to pick a fight with me, anyway?

heydensmom · 02-03-2007, 07:03 PM

I wouldn't give $$$ I would have and have in the past given gift cards to resturants and such.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 07:12 PM

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I wouldn't give $$$ I would have and have in the past given gift cards to resturants and such.

Seriously...for an entire week? Wow.
Quite a few years ago, I watched a couple of kids for just a weekend...Friday after work (they were at the same daycare) until Sunday afternoon and they paid me $200 plus left money for activities and stocked the freezer/fridge full of food.

heydensmom · 02-03-2007, 07:24 PM

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Seriously...for an entire week? Wow.
Quite a few years ago, I watched a couple of kids for just a weekend...Friday after work (they were at the same daycare) until Sunday afternoon and they paid me $200 plus left money for activities and stocked the freezer/fridge full of food.

humm yeah....if you say they are friends....friends to me do it not for $$$ but for the friendship, helping the friend. I would have left money, stocked the fridge etc, but I would have brought back things from Hawaii, and given you a couple gift cards.

OrangeShadow · 02-03-2007, 07:25 PM

A week is quite a while to be responsible for someone elses kids. I dont care how well they behave or dont behave whatever the case may be. The fact that they didnt even offer to pay would piss me off too.

coachmastermind · 02-03-2007, 07:25 PM

We either give a gift or offer $ when a friend watches our children for any length of time... gift for longer periods of time, and $ for evenings. Although we have friends that we swap kids with we still do this. We always pay for our kids expenses and/or have the fridge full and meals planned out while we're gone.

Just to give them a little bit of a break, if they did just get back from the trip, and after being away from their kids for a week, "compinsating" you might not have been the first thing on your mind. Maybe that picked you something up on the trip, and forgot to give it to you. Or as we've done sometimes, the wife thought that I paid the person, and I thought that she did. Give them a little time incase they forgot or it wasn't on their mind right away.

If they don't do anything, and it still bothers you. The next time you're asked... you're unfortunately busy.

BTW... $200 bucks for a weekend... wow! you made out good!

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 07:34 PM

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humm yeah....if you say they are friends....friends to me do it not for $$$ but for the friendship, helping the friend. I would have left money, stocked the fridge etc, but I would have brought back things from Hawaii, and given you a couple gift cards.

I have watched them overnight before...and done it for free...
I'm basically just venting because they didn't offer...
I actually wasn't there when they came home as they do leave the kids after school for a couple of hours by themselves...and I had to work. Their plane came in before I was done with work so I just called them to make sure their plane got in on time (They arrived around 5:00) and that I didn't need to go back over and fix supper.

rbackfactory80 · 02-03-2007, 07:34 PM

Rule one page one of the friendship hand manual says when taking care of friends kids for a week you at least make an offer. I would be upset. Its just common courtesy.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 07:37 PM

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Rule one page one of the friendship hand manual says when taking care of friends kids for a week you at least make an offer. I would be upset. Its just common courtesy.

Yep! I agree. That's the way I am. I guess I would have a check in one hand and a "souvenir" for that person in the other hand, along with a spoken Thank You! (BTW...I did get the "Thank You" over the phone).

coachmastermind · 02-03-2007, 07:45 PM

I don't mean this in a rude way... I just don't understand what you expected them to do for you on the phone?

Did you expect them on the phone then to say "we're sending you a check" or something. They will probably give you something the next time they actually see you face to face.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 07:54 PM

Yeah maybe. I don't know.
How hard is it to say what do we owe you or I'll send you a check...or we brought you something from our trip...
I just thought it was rude...and maybe they will still...I just needed to vent!

watermock · 02-03-2007, 07:55 PM

If they were in Hawaii hell yes they should of offered compensation. If it were a family emergency, sickness ect it might be different. It's terribly rude and offensive...at a minimum 200 dollars. Minimum. I imagine you had cooking duties as well.

I think your in child care allready, so you are also qualified. You could always refused, or accepted a smaller amount. But nothing?! Finally, your in the middle of a severe and dangerous cold snap. It's predicted -40 wind chill here tonight, and your even further north.

Sometimes people don't even know they are offensive...your up there freezing your ass off and they were in Hawaii.

Sassy · 02-03-2007, 07:57 PM

Yeah...I cooked. Went out of my way to get dog food...for a dog that hates me btw and drove the kids on my gas money. I also made sure the house was clean, the kids picked up the mail, the kids fed the dog and I did laundry and ran to the grocery store (which I didn't need to do) so they wouldn't have to do that when they got back. I also took the time to write them a letter about the week.

Not sure what the windchill has to do with it, Mock...but yeah, it's been bitter cold here for the last week. Last I heard -29 (-14 reg. temp) with the windchill today...before the sun went down.

02-03-2007, 05:50 PM	#1
Sassy Ring of Famer Join Date: May 2001 Location: ND Posts: 37,952 Adopt-a-Bronco: Eddie Royal	Just curious... I just spent a week with my friends' 10 and 14 year olds...kind of ticked that they didn't even offer to pay me. (Not that I wouldn't have helped them out anyway...just pissed that they didn't offer because they aren't the type to "not offer" ) For those of you with kids would you ever expect that of your friends..."free kid/housesitting" ? What do you think would be a fair amount to pay someone to watch your kids for that period of time?

02-03-2007, 07:57 PM	#25
Sassy Ring of Famer Join Date: May 2001 Location: ND Posts: 37,952 Adopt-a-Bronco: Eddie Royal	Yeah...I cooked. Went out of my way to get dog food...for a dog that hates me btw and drove the kids on my gas money. I also made sure the house was clean, the kids picked up the mail, the kids fed the dog and I did laundry and ran to the grocery store (which I didn't need to do) so they wouldn't have to do that when they got back. I also took the time to write them a letter about the week. Not sure what the windchill has to do with it, Mock...but yeah, it's been bitter cold here for the last week. Last I heard -29 (-14 reg. temp) with the windchill today...before the sun went down. Last edited by Sassy; 02-03-2007 at 08:02 PM..

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02-03-2007, 05:59 PM	#5
Pendejo The off-season. Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 2,945 Adopt-a-Bronco: "The Greek"	From my perspective...when you help friends out you do it because you want to...not because you expect something out of it. A thank you or a barley pop should be enough. Although if you had to spend money to feed the them that changes things. Just give them the cold shoulder for awhile. That will even everything out. (Edit: If you're really upset with them. The next time they ask you for help tell them to cram it with walnuts.)

02-03-2007, 06:01 PM	#6
cutthemdown A verbis ad verbera Zimm to HOF Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Long Beach Posts: 32,418	I guess it depends on the circumstances. What ever you think it's really worth minus a little because they are close friends I guess. I will say it's not worth being too upset about since like you said they are good kids and the couple are your friends. If you say something and the kids find out they may get the wrong impression that you didn't have fun with them. What a cool friend you are to put yourself out like that.

02-03-2007, 06:05 PM	#8
snowspot66 Ring of Famer Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 4,642	They may not have paid you but they do owe you and they know it. You've got yourself a big ol favor waitin in the wings now.

02-03-2007, 06:12 PM	#9
loborugger lost in the ether Did we finally get a FB??? Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The 'cuse Posts: 5,783 Adopt-a-Bronco: Peyton Hillis	I got 3 kids of a similar age. I dont ask someone to watch them without some kind of compensation, whether its $$$, I'll watch your kids, stay in the house and eat the food, whatever. Now we do have a family that we owe - they watch ours, we havent watched theirs - but they are muslim and I guess that is just something they dont do in their culture.

02-03-2007, 07:03 PM	#14
heydensmom I'm Jack Bauer! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 3,577	I wouldn't give $$$ I would have and have in the past given gift cards to resturants and such.

02-03-2007, 07:25 PM	#17
OrangeShadow armed and dangerous Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 6,771	A week is quite a while to be responsible for someone elses kids. I dont care how well they behave or dont behave whatever the case may be. The fact that they didnt even offer to pay would piss me off too.

02-03-2007, 07:25 PM	#18
coachmastermind Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 293	We either give a gift or offer $ when a friend watches our children for any length of time... gift for longer periods of time, and $ for evenings. Although we have friends that we swap kids with we still do this. We always pay for our kids expenses and/or have the fridge full and meals planned out while we're gone. Just to give them a little bit of a break, if they did just get back from the trip, and after being away from their kids for a week, "compinsating" you might not have been the first thing on your mind. Maybe that picked you something up on the trip, and forgot to give it to you. Or as we've done sometimes, the wife thought that I paid the person, and I thought that she did. Give them a little time incase they forgot or it wasn't on their mind right away. If they don't do anything, and it still bothers you. The next time you're asked... you're unfortunately busy. BTW... $200 bucks for a weekend... wow! you made out good!

02-03-2007, 07:34 PM	#20
rbackfactory80 Ring of Famer Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New York Posts: 4,606	Rule one page one of the friendship hand manual says when taking care of friends kids for a week you at least make an offer. I would be upset. Its just common courtesy.

02-03-2007, 07:45 PM	#22
coachmastermind Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 293	I don't mean this in a rude way... I just don't understand what you expected them to do for you on the phone? Did you expect them on the phone then to say "we're sending you a check" or something. They will probably give you something the next time they actually see you face to face.

02-03-2007, 07:54 PM	#23
Sassy Ring of Famer Join Date: May 2001 Location: ND Posts: 37,952 Adopt-a-Bronco: Eddie Royal	Yeah maybe. I don't know. How hard is it to say what do we owe you or I'll send you a check...or we brought you something from our trip... I just thought it was rude...and maybe they will still...I just needed to vent!

02-03-2007, 07:55 PM	#24
watermock "Hoodie Jr" "Hug me!" Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Hot Springs, Ouachitah Posts: 77,090	If they were in Hawaii hell yes they should of offered compensation. If it were a family emergency, sickness ect it might be different. It's terribly rude and offensive...at a minimum 200 dollars. Minimum. I imagine you had cooking duties as well. I think your in child care allready, so you are also qualified. You could always refused, or accepted a smaller amount. But nothing?! Finally, your in the middle of a severe and dangerous cold snap. It's predicted -40 wind chill here tonight, and your even further north. Sometimes people don't even know they are offensive...your up there freezing your ass off and they were in Hawaii.