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Old 04-27-2010, 10:25 AM   #1
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Okay, I'm in the process of making a decision in my life, and need some advice.

I am currently living in Texas, and I hate it here, only reason I moved here was to be near my family. However, there are family issues and I really want to move away.
First, let me say I got involved with a great woman, and we got engaged not too long ago. She moved here in Texas to be with me, but alas, she hates it here too. Now, I don't want to get in too many details, but she had a terrible childhood that caused her to have to drop out of high school, but is set on getting a GED to get into college. She is 22, and I am 25 with a Bachelor's in Accounting from University of Oklahoma. I have an okay job for a private company here, but could definitely get a better one with the economy picking up. She hasn't had a job because she continues to get hired at a place and either not like it, or the pay/hours are **** and no use working it for getting the price back to cover the gas.
Also, she has a 4 year old daughter, so makes it tougher.
Now, she comes from the East Coast, Myrtle Beach, SC. She is very easy-going, comfortable and I'll say "care-free". Most people over there are. Well, she tells me we can move to Myrtle Beach, cut our expenses down, she can easily get a job as a server, and she has contacts and a staffing agency that can get me a job in a month. Basically, become financially stable because we aren't here.
Now, my parents/family will be upset due to the fact that I am leaving a job, known income, to go someplace where there is no guarantee, and also have no money.

I know I'm leaving some stuff out, but basically, I want to hear what other people think of moving out there, which she wants to do in June, for what she feels is the right thing to do, and will make us stable and happy.
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This... no kids, no mortgage, not much to lose. Almost assuredly you wont do it when you are 45.
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Agreed. Nothing to do here but follow your heart. You parctically have nothing to lose at this age, and everything to gain.
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Agreed. Nothing to do here but follow your heart. You parctically have nothing to lose at this age, (DONT FORGET THIS PART) and everything to gain.
Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!

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"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.
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Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!






"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.
Yes much better to sit home and eat Cheerios.
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Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!






"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.

You learn more from a mistake than you do from a success.

But that does not mean you walk into a minefield with dick in hand picking daisies.

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You learn more from a mistake than you do from a success.

But that does not mean you walk into a minefield with dick in hand picking daisies.

Imagery for the win.
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Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!

Leykis 101 could have saved this guy. But he probably would not have listened to that advice. Is Leykis ever going to get back on the air?
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Leykis 101 could have saved this guy. But he probably would not have listened to that advice. Is Leykis ever going to get back on the air?

Tom Leykis returns over the Internet
The shock jock, who used to be on KLSX-FM, has brought his show back online with minimal staff and resources. This could be the future of radio.

July 01, 2012|By Steve Carney, Special to the Los Angeles Times

Tom Leykis, the shock jock sidelined for more than three years after his radio station dropped talk for pop music, is infamous for persuading women to lift their tops and for coaching men to spend as little money as possible on dates. Critics dubbed him a Neanderthal. Now he's being called a revolutionary.

Silenced by the changeover at KLSX-FM (97.1) in February 2009, Leykis has resurrected his show online with a shoestring operation that he believes can take on the radio conglomerates the latest in a cadre of stars staking out new territory for themselves.


"My job here is not to serve the corporate master. I am the corporation here," Leykis said while giving his "mission statement" on a recent show. "I reserve the right to talk about anything I find interesting."'

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After three years off the radio, Leykis has resumed his weekday show on the Internet, once considered merely the realm of amateurs and vanity programs. Now he's streaming his show free on http://www.BlowMeUpTom.com, a reference to the tradition of fans' requests that Leykis end their calls with recorded explosions, among other sound effects. He broadcasts live weekdays from 3 to 6 p.m., sometimes 7, with continuous repeats until the following day's new show.

The Internet show began April 2, and at the end of its first week, 401,180 listeners had tuned in for at least five minutes. The first month, fans tuned in from 102 countries England, El Salvador, Uganda, Australia, the Philippines and Mexico, among others.

"It's an example of how creative talent is adapting to a new reality," said Perry Michael Simon, news, talk and sports editor at the online radio-news journal AllAccess.com. "The number of outlets they've got on traditional media have shrunk. It's wise of anybody on the talent side to be entrepreneurial."

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Behind an anonymous storefront in Burbank, with printers and auto-repair shops for neighbors, Leykis broadcasts from a small studio, dark and spare, standing at a crescent-shaped desk and still wearing his trademark dark glasses in the dim lighting. His KLSX show also aired weekday afternoons, and many fans listened while driving home during rush hour not sitting in front of a computer. Is he simply missing out on that whole swath of his audience?

During a break, Leykis holds up an Android smartphone he'd been twirling in his hand.

"This," he said, "is a radio."

A few finger swipes, and he's turned on an application streaming radio stations and programs from around the world, with presets for his favorites like a car radio with a global reach. He presses an on-screen button, and the current episode of "The Tom Leykis Show" starts playing. Plug that into a dashboard, and it's as if he never left the airwaves.

"This is a cultural breakthrough," said Michael Harrison, publisher of Talkers magazine, the trade journal of the talk-radio industry. "You're on the same magic box that major corporations spend millions of dollars to broadcast through. That's a revolution."

And Simon noted that what listeners care about is the content coming out of their speakers, not whether it originated from a broadcast antenna on Mt. Wilson, a satellite overhead or a cellphone tower beaming an Internet stream.

"While the traditional media are shrinking, the opportunities to get your product out there have never been greater," Simon said.

In the short term, online audiences will run smaller than those for radio, he said, but in the long run "there's a much greater upside in terms of numbers."

Leykis is by no means the first radio refugee to take his program to the Internet. Almost immediately after their station switched formats in 2009, his former KLSX colleague Adam Carolla started offering a podcast that emulated his morning show. Among others, former Air America talk host Lionel and longtime Chicago radio personality Steve Dahl podcast regularly via their own websites.

With a podcast, listeners can go to a website or iTunes and download the latest show, then listen to it at their leisure. Likewise, the hosts can produce and post the shows whenever they want and aren't required to be in front of a microphone at a studio every weekday at 3 p.m. sharp.

Leykis' streaming model, on the other hand, better simulates the live radio experience for the audience, with the interaction of callers, host and subsequent callers reacting to earlier comments.

"He's basically offering a radio show without the antenna," Simon said. With podcasts, "there's a delay that takes the communal experience out of it."

Leykis' new show is much like his old one. He gives advice to mostly male callers who refer to him as "dad" on how to negotiate their world of conniving gold diggers, where nice guys finish last in the dating game. During his Thursday "Leykis 101" segments, the "professor" tells women "how men really think," and tells men how to get more women, without spending money on them. But he said part of his new autonomy is to explore other, non-relationship topics whether mocking Mike Huckabee's radio show or riffing on the anachronism of the phone book or the barbarism of the Kelly Thomas beating in Fullerton.

"Frankly, I don't think the average listener wants me to talk about the same thing all of the time," he said on-air one day. "I refuse to be a cartoon character."

Simon said it's too soon to tell whether one method will eventually win out with listeners, streaming or podcasting. Leykis is hedging his bets and also ensuring income by offering premium subscriptions for $99.99 a year, which includes on-demand access to all previous shows.

He's also selling merchandise and advertising on the air and on the website and has a dedicated link toAmazon.com, through which he gets a cut of anything purchased. He owns outright the computers, sound boards and other scant equipment he needs and works with only three other people executive producer Gary Zabransky, engineer Art Webb and screener Dean DeMilio, all of whom return from his KLSX show.

Leykis said he will have spent about $1 million to get the show up and running and expects to make a profit by the end of the first year more than some of the nation's biggest broadcasters can say about their bottom lines. He doesn't have the expense of an FCC license, transmitters or antennas or any debt from buying new stations.

For example, Clear Channel, which operates the nation's largest radio chain with 850 stations, had a profit of $330 million on revenue of $1.3 billion in the first quarter of this year but is saddled with nearly $20 billion in debt from a leveraged buyout in 2008.

"Now you've got these companies that are so over-leveraged," Leykis said, "they have turned the radio business into a bunch of scrap metal and homogenized formats."

KLSX had been the longtime home of Howard Stern until the "King of All Media" bolted for Sirius satellite radio in January 2006. KLSX then struggled until February 2009, when parent company CBS Radio flipped the station to the Top 40 "Amp 97.1" format it still broadcasts, which led to an immediate ratings jump.

"I didn't know what I wanted to do next," Leykis said, and for the rest of 2009 he "went to veg" on his 20-acre ranch in northern Santa Barbara County. His CBS contract paid him for three more years, so "I always had the option of not coming back. I could have stopped."

"It became apparent that anyone with a laptop and a cheap microphone was doing a podcast," he said, but few had his experience or following. He saw a chance to circumvent the traditional business model and "create a radio station without a transmitter."

He spent the next six months studying digital content, streams and podcasts. "I wanted to be one of the first to claim some of that beachfront property."

He used an e-mail list of 10,000 culled from his former show and 35,000 followers on Facebook and Twitter to spread the word about his return.

"It feels fabulous. I haven't worked this hard in 20 years," he said, keeping his hand in every aspect of the do-it-yourself radio station even standing in line at Burbank Water and Power with a deposit check, to get utilities turned on at the studio.

"I have no time to feel like a revolutionary," Leykis said, grinning. "Someone's got to go to Costco and get paper towels."
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Agreed. Nothing to do here but follow your heart. You parctically have nothing to lose at this age, and everything to gain.
Front page quote you wish you didn't say! So many right and wrong.

Nothing to lose? correct except your dignity, freedom, brain, money, etc. You gain a headache, parental responsibilities all alone, debt, etc.


Great advice their Dear Abby.

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Front page quote you wish you didn't say! So many right and wrong.

Nothing to lose? correct except your dignity, freedom, brain, money, etc. You gain a headache, parental responsibilities all alone, debt, etc.


Great advice their Dear Abby.
You can walk up to the edge of the Grand Canyon but that doesn't mean you have to keep walking over the edge. Trusting the gut and taking a plunge into a new adventure isn't always a bad thing. You just have to not be so naive as to keep digging deeper when you realize that it wasn't the right decision.

All that said, it was definitely more fun when the pile on happened. I won't deny that, at all.
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Oh so true. When I was 25, I went to St. Thomas for 3 years. The time to do it is when you are young.
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Honestly some of my best decisions in life have been diving head first into something completely unknown. If you have a partner who is the way you describe, this kind of move would likely improve your relationship even if there are some tough times initially.

Take the plunge, and don't live with regret for not doing something that could potentially be great, or out of fear of the unknown. IMO.
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I moved to Texas only knowing my first wife, her family was here, mine in Colorado. I've lived here since 1985 now!
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Personally, I wouldn't be able to just pick up and go without getting a job first. If you can, I would suggest looking for a job out there before moving. If you are lucky, you will find one that pays for the move as well. That would also make it so your family doesn't have to worry about you leaving your current job.
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Get a job before you move, not after.
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Then move.
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Why not take some time off, a week or so, and go down to South Carolina. See for yourself what it is or isn't. What your job opportunities might be, salaries, general cost of living things.

Get all the information. Think it over critically, taking her out of the situation.

What is best for you?
Will I be happier here or there?

Things change in a hurry, and if you are moving to make someone else happy it will not turn out well.
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Why not take some time off, a week or so, and go down to South Carolina. See for yourself what it is or isn't. What your job opportunities might be, salaries, general cost of living things.

Get all the information. Think it over critically, taking her out of the situation.

What is best for you?
Will I be happier here or there?

Things change in a hurry, and if you are moving to make someone else happy it will not turn out well.

This, first and foremost, and you're young enough to take some chances and recover completely if things don't work out as planned. Go for it. Life should be an adventure.
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Do you really want to take on this burden? Are you doing this for the girl or for you?

If you were to move I would secure a job before moving.
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How long have you been with the lady? I don't like the part about her not working...without knowing the whole story, it sounds like you might be being taken advantage of.
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