Originally Posted by Jason in LA
I'm not telling you what I think, I'm telling you what many men that I've spoken to have said. You don't know what men in general think because men aren't going to say those things to a woman. If you could bug a room where there are going to be only men, your jaw would drop over the things that are said. As a man I know what is said. I know what is the common view. And it's totally different from what women think it is.
Jason, do you
think that every man really means all that lockerroom talk? Guess what, when a group of guys are standing around banging their ***** on the table, talking trash about women, many men, especially younger men, are going to feel a certain amount of peer pressure to fit in with the group.
Here's a common thought process: "Man, these guys all talk about women like they're a bunch of cavemen. I think they're ignorant and sad, but I'm afraid they'll think I'm somehow inadequate or (gasp) queer if I don't act like I want to bang every woman I meet." At which point, the guy will chime in with some lewd comment or laugh loudly at whatever the most bitter men in the room are saying.
I'll give you credit in that you slander each sex about equally. Women are simply not interesting or engaging enough to be friends with unless there's the promise of potential nookie down the road. On the other hand, even if a man finds a woman worthy of friendship, he's simply too much of an animal to control his basest impulses. Even a born cynic about humanity like me knows better.