Originally Posted by RhymesayersDU
I figure I'd chime in on the topic...
Women... are an interesting breed. I should be bitter, but I'm not. I won't lie, I can't get enough of you gals. Right now, I'm in the exact opposite position as our good friend DenFan. He is avoiding a relationship at all costs, I'm tired of being single. Although, being single at a school full of hot girls (DU) does have its perks as well.
With that said, to the ladies who were offended at some of the men's comments, they aren't totally without merit. My sad story:
I dated a girl freshman year (2002-2003). My first serious relationship. Went home for summer break, we stayed together. Came back to Denver in September (Sophomore year - 2003-2004) to find her telling me she wanted to break up, and on top of that, she cheated on me with a good friend of mine. (ex good friend of mine, I should say) So, that year ends. Fast forward to last September, the start of my Junior year (2004-2005) at DU. I've got campus police after me because the b**** decided to claim that I had "sexually assaulted her" while we were dating, even though we were sexually active before and after the so-called "incident." It totally destroyed my fall quarter at DU. I had to get a lawyer, jump through all kinds of hoops, etc. Thank god DPD dropped the case. DU ended up dropping the case, since there was no evidence... mainly because it never happened, and she was a psychotic b****.
The point is, can you blame many men for feeling a lot of animosity towards women? Women can do whatever they please, whether it's falsly accusing men of things, using children as pawns in legal battles during divorces, or otherwise. I'm not saying it's all women, just like all men aren't deadbeat dads. But, reading through this, and going through an experience like I did, it's given me a totally new perspective on girls, and I can see where a lot of men are coming from on some issues.
With that said, I cannot wait to get back to Denver in late August. I need to get laid, and Albuquerque isn't treating me as well as DU gals do.
We're two peas in a pod.
I'm also tired of being single, but I'm not goign to settle down until I find someone significant, the ones I've been with have merely been sexual things and I didn't want it to go any farther than that.
The reason why I shy away from relationships, is because I am scared in a sense of one. I had a bad beat story like yours(minus the whole her being a psycho) that has made me afraid of committment, because I don't want to go down that path ever again.
I was with a chick for over a year and a half, then she broke up with me citing the whole "wrong time, we're young and want to experience other things" and all that other ****. So it was cool, but we stayed together "unofficially", like we were seeing each other(or friends with benefits situation technically, but more than jsut friends.) Then the summer hits, and while me and her are technically still together, my best friend gives me the ole backstab as he hooks up with her and next thing I know, I'm kicked to the curb while her and my best friend are seeing each other(former best friend now.) She also had a few other guys that summer as well, I didn't find out until the end of summer and I wasn't too happy about it. I wouldn't have been as amd if she was jsut honest with me, but she kept everything else a secret and kept me thinking that me and her were together.
Me and her are decent friends still, but no way do I think about getting with her ever again, along with just about every other woman.
So that is why I have become relationship afraid, and why I have held out for over 3 years of getting into a relationship because although I'm tired of being single, I'm looking for the right woman.
Or one that I can get her hooked on me before she knows better.