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Meck77
06-06-2012, 04:48 PM
she had a terrible childhood that caused her to have to drop out of high school,

Now, my parents/family will be upset due to the fact that I am leaving a job, known income, to go someplace where there is no guarantee, and also have no money.

I know I'm leaving some stuff out, but basically, I want to hear what other people think of moving out there, which she wants to do in June, for what she feels is the right thing to do, and will make us stable and happy.

We reap what we sow.....If true I'm sorry about the situation you are in but at the same time you explained the end in your very first post and didn't even realize it at the time. Sadly terrible childhoods usually result in creating more terrible childhoods.....

Now you'll be able to spot the Mack truck steaming towards your life much easier and be able to step out of the way.

TheReverend
06-06-2012, 05:10 PM
Now you'll be able to spot the Mack truck steaming towards your life much easier and be able to step out of the way.

The license on that truck read "KYLE" and it ****ed OPs world up

baja
06-06-2012, 05:18 PM
only read a little about this page one and then the last page..

how about, walk a mile in his moccasins before opening ones mouth..

This 10 times this.

24champ
06-06-2012, 05:21 PM
100% what i was thinking.



24champ- This is not an equal relationship (even though its over you still have to deal with her on some level so it is a relationship just not a loving one)- this relationship only has two things:
1-the dominant person
2-the biotch.

Dont be the b****, this is your lesson and time to learn. One of you two is going to be the b****, there is no way around it. It will happen. So if you are tired of feeling like this, and making excuses about how great it is being a young single dad is, then man the eff up and bring the hammer down on her. You've been the b**** the entire relationship she will not be expecting you to switch the roles on her and catch her by surprise. Be the man, be the one large and in charge for your daughter.


Wrong guy man. Cmon! :nono:

SonOfLe-loLang
06-06-2012, 05:27 PM
I'm so glad this story came back.

As I always say, we gotta fill up our time with something. You just chose a crazier path than most.

baja
06-06-2012, 05:35 PM
Okay guys, let me enlighten some of you. I won my court back in mid April, and immediately set up a case with the Attorney General for establishing child support referencing the court case number.
Just now there is an update that the Attorney General has been appointed to handle the payments for child support, all payments are paid to them, who then pay me. This is to keep an accurate record of all payments, and she can't claim she paid me cash and I accepted it. Only acceptable child support payments are done through them. Plus, if she's employed, it is supposed to be taken out of her paycheck automatically. From a source, I hear she's gotten fired from a recent job, and the other thing of note I found out, she's pregnant. lol

Now, with the child support, yes I'm entitled to it, but she's in another state, and actually has not been served with official court papers of the outcome of the custody battle. She knows I won, she knows she's supposed to pay child support. I don't want to pay the process server fees for getting her officially served, especially since I don't know her exact location. Add to it, if I went to the courts saying she isn't paying, they would need to be able to find out where she is to serve her that I'm going after her for the child support.
I'm honestly waiting to get all the child support stuff set up and processed, and then look at what I can do. The least of my concerns right now are forcing her to pay money because then I would actually have to have communication outside the family website I'm using, which she has yet to sign up for.

My advice forget the child support (that you will never get anyway) and focus on the tremendous responsibility of raising a child as a single parent.

You said she is pregnant, are you sure you are not the father.

Durango
06-06-2012, 05:36 PM
Why not take some time off, a week or so, and go down to South Carolina. See for yourself what it is or isn't. What your job opportunities might be, salaries, general cost of living things.

Get all the information. Think it over critically, taking her out of the situation.

What is best for you?
Will I be happier here or there?

Things change in a hurry, and if you are moving to make someone else happy it will not turn out well.


This, first and foremost, and you're young enough to take some chances and recover completely if things don't work out as planned. Go for it. Life should be an adventure.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-06-2012, 05:44 PM
Serving her with papers and establishing her deadbeat parent status will protect your custody rights. She won't be able to get custody later if she's behind on child support.

chadta
06-06-2012, 06:25 PM
My advice forget the child support (that you will never get anyway) and focus on the tremendous responsibility of raising a child as a single parent.

You said she is pregnant, are you sure you are not the father.

is he sure hes the father of the child hes got now ?

WolfpackGuy
06-06-2012, 06:26 PM
I'd get on the horn with Maury.

He'll straighten it out.

TheReverend
06-06-2012, 06:35 PM
is he sure hes the father of the child hes got now ?

Oh lawd!

In b4 he's raising Kyle's kid.

Turd_Ferguson
06-06-2012, 07:07 PM
Wow.. After 31 pages, I can't help but wonder if some day this child is going to end up telling some poor sucker the story of why she had to drop out of High School after her Mom dumped her in a Walmart parking lot and she went to go live with her Dad who she hadn't seen since her, Mom, Dad, and Kyle (the guy that was ****ing my Mom....No Dad knew he was just a bit of a pussy) all lived together, and then later Mom and Dad got back together and she had to drop out of school at that point to help pay for Kyle's new Camaro, because mom couldn't find a job that didn't annoy her....

For some reason this chick reminds me of Sharon Stones character in Casino...

Turd_Ferguson
06-06-2012, 07:20 PM
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vancejohnson82
06-06-2012, 07:56 PM
Oh lawd!

In b4 he's raising Kyle's kid.

not gonna lie.....kinda wanna drink some beers with Kyle...seems like a cool dude

lonestar
06-06-2012, 08:08 PM
Considering I have a beautiful daughter that means the world to me, I have a stable job gaining the precious experience, and no longer have to deal with her crazy ass, I feel it all has worked out.
I have been raising my daughter for almost 4 months on my own now. I caught her up on immunizations, enrolled her in a great daycare, ensure she has plenty of food, bathe her every night, lotion every night, make sure she is stocked up on clean clothes and diapers. Get her doctor visits if she's sick, spend pretty much all my free time playing/interacting with her. The moment she started to walk has been one of the happiest days of my life, it was amazing for me.

As for all the comments why I didn't beat up Kyle, etc. Well, who has a criminal record now? Not I, heck I've been told Kyle has had some trouble getting a decent job due to him having a criminal assault charge now. And if the former Mrs. ever wants to try to "win back" her kid(not likely able to anyways since she lost already), and if she is still with him, guess who gets to play "My child is not living in the household of a man convicted of family violence" card?

I will admit I chose things poorly, but if I broke up with her back then, I wouldn't have this beautiful daughter to raise.

Good to hear of the progress.. BUT take it from someone who has had/seen past situations like this.. Mothers almost never just walk away..

SOmeday she will get righteous and will show up on the doorstep most likely with lawyer in tow..

may not get full custody but enough to screw with your daughters mind..

Never ever bad mouth her mom in her presence or elsewhere, best thing to say is she is no longer around if asked about it.. DO not say she is dead, just you have no knowledge of where she is..

always take the high road if you can't say something nice (which I would never do ) say nothing..

Someday she will be asking about her be prepared..

lonestar
06-06-2012, 08:14 PM
Serving her with papers and establishing her deadbeat parent status will protect your custody rights. She won't be able to get custody later if she's behind on child support.

in todays litigious world nothing is safe.. find the right uber liberal Judge and he will be paying back child support because she did not..

even if she does not win it will cost money that could be spent on education..

lonestar
06-06-2012, 08:19 PM
I've processed it all, and its still in the "establishment" phase with the Attorney General's office here in Houston.
The court order that was signed stated child support was due to begin May 1st, Talking with my lawyer he said usually the courts won't do much unless the dollar amount gets in the thousands. I figure if she continues to be a b**** about things, and not pay, come next year I just might look at going to the courts and have them deal with it.

Just walk away, forget the money to keep her out of here life and hope to hell she never comes back after you for custodial issues....

a few dollars just is not worth the long-term hassle it could be..

lonestar
06-06-2012, 08:22 PM
You should. Paying for kids goes both ways, women should not get out of it. Don't worry so much about people making fun of you. If it's just in fun, little jabs no big deal, but when it gets personal I feel it says more about the person hurling the insult, then it does what happened to you.

The statement from attorney courts won't deal with it until its in the thousands sounds sort of fishy to me. I work in a law office part time and usually that means they are too busy to do it right now. Its ok though if the guy a good lawyer it doesn't mean much other then he is busy and will say what he needs to say to clients. Sometimes outright ignore them because answering the phone is a billable thing etc etc. Then you could also start a facebook page about how she is a deadbeat mom, send invites to everyone you know that knows her. Worked well for a person I know in CA except they did it through twitter.

Not all that sure, but it could be considered slander..

Dukes
06-06-2012, 08:29 PM
This thread is the gift that keeps on giving.

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c80/nvrsumr/14163-13444.gif

DBroncos4life
06-06-2012, 08:48 PM
not gonna lie.....kinda wanna drink some beers with Kyle...seems like a cool dude

I'm sure he could use a roommate.

vancejohnson82
06-06-2012, 08:54 PM
I'm sure he could use a roommate.

if he needs help with rent, I've got him covered....I've also got a girlfriend he could impregnate

TheReverend
06-06-2012, 08:55 PM
if he needs help with rent, I've got him covered....I've also got a girlfriend he could impregnate

No need. Clearly OP will pay his rent.

DBroncos4life
06-06-2012, 08:59 PM
if he needs help with rent, I've got him covered....I've also got a girlfriend he could impregnate

I see swinging in your future!!

broncswin
06-06-2012, 09:16 PM
Wrong guy man. Cmon! :nono:

LMAO...that is just wrong right there...Hilarious!

Natedogg
06-06-2012, 09:21 PM
Wrong guy man. Cmon! :nono:

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

baja
06-06-2012, 09:24 PM
Very interesting thread on many levels.

Welcome to a world where a dude kind enough to give a deadbeat a place to live, who than, as a thank you, bonks the skank wife of said kind dude then proceeds to beats up kind dude when asked to pay rent is the hero of the story.

skank wife is scum that gave away her child like it was an old sofa.

kyle is a piece of shiit that will live in a guys house, except help in job hunting while screwing the guys wife on the sly.

bronco boy is a timid guy that got mixed up with the wrong people.


which of the three is the hero - here at the OM so far we have 3 votes for Kyle.

ghwk
06-06-2012, 09:28 PM
Wow.. After 31 pages, I can't help but wonder if some day this child is going to end up telling some poor sucker the story of why she had to drop out of High School after her Mom dumped her in a Walmart parking lot and she went to go live with her Dad who she hadn't seen since her, Mom, Dad, and Kyle (the guy that was ****ing my Mom....No Dad knew he was just a bit of a p***Y) all lived together, and then later Mom and Dad got back together and she had to drop out of school at that point to help pay for Kyle's new Camaro, because mom couldn't find a job that didn't annoy her....

For some reason this chick reminds me of Sharon Stones character in Casino...

Or else she'll rob some girl scouts because, you know, who doesn't like money, while giving interviews to the press while holding a Starbucks. Hilarious!

ghwk
06-06-2012, 09:32 PM
Man you have me beat. I only had some jealous ex trying to kill me when I was your age.

GreatBronco16
06-06-2012, 09:36 PM
OMG, how I missed this thread 2 years ago is beyond me. This thread is pure gold.

Rev..............well, your first post is the very thing I was thinking after I read the OP.


And Kyle??? Dude, he just might be your baby daddy. Might want to get the test done and find out. Still can't believe you didn't kick his ass with the phone you went to grab.


Final, if this is not a true story of your past two years of life, well, I hope your friend Kyle comes back to beat your ass again.:giggle:

colorado jones
06-06-2012, 09:36 PM
No you won't.

You're her b****.

...As you've exhibited throughout the ENTIRETY of this thread.

He sits down to pee.


Why someone would come to the Internet to tell this story is beyond me.

GreatBronco16
06-06-2012, 09:38 PM
which of the three is the hero - here at the OM so far we have 3 votes for Kyle.


Sounds like someone should start a pole about this.

GreatBronco16
06-06-2012, 09:38 PM
He sits down to pee.


Why someone would come to the Internet to tell this story is beyond me.

Read the story again and you'll know just why.

colorado jones
06-06-2012, 09:42 PM
Read the story again and you'll know just why.

Oh, I read it.

Twice.

baja
06-06-2012, 09:55 PM
Screw up your own life all you want, but don't have a kid with crazy. There are now two kids out there that don't have a chance IMO. Clearly, the kid she had with whomever before they met is doomed. And if half the stuff he posted here is true, his is as well.

Kid could grow up to be president for all you know, besides it'e really hard to but them kids back in after they come out.

vancejohnson82
06-06-2012, 10:00 PM
Kid could grow up to be president for all you know, besides it'e really hard to but them kids back in after they come out.

a woman president who grows up in Texas??? not sure about that

baja
06-06-2012, 10:09 PM
a woman president who grows up in Texas??? not sure about that

Why not we got an idiot from Texas for two terms.

baja
06-06-2012, 10:25 PM
The license on that truck read "KYLE" and it ****ed OPs world up

clearly projecting

rev = kyle

McDman
06-06-2012, 10:45 PM
So in December, I'm trying to help this guy get work at the manufacturing company I work at. No go.
Christmas comes, it was a good Christmas for me, my family came over, we all got along, it was fun. Then, around 4-5 when my family starts to leave, the Mrs. pulls me aside and says that Kyle, the new guy, is homesick and sad, and she's going to go take him to the bar.
A few hours pass by, she comes home drunk, I'm upset that she went drinking on Christmas with some other guy. She thought I was being too controlling of her.
Next day, we have some gift cards/XMas money, I wanted to go shopping. She doesn't wake up til about 3 in the afternoon. I again stress that this is a family time, we should be having fun as a family. She thinks I'm overreacting and being controlling.


Fast forward to December 30th, when she pulls me aside, and says I'm changing, and she doesn't like the man I'm changing into, and we should break up, she needs some time to think, take a break, etc.

Well, 2 days later, I confront her about her sleeping with Kyle, and she admits to doing it that day(the 1st). I'm not a happy camper, and almost threw him out of the house. Looking back, probably should have, but the now former Mrs. threatened to leave, with the kids, with him. I just was overwhelmed and didn't know what to do at the time.

WAIT! She slept with him and you ALMOST threw him out?

Good God, man.

McDman
06-06-2012, 11:00 PM
On a serious note, do you know if the kid is 100% yours?

I can understand being burned by a girl, we've all been there, but how can you possibly have lived with a guy after knowing he just banged your girlfriend?

This may be the Mane's biggest hoax of all time. I don't know one person who would actually do that.

Shananahan
06-06-2012, 11:19 PM
Opened this thread for the first time this afternoon and just now skimmed through enough of it to be caught up and familiar with the story.

I don't believe any of it.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-06-2012, 11:43 PM
Opened this thread for the first time this afternoon and just now skimmed through enough of it to be caught up and familiar with the story.

I don't believe any of it.

There are people who are truly addicted to turmoil and will enable all kinds of ridiculous shiat at their own expense. I don't understand it one bit... but I'm no longer amazed at how incredibly predictable results like are allowed to happen. My wife and I are watching two comparably retarded scenarios in both of our families. You can predict the end result... try to intervene... demand to intervene... beg to intervene... and yet the result is as predictable as the rising sun.

That One Guy
06-07-2012, 12:52 AM
While this thread was fun to pour on, I think the OPs problem was simply not knowing when to say enough. Inviting someone into your house and then they get friendly with your wife? That's iffy... but letting them stay after they bent her over your table? The line probably should've been drawn.

I've got some footprints on my back where I've been stepped on but I can assure you, each set is a different person and each foot is only gonna be there once or twice. OP just made the mistake in letting them continually walk on him.

Oh, and Baja is getting worse by the day. It may be about time to put the old geezer out to pasture. He's practically having a conversation with himself in this thread.

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 01:58 AM
Thread starts: 25 years old, single but engaged, good job, living on his own.

Thread ends: 27 years old, single after fiancee cheats on him with live in roommate, same job?, living with his parents with a baby that mommy wants no part of, in middle of custody battle and other potential litigation as a result of getting beat up in front of said kid by the live in......and he also now has a record with Child Protective Services courtesy of his step daughter at the time.

And yet someone thinks "it all worked out for him"........only on the Mane.

This was the recipe for disaster and so many of us told him this **** (in some form) would happen. I think the only part I missed out on was the allowing of a pure **** by the wife's friend and she thinking it would be best for him to stick around and not pay rent. Somehow I should have saw that one coming. Next time.

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 02:11 AM
On a serious note, do you know if the kid is 100% yours?

I can understand being burned by a girl, we've all been there, but how can you possibly have lived with a guy after knowing he just banged your girlfriend?

This may be the Mane's biggest hoax of all time. I don't know one person who would actually do that.

Dude,

the polygraph test will be in 2 years and we will be updated. Here is how it will go...

Toddler got sick and wanted to do some genetic testing. Finds out baby is not his buy Kyle's. Loves kid too much to do anything about it. Baby will be fine but needs serious medication every month that costs $2k a month. Since baby is not genetically his, he has to fight with health insurance to get covered. Mom, since he is not biological father, won't sign over adoption papers until he pays her $10k in hush money. He know is in massive debt and is living in a halfway house. More juice when he meets up with a lady that has triplets with autism and decide to move in together to start a new life and save money on rent....on a 2 bedroom, 1 bath home.

Also, make sure you go after the Ex for child support. My brother took custody of his daughter when his EX decided to stay back in NORTH Carolina after his term in the Air Force. Well, 2 years later, she came crawling back to California wanting 50% of the custody after bailing on her daughter for that same time. Luckily he won and she has visitation rights but if you don't show that she is a total loser, it could bite you in the ass in a few years.

Archer81
06-07-2012, 02:24 AM
I have read through this thread every time it gets bumped. Seeing the pitfalls that befell mcfoneco/champ. Moving to a strange state, leaving a solid job in a **** economy, raising someone else's daughter. Marrying the hideous bandersnatch. Letting strangers move into your house when you have a newborn. Finding out one of the strangers painted the back of your wife's uterus, letting said uterine painter live in the same house with you for over a month, getting beat like a rented mule in front of the stepdaughter, running to a phone (seriously man, even gay dudes would throw a punch in that situation) and finally ending up with custody of your (maybe) daughter.

I thank God ever day I am a fag. Seriously.

:Broncos:

Stuck in Cali
06-07-2012, 02:25 AM
Well in some ways this happened to a friend of mine almost 20yrs ago. Instead of the wife's lover living with them she was cheating behind his back. She thought she would get custody of the two very young at the time kids. But my buddy proved she was crazy bitch from Hell, awarded him custody and made her pay child support.

Best thing is, this was the best thing for the kids, mom just wanted to be free to do what she wanted. Father stepped up and raised two amazing children.

So if the story of the op is true, the child could still have an amazing life.

I know its not that similar, story just reminded me of things my friend went through.

Willynowei
06-07-2012, 03:13 AM
Wow. I was bored today, waiting for my new gig in China to start next week, so popped on the mane and actually read this whole ****ing thread.

OP, you are a ****ing retard, and even worse, you are a wimp.

You talk about how it was smart or the right decision to allow a man who ****ed your wife to live with you for a month, how he's ended up worse than you.

But all it says to me is you have no pride, no manhood.

1.) You allowed her to jerk you halfway across the country at the expense of your job.
2.) You showed her your advice thread on an internet website because you can't make a ****ing decision for yourself.
3.) You allowed her to mold your thoughts and turn you against the people you asked for advice from, in fact, whats worse, you allow her to turn you against your blood, your family!
4.) You probably were convinced to have a kid with her.
5.) You allow her to decide who moves into your house, paid for with your money, and I don't believe for a minute she doesn't regularly get drunk and go out in reckless fashion, so Kyle probably wasn't the first guy she cheated on you with. And you probably suspected this!
6.) You then let the guy who ****ed your wife in your house to live with you for a month. Citing how good it all turned out....

Look at yourself! Its like you were neutered at birth! Honestly? Its rarely a good idea, but beating the **** out of Kyle would actually show me you have some fight in you, that you can ****ing stand up for yourself and be a ****ing man.

Get some ****ing pride, then maybe you will get a woman that actually respects you, who can help you not **** up the one thing in your life that's worth anything - your child. Its that simple, am I being articulate? no. You don't deserve a nice, or articulate answer, you need to fully grasp how much you've already ****ed things up, how you've put your daughter into a tough situation, how much worse things could've been, and how hard it is for you to now take care of the little girl by yourself.

God I'm so sick of you. You deserve everything you got, only person i have any sympathy for in this entire thread is the Daughter, lord help her, she's got a psycho mom and ****ing retarded chimp as a father, who i sincerely hope can change into a real man in time to raise her.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 06:29 AM
Kid could grow up to be president for all you know,

Let's not get carried away. Vegas odds on that? 100 billion:1. and that's being generous.

Queue Jim Carrey "so you're saying there's a chance" clip

alkemical
06-07-2012, 06:34 AM
There are people who are truly addicted to turmoil and will enable all kinds of ridiculous shiat at their own expense. I don't understand it one bit... but I'm no longer amazed at how incredibly predictable results like are allowed to happen. My wife and I are watching two comparably retarded scenarios in both of our families. You can predict the end result... try to intervene... demand to intervene... beg to intervene... and yet the result is as predictable as the rising sun.

Agree - had a relative get mixed up and make bad decisions - everything's working it self out now - but sheesh - sometimes dumb is dumb and the best thing you can do is hope they get smart sooner than later.

TheChamp24
06-07-2012, 06:40 AM
Oh how I love some of these responses, basically condemning my daughter already because I'm apparently not a suitable father for her by some folks on here.

As for my daughter, yes she is mine. She was conceived November 2010. Kyle entered the picture December 2011.

Also, if my ex is pregnant, it is not mine. Last time we did it was December 2011, and she wasn't pregnant last time I saw her in February.

I'm not worried about fighting, and throwing money, for forcing her to pay child support at the moment. What is crazy is she actually told me she plans on re-filing for custody, at which point she says she will win because the mother always wins. I'm sure the judge will award her custody after she already abandoned her child, and never put up a fight for her.

And by the way, I did stand up and was a man, I stood up for the one thing important in my life, my daughter, and ensured I would always be in her life, every day, shaping her to be a wonderful person.

I guess people think I should've duked it out with Kyle, nothing got resolved, and me potentially losing my daughter because I would now be deemed a violent person who isn't suitable for raising a child. People, you need to really think things through and sometimes, you gotta take one for the team to come out ahead.

I'm happy now raising my daughter, the best part of my day is when I go to pick her up from daycare and see the excited look on her face when I walk in the door. Let me tell you, NOTHING tops that.

Miss I.
06-07-2012, 07:04 AM
genuinely glad you're happy being a dad. I imagine that is what your demented ex was counting on, your chivalry and love of kids.

However you need to face the possibility that beautiful girl is not your kid and I say this not to be cruel but to be prepared. Your ex is clearly an unstable wackadoodle b**** who puts herself first and sluts around like a stray cat in heat. Therefore there is some probability she has cheated on you more than with King Neckbeard. Given this history and her history of being a horrible horrible person, she is going to try to take that kid back. At that point she may play the kid really isn't your kid card. Rather then ending up on Jerry Springer, take the lead and get the DNA test yourself. when it comes back as your kid then she can't play that kid and you have info you got, not that she made up. IF the kid is not yours then its better you find out now and not have b****y mcb**** spring it on you. It would suck, but better to deal with it now.

McDman
06-07-2012, 07:04 AM
If she cheated on you once there is a good chance she did it multiple times. I'm pretty sure paternity tests are fairly cheap.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 07:06 AM
As for my daughter, yes she is mine. She was conceived November 2010. Kyle entered the picture December 2011.


The male population of the world apparently just went down from a few billion to 2.

Miss I.
06-07-2012, 07:08 AM
The male population of the world apparently just went down from a few billion to 2.

hey, so what are the guys on here then? are you guys really chicks? Dang...that blows....my mind...;D

also if those two are the only male choices, um...this will not end well.

That One Guy
06-07-2012, 07:10 AM
Oh how I love some of these responses, basically condemning my daughter already because I'm apparently not a suitable father for her by some folks on here.


It's possible things will get better and she'll turn out normal but I don't know many normal people that didn't come from a stable upbringing. For the duration of this thread, it sure seems like that's not quite been your situation. You can't discount the benefits of a stable household.

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 07:13 AM
As for my daughter, yes she is mine. She was conceived November 2010. Kyle entered the picture December 2011.


Trust me, your ex was screwing around on you with more than just the guy who kicked your ass in your own home after having been screwing your said ex.

You haven't taken one piece of advice that you just had to have since the beginning of this thread, and I highly doubt you would start now, BUT, GET A DNA TEST DONE. Don't wait another min.

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 07:15 AM
If she cheated on you once there is a good chance she did it multiple times. I'm pretty sure paternity tests are fairly cheap.

If it comes back that he is not the father, the state can make the mother be the one to foot the bill. Normally, you don't pay till after the results.

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 07:17 AM
If it comes back that he is not the father, the state can make the mother be the one to foot the bill. Normally, you don't pay till after the results.

But what if she gets mad? He'll probably end up taking care of her anyway because she might get mad at him.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 07:18 AM
If she cheated on you once there is a good chance she did it multiple times. I'm pretty sure paternity tests are fairly cheap.

At this point he is the kid's father in a legal sense regardless of biological paternity.

alkemical
06-07-2012, 07:18 AM
But what if she gets mad? He'll probably end up taking care of her anyway because she might get mad at him.

Cuckold.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 07:19 AM
If it comes back that he is not the father, the state can make the mother be the one to foot the bill. Normally, you don't pay till after the results.

Good luck with that.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 07:21 AM
At this point he is the kid's father in a legal sense regardless of biological paternity.

According to this thread, he already has a record with Child Protective Services where the wife and kid were removed from the household once. If it turns out she's not his, he won't have a choice. That kid will be sent away.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 07:22 AM
Oh how I love some of these responses, basically condemning my daughter already because I'm apparently not a suitable father for her by some folks on here.

As for my daughter, yes she is mine. She was conceived November 2010. Kyle entered the picture December 2011.

Also, if my ex is pregnant, it is not mine. Last time we did it was December 2011, and she wasn't pregnant last time I saw her in February.

I'm not worried about fighting, and throwing money, for forcing her to pay child support at the moment. What is crazy is she actually told me she plans on re-filing for custody, at which point she says she will win because the mother always wins. I'm sure the judge will award her custody after she already abandoned her child, and never put up a fight for her.

And by the way, I did stand up and was a man, I stood up for the one thing important in my life, my daughter, and ensured I would always be in her life, every day, shaping her to be a wonderful person.

I guess people think I should've duked it out with Kyle, nothing got resolved, and me potentially losing my daughter because I would now be deemed a violent person who isn't suitable for raising a child. People, you need to really think things through and sometimes, you gotta take one for the team to come out ahead.

I'm happy now raising my daughter, the best part of my day is when I go to pick her up from daycare and see the excited look on her face when I walk in the door. Let me tell you, NOTHING tops that.

Press her for child support. Not for the money, but to protect your custody rights. She cannot get even split custody if she is behind on child support.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 07:25 AM
Agree - had a relative get mixed up and make bad decisions - everything's working it self out now - but sheesh - sometimes dumb is dumb and the best thing you can do is hope they get smart sooner than later.

It goes beyond dumb. Codependency is an addiction.

alkemical
06-07-2012, 07:28 AM
It goes beyond dumb. Codependency is an addiction.

Oh I know, i had front row seats. I don't understand why there are so many "broken" people, or why people get so marred by things. You can almost see the breaks/watermarks/scars in people.

TheReverend
06-07-2012, 07:32 AM
Oh how I love some of these responses, basically condemning my daughter already because I'm apparently not a suitable father for her by some folks on here.

You're totally right.

What could possibly be leading people to question your judgment?

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 07:32 AM
It goes beyond dumb. Codependency is an addiction.

Sadly yes.

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 07:34 AM
Good luck with that.

Well if that was to happen, it wouldn't be his problem to get the money from her, it would be the states problem.:)

baja
06-07-2012, 07:56 AM
Dude,

the polygraph test will be in 2 years and we will be updated. Here is how it will go...

Toddler got sick and wanted to do some genetic testing. Finds out baby is not his buy Kyle's. Loves kid too much to do anything about it. Baby will be fine but needs serious medication every month that costs $2k a month. Since baby is not genetically his, he has to fight with health insurance to get covered. Mom, since he is not biological father, won't sign over adoption papers until he pays her $10k in hush money. He know is in massive debt and is living in a halfway house. More juice when he meets up with a lady that has triplets with autism and decide to move in together to start a new life and save money on rent....on a 2 bedroom, 1 bath home.

Also, make sure you go after the Ex for child support. My brother took custody of his daughter when his EX decided to stay back in NORTH Carolina after his term in the Air Force. Well, 2 years later, she came crawling back to California wanting 50% of the custody after bailing on her daughter for that same time. Luckily he won and she has visitation rights but if you don't show that she is a total loser, it could bite you in the ass in a few years.

My advise to Champ24;

Leave this message board and do no look back, there is nothing here of you. Go have a life with your daughter who will need you so very much. Good luck to you.

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 08:04 AM
My advise to Champ24;

Leave this message board and do no look back, there is nothing here of you. Go have a life with your daughter who will need you so very much. Good luck to you.

If had taken the advice here, he wouldn't be in this mess. And before you say "well he has a beautiful daughter now" she probably is adorable and brings him a lot of joy, but she might not even be his child.

baja
06-07-2012, 08:08 AM
If had taken the advice here, he wouldn't be in this mess. And before you say "well he has a beautiful daughter now" she probably is adorable and brings him a lot of joy, but she might not even be his child.


Yes and he needs to hear this from you idiots?

Champ24 you love your daughter that is all you need to know. If your story is true get off the board and get on with your life. Your daughter needs a father and you are it regardless.

55CrushEm
06-07-2012, 08:09 AM
The male population of the world apparently just went down from a few billion to 2.

:spit:

Pony Boy
06-07-2012, 08:12 AM
genuinely glad your happy being a dad. I imagine that is what your demented ex was counting on, your chivalry and love of kids.

However you need to face the possibility that beautiful girl is not your kid and I say this not to be cruel but to be prepared. Your ex is clearly an unstable wackadoodle b**** who puts herself first and sluts around like a stray cat in heat. Therefore there is some probability she has cheated on you more than with King Neckbeard. Given this history and her history of being a horrible horrible person, she is going to try to take that kid back. At that point she may play the kid really isn't your kid card. Rather then ending up on Jerry Springer, take the lead and get the DNA test yourself. when it comes back as your kid then she can't play that kid and you have info you got, not that she made up. IF the kid is not yours then its better you find out now and not have b****y mcb**** spring it on you. It would suck, but better to deal with it now.

I vote for Jerry Springer

Turd_Ferguson
06-07-2012, 08:17 AM
Trust me, your ex was screwing around on you with more than just the guy who kicked your ass in your own home after having been screwing your said ex.

You haven't taken one piece of advice that you just had to have since the beginning of this thread, and I highly doubt you would start now, BUT, GET A DNA TEST DONE. Don't wait another min.

But he already signed a napkin in a Walmart parking lot saying he was taking the kid...

vancejohnson82
06-07-2012, 08:43 AM
also, if Kyle attacked you in your own home you have the right to protect yourself....you didn't need to eat an ass whooping ...just sayin

is there a moral to this story that someone can cleanly wrap up for me?

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 08:45 AM
also, if Kyle attacked you in your own home you have the right to protect yourself....you didn't need to eat an ass whooping ...just sayin

is there a moral to this story that someone can cleanly wrap up for me?

Yeah. Don't stick your dick in crazy.

Sounds like a bunch of us have learned this lesson the hard way.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 08:48 AM
also, if Kyle attacked you in your own home you have the right to protect yourself....you didn't need to eat an ass whooping ...just sayin

is there a moral to this story that someone can cleanly wrap up for me?

There is no limit to OP's desire to be someone's doormat.

vancejohnson82
06-07-2012, 08:51 AM
It's like one of those DirecTV commercials:

"When you order cable, you don't get your wife's favorite channels. When she doesnt get her favorite channels she goes out and gets drunk with a guy named Kyle. When she gets drunk with a guy name Kyle, Kyle spends all of his money. When Kyle spends all of his money he can't pay you for rent. When Kyle can't pay you for rent he bashes your face in with your own phone.

Don't let a guy name Kyle bash your face in with your own phone. Call DirecTV"

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 08:56 AM
Serious question, Champ: what does your father think about all of this?

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 08:59 AM
Serious question, Champ: what does your father think about all of this?

Don't go there. Even though it's a legit question, he threatened to have someone banned the last time someone brought his dad into this.

baja
06-07-2012, 09:01 AM
also, if Kyle attacked you in your own home you have the right to protect yourself....you didn't need to eat an ass whooping ...just sayin

is there a moral to this story that someone can cleanly wrap up for me?


Yes! Do not take highly personal real life issues to a football message board.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 09:02 AM
It's like one of those DirecTV commercials:

"When you order cable, you don't get your wife's favorite channels. When she doesnt get her favorite channels she goes out and gets drunk with a guy named Kyle. When she gets drunk with a guy name Kyle, Kyle spends all of his money. When Kyle spends all of his money he can't pay you for rent. When Kyle can't pay you for rent he bashes your face in with your own phone.

Don't let a guy name Kyle bash your face in with your own phone. Call DirecTV"

If this doesn't make you laugh uncontrollably, you're not alive.

baja
06-07-2012, 09:03 AM
Serious question, Champ: what does your father think about all of this?

That is a good question but I suggest seek his advice but do not post it here.

theAPAOps5
06-07-2012, 09:05 AM
Dude you let a guy dipping his stick in your honey pot kick your ass in your own home without even defending yourself. There is an easy solution to all this. Grow a pair. It is the lack of said pair that got you into this with the chick to start. Ironically, the lack of a pair that led her to seek a pair elsewhere. And a lack of said pair that let you take an ass kicking from a guy banging your crazy.

Which leads me to believe that a DNA test needs tk be done seriously fast. Evidence is mounting.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 09:07 AM
Don't go there. Even though it's a legit question, he threatened to have someone banned the last time someone brought his dad into this.

In truth it's a rhetorical question.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 09:21 AM
It's like one of those DirecTV commercials:

"When you order cable, you don't get your wife's favorite channels. When she doesnt get her favorite channels she goes out and gets drunk with a guy named Kyle. When she gets drunk with a guy name Kyle, Kyle spends all of his money. When Kyle spends all of his money he can't pay you for rent. When Kyle can't pay you for rent he bashes your face in with your own phone.

Don't let a guy name Kyle bash your face in with your own phone. Call DirecTV"

Kyle sounds like the kind of guy that, when there is a problem with the cable TV... He fixes the cable?

JLesSPE
06-07-2012, 09:23 AM
Kyle sounds like the kind of guy that, when there is a problem with the cable TV... He fixes the cable?

while kickin your ass and bangin the crazy...come to think of it if he's got all this going on at once no wonder he has no time for a job to pay rent.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 09:26 AM
while kickin your ass and bangin the crazy...come to think of it if he's got all this going on at once no wonder he has no time for a job to pay rent.

He treats objects like women, man...

vancejohnson82
06-07-2012, 09:26 AM
Kyle sounds like the kind of guy that, when there is a problem with the cable TV... He fixes the cable?

Kyle is the type of guy that stands in the kitchen and drinks milk straight out of the carton butt naked....then tells you to pick some up on your way back from work

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 09:28 AM
Kyle is the type of guy that stands in the kitchen and drinks milk straight out of the carton butt naked....then tells you to pick some up on your way back from work

Oh I know that guy... He's a nihilist.

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 09:42 AM
Oh I know that guy... He's a nihilist.

I wonder if Kyle wears glasses...
http://www.alixspence.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/The-Big-Lebowski_Busby_Peter-Stormare_hood.bmp1_.jpeg

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 09:43 AM
I wonder if Kyle wears glasses...
http://www.alixspence.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/The-Big-Lebowski_Busby_Peter-Stormare_hood.bmp1_.jpeg

Oh, nice marmot...

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 09:49 AM
Oh I know that guy... He's a nihilist.

That must be exhausting.

24champ
06-07-2012, 09:54 AM
Yeah. Don't stick your dick in crazy.



You can stick your dick in crazy....just wear a jimhat FFS.

Rabb
06-07-2012, 09:55 AM
You can stick your dick in crazy....just wear a jimhat FFS.

Good logic overall, but false sorry.

Do not stick your dick in crazy, bottom line.

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 09:58 AM
I vote for Jerry Springer

Irish sunglasses.

55CrushEm
06-07-2012, 10:06 AM
It's like one of those DirecTV commercials:

"When you order cable, you don't get your wife's favorite channels. When she doesnt get her favorite channels she goes out and gets drunk with a guy named Kyle. When she gets drunk with a guy name Kyle, Kyle spends all of his money. When Kyle spends all of his money he can't pay you for rent. When Kyle can't pay you for rent he bashes your face in with your own phone.

Don't let a guy name Kyle bash your face in with your own phone. Call DirecTV"

:spit:

55CrushEm
06-07-2012, 10:08 AM
Dude you let a guy dipping his stick in your honey pot kick your ass in your own home without even defending yourself. There is an easy solution to all this. Grow a pair. It is the lack of said pair that got you into this with the chick to start. Ironically, the lack of a pair that led her to seek a pair elsewhere. And a lack of said pair that let you take an ass kicking from a guy banging your crazy.

Which leads me to believe that a DNA test needs tk be done seriously fast. Evidence is mounting.

To determine if OP is a man or a woman ??

Pony Boy
06-07-2012, 10:09 AM
Kyle is the type of guy that stands in the kitchen and drinks milk straight out of the carton butt naked....then tells you to pick some up on your way back from work

I wonder if Kyle can play nose tackle ........

TheReverend
06-07-2012, 10:11 AM
Good logic overall, but false sorry.

Do not stick your dick in crazy, bottom line.

:nono:

Spoken like someone who's never used a fake name.

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 10:16 AM
:nono:

Spoken like someone who's never used a fake name.

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TheChamp24
06-07-2012, 10:20 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

Rabb
06-07-2012, 10:23 AM
:nono:

Spoken like someone who's never used a fake name.

More, spoken like someone who has stuck their tallywhacker in crazy and learned a valuable lesson, making him wish he used a fake name and personal details.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 10:23 AM
Yackity sax is playing in my head with every update....

Rabb
06-07-2012, 10:24 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

You aren't going to learn, are you?

baja
06-07-2012, 10:28 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

Why are you continuing here with this highly personal story? What do you hope to gain?

RhymesayersDU
06-07-2012, 10:32 AM
Yes and he needs to hear this from you idiots?

Champ24 you love your daughter that is all you need to know. If your story is true get off the board and get on with your life. Your daughter needs a father and you are it regardless.

You're really telling him to just stick his head in the sand?

Really?

REALLY?

Rohirrim
06-07-2012, 10:32 AM
Why are you continuing here with this highly personal story? What do you hope to gain?

We're living in the Facebook era. :ouwknow:

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 10:33 AM
You aren't going to learn, are you?

If two years of humiliation including the woman posting with his account, banging the roommate, and ditching him with the roommate's kid, and generally ruining his life won't teach him...

baja
06-07-2012, 10:35 AM
You're really telling him to just stick his head in the sand?

Really?

REALLY?

No I'm telling him to love his daughter an move on with his life. She doesn't have anyone else.

TheReverend
06-07-2012, 10:35 AM
You aren't going to learn, are you?

I'll take "things we learned about OP in the first couple pages of this thread" for a $1000, Alex.

baja
06-07-2012, 10:35 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

watch this;

http://www.viewspot.com/brucelipton

TheReverend
06-07-2012, 10:36 AM
You're really telling him to just stick his head in the sand?

Really?

REALLY?

baja is a pro at that.

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 10:40 AM
Which leads me to believe that a DNA test needs tk be done seriously fast. Evidence is mounting.

I think McFoneco/TheChamp24 needs to get his own paternity test as his own father has requested. I can't imagine him saying, "That's my boy!" Can those test also determine if he is actually a full male? Being a great father is exceptional but it is everything before the birth of your daughter.

Irish Stout
06-07-2012, 10:40 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

Look dude, you love your daughter. As she grows she will continue to love and need you. What if one day, 5 years down the road, crazy shows up claiming you aren't the daddy and don't have custody rights? Courts will likely side with whomever the biological parents are, regardless of the birth certificate if paternity can actually be established. This will destroy both of you and incredibly limit her long term chance for success in life.

You don't want to get the test because you don't want to rock your little world anymore than it has been. But do not let this one slip by. It is better to know for sure one way or another now than later have your life and your daughter's life totally screwed over by another truth that could separate you two. Face this one down, swallow your pride, and get the DNA swab... you don't have to go to the Court approved one yet. Here's a link to a $79 paternity test:
https://www.gtldna.net/?gclid=CLDymsrIvLACFcIUKgod5Fd-qg

Also - final argument - remember when you first came to us couple years back? Well we were all pretty much right about Crazy. We're all pretty much right about taking a DNA test man. If you can't see that... good luck.

alkemical
06-07-2012, 10:41 AM
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold

Cuckolding as a fetishCuckolding may refer to a mostly heterosexual fetish in which the dominant woman has sex with a man outside of the relationship while the submissive man may or may not be present. If the man is not present, he might help her choose what clothes to wear when she meets the other man, or they might get together afterward so she can tell him about it, either while having sex or in addition to withholding sex. If the man is present during the cuckolding, he may or may not be allowed to pleasure himself while watching. The cuckolding may or may not be followed by sex between the couple. Another variant of the cuckolding fetish is that a heterosexual couple fantasizes that another man has already impregnated the woman.[5] The cuckold is almost always male; the term for a female cuckold is sometimes referred to as a cuckquean[1] but is not as prevalent in popular culture as the male version of the fetish. The wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is sometimes referred to as a hotwife[6] or (rarely) cuckoldress.[7]

[edit] Theories in psychologyPsychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism[citation needed], the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the male competition for procreation and the affection of females[citation needed]. In his book Masochism and the Self, psychologist Roy Baumeister advanced a Self Theory analysis that cuckolding (and other forms of sexual masochism) among otherwise mentally healthy people was a form of escapism. In this theory, cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

According to these theories, the cuckold fetishist seeks pleasure both from the act of being humiliated, and by giving pleasure to his partner(s). But cuckolding can be summed psychologically as "distributing sexual humiliation to the cuckold"[citation needed]. If a couple can keep the fantasy in the bedroom, or come to an agreement where actually being cuckolded in reality does not hurt the relationship, they may try it out in reality. However, the primary proponent of the fantasy is almost always the one being humiliated, or the "cuckold", and he usually convince his partner to participate in the fantasy for him. Indeed, the fetish fantasy does not work at all if the cuckold is actually being humiliated against his will[8].

Humiliation is "the feeling of being put down, made to feel less than one feels oneself to be."[9]. Psychologist Evelin Lindner calls humiliation "the nuclear bomb of the emotions.", claiming it is an order of magnitude more powerful than any other, causing everything from interpersonal conflicts to international terrorism"[10]. According to psychoanalysis, any feeling can become sexualized if it is somehow favorably associated with sex, especially in childhood. Because humiliation is such a powerful emotion, if an individual sexualizes it, he can in turn obtain intense sexual feelings.

[edit] Theories in evolutionary psychologyIn his somewhat controversial[11] book Sperm Wars, biologist Robin Baker speculated that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain, although it is important to note the word "cuckold" does not actually appear in the book "Sperm Wars". According to one of his theories, Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to "compete" with the other man's sperm. Baker is also one of the sole proponents of the theory of Killer Sperm, the idea that sperm compete not only for first access to the egg but by actually "attacking" other sperm. Although this idea appears frequently in cuckold fetish material, very few biologists share this view.[12][13]

Baker and his proponents views conflict with the hypothesized foundations for jealousy in evolutionary psychology, which is rooted in the idea that men, specifically, will react jealously to sexual infidelity on the parts of their mates[14]. Infidelity is also the number one cause for divorce[15].

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 10:45 AM
No I'm telling him to love his daughter an move on with his life. She doesn't have anyone else.

The older you get, the bore of someone really shows. Back off Old Man. He wants to be beat up with the stupid stick. I'm #38 in line and we all want our turn.

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 10:47 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

Anyone else catch this? You're calling your 'daughter' it now?

And ofcourse you are on the birth certificate, yall were married at the time, and I'm sure you were there for the birth and both of you claimed you as the father. They don't run DNA testing at childbirth if neither parent is questioning who the father of the child is.

baja
06-07-2012, 10:55 AM
The older you get, the bore of someone really shows. Back off Old Man. He wants to be beat up with the stupid stick. I'm #38 in line and we all want our turn.


Like I said champ24 do you really need this in your life right now?

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 10:55 AM
Dude just head on down to DHR and tell them that the mother of the child you have custody of is not helping support the child and that you need a parternity test to make sure that you are the father. They will handle the rest. If she is yours, then you will have to pay for it, if she is not, then you won't be responsible for the bill.

I had this test done about 6 years ago, and all I paid was 400 bucks.

gyldenlove
06-07-2012, 10:57 AM
You're really telling him to just stick his head in the sand?

Really?

REALLY?

Better than sticking his dick in crazy.

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 10:58 AM
Like I said champ24 do you really need this in your life right now?

We do. We are getting our turn of "I told you so!" We give him more advice and he rejects it.

alkemical
06-07-2012, 10:58 AM
Disney & Pr0n really f'd up a few generations of people.

RhymesayersDU
06-07-2012, 10:58 AM
Better than sticking his dick in crazy.

LOL

Touché!

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 11:04 AM
Dude just head on down to DHR and tell them that the mother of the child you have custody of is not helping support the child and that you need a parternity test to make sure that you are the father. They will handle the rest. If she is yours, then you will have to pay for it, if she is not, then you won't be responsible for the bill.

I had this test done about 6 years ago, and all I paid was 400 bucks.

There are people who despite proving they were not biological parents are still legally required to continue paying child support. If they accepted the role of parent, even out of deception... It's not the kid's fault.

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 11:06 AM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
Is there a chance its not mine? Yes, there is a chance. But there is more evidence pointing to its mine, than not. And upon winning the custody case, one of the things that was established was me being the child's father. My name is on the birth certificate.

Yeah, but are you positive she's the mother?

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 11:08 AM
Yeah, but are you positive she's the mother?

Shiat just got real.

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 11:13 AM
There are people who despite proving they were not biological parents are still legally required to continue paying child support.

Beantown Bronco Rule #11: Never go cheap when it comes to hiring a lawyer.

Turd_Ferguson
06-07-2012, 11:26 AM
I wonder if Kyle wears glasses...
http://www.alixspence.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/The-Big-Lebowski_Busby_Peter-Stormare_hood.bmp1_.jpeg

These men are ****ing cowards Donnie.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 11:31 AM
These men are ****ing cowards Donnie.

What are you, a f%#king park ranger?

underrated29
06-07-2012, 11:33 AM
For gods sake whatever you end screwing up more. Do Not. For the love of God. Do not.

Let your daughter watch Ghostbusters.

GreatBronco16
06-07-2012, 11:35 AM
There are people who despite proving they were not biological parents are still legally required to continue paying child support. If they accepted the role of parent, even out of deception... It's not the kid's fault.

I wasn't talking about child support. That is entirely different then paying for a DNA test.

And yes I know of which you speak too. But that is a discussion that will soon be in his story. Stay tuned.:)

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 11:38 AM
What are you, a f%#king park ranger?

Also, Dude... "Chinaman" is not the preferred nomenclature. "Asian-American," please.

HILife
06-07-2012, 11:58 AM
I caught the begining of this story and the end of it. I really don't want to read through 35+ posts to get the whole story, so can someone give me the cliff notes version. Don't leave out the juice detail.

Better yet, someone create a new thread, post the details in that thread, sticky it, then lock the thread. Everyone can then go to that thread, get updated and then jump in this one.

Kaylore
06-07-2012, 11:58 AM
Also, Dude... "Chinaman" is not the preferred nomenclature. "Asian-American," please.

Dude, the Chinaman is not the issue here.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 12:00 PM
Dude, the Chinaman is not the issue here.

They peed on your f#%king rug.

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 12:01 PM
Dude, the Chinaman is not the issue here.

That rug really tied the room together, did it not?

Am I wrong?

AM I WRONG?

"Walter, you're not wrong, you're just an A$$hole."

24champ
06-07-2012, 12:03 PM
That rug really tied the room together.

<iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/_vGK008c_rA" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>

Beantown Bronco
06-07-2012, 12:12 PM
I caught the begining of this story and the end of it. I really don't want to read through 35+ posts to get the whole story, so can someone give me the cliff notes version. Don't leave out the juice detail.

Better yet, someone create a new thread, post the details in that thread, sticky it, then lock the thread. Everyone can then go to that thread, get updated and then jump in this one.

Just do an advanced thread search and search by the OP's name.

baja
06-07-2012, 12:17 PM
Just do an advanced thread search and search by the OP's name.

There is an easier way.

Go to the main page.

Find this thread.

click on "replies" (it's a number)

click on the poster's replies that you want to review. (also a number)

Beej
06-07-2012, 12:28 PM
Actually, when I was starting on the custody case, my lawyer suggested a paternity test. Well, I looked into it, and they are, for the court acceptance, around $1,000-$1,500. I fully believe this is my daughter, I love her, she does have some resemblance to me.
...


Does your daughter look like Doug Flutie? If not, you can probably rule out Doug Flutie.

Pony Boy
06-07-2012, 12:29 PM
I caught the begining of this story and the end of it. I really don't want to read through 35+ posts to get the whole story, so can someone give me the cliff notes version. Don't leave out the juice detail.

Better yet, someone create a new thread, post the details in that thread, sticky it, then lock the thread. Everyone can then go to that thread, get updated and then jump in this one.

This should do it

It's like one of those DirecTV commercials:

"When you order cable, you don't get your wife's favorite channels. When she doesnt get her favorite channels she goes out and gets drunk with a guy named Kyle. When she gets drunk with a guy name Kyle, Kyle spends all of his money. When Kyle spends all of his money he can't pay you for rent. When Kyle can't pay you for rent he bashes your face in with your own phone.

Don't let a guy name Kyle bash your face in with your own phone. Call DirecTV"

RhymesayersDU
06-07-2012, 12:42 PM
I caught the begining of this story and the end of it. I really don't want to read through 35+ posts to get the whole story, so can someone give me the cliff notes version. Don't leave out the juice detail.

Better yet, someone create a new thread, post the details in that thread, sticky it, then lock the thread. Everyone can then go to that thread, get updated and then jump in this one.

You didn't really ask for the cliffs notes AND the detail, did you?

El Minion
06-07-2012, 12:53 PM
Oh how I love some of these responses, basically condemning my daughter already because I'm apparently not a suitable father for her by some folks on here.

As for my daughter, yes she is mine. She was conceived November 2010. Kyle entered the picture December 2011.

Also, if my ex is pregnant, it is not mine. Last time we did it was December 2011, and she wasn't pregnant last time I saw her in February.

I'm not worried about fighting, and throwing money, for forcing her to pay child support at the moment. What is crazy is she actually told me she plans on re-filing for custody, at which point she says she will win because the mother always wins. I'm sure the judge will award her custody after she already abandoned her child, and never put up a fight for her.

And by the way, I did stand up and was a man, I stood up for the one thing important in my life, my daughter, and ensured I would always be in her life, every day, shaping her to be a wonderful person.

I guess people think I should've duked it out with Kyle, nothing got resolved, and me potentially losing my daughter because I would now be deemed a violent person who isn't suitable for raising a child. People, you need to really think things through and sometimes, you gotta take one for the team to come out ahead.

I'm happy now raising my daughter, the best part of my day is when I go to pick her up from daycare and see the excited look on her face when I walk in the door. Let me tell you, NOTHING tops that.

You did the right thing, domestic violence is never the correct response. You protected your family by exhibiting rational thought; actions have consequences, especially the wrong and violent ones. Hopefully going forward you continue practicing that line of thinking and better judgment now that you have a child that will be watching how you move in the world, react to drama and make adult decisions as she grows up in the environment you create for her.

Archer81
06-07-2012, 01:04 PM
Well he have learned much from this thread.

First thing is to avoid crazy. Aliens, zombies, draculas, werewolves, giant bugs are nothing compared to real, live crazy people. Only silver lining is this entire drama is the daughter. Everything else was and continues to be a train wreck.

Second thing is allowing the wife's boy toy to continue to live in the house with the family while preparing to leave. That's just stupid, and the natural end result was a physical altercation.

Third thing is the exwifey probably bumped clams with the first stranger to stay at the house.

Fourth thing is the sound of this entire episode is the result of a man losing his V card to a chick from CrazyHoburg, and thinking that was the only vajayjay in the world. 3.5 billion other women on the planet man, even two years ago. You date crazy to realize what crazy is, then find a woman who is everything the crazy ho was not.

Fifth thing is pointing out that Rev and others on PAGE ONE of this thread were right in the first place. So in the future when a perfect stranger tells you "hey man, this chick sounds completely whacked, you should dump her and get a sane one" you should probably listen.

Sixth thing...dont point out an advice thread you started about the girl you are seeing to the girl in question. Even if she was a sparkling diamond in a pile of horse poo, you cause problems in the relationship when she starts to think you trust people you dont even know over her. Which eventually makes the chick the new mayor of crazyhoburg and she decides your testicles would look nice with a floral arrangement.

:Broncos:

Tombstone RJ
06-07-2012, 01:09 PM
Look dude, you love your daughter. As she grows she will continue to love and need you. What if one day, 5 years down the road, crazy shows up claiming you aren't the daddy and don't have custody rights? Courts will likely side with whomever the biological parents are, regardless of the birth certificate if paternity can actually be established. This will destroy both of you and incredibly limit her long term chance for success in life.

You don't want to get the test because you don't want to rock your little world anymore than it has been. But do not let this one slip by. It is better to know for sure one way or another now than later have your life and your daughter's life totally screwed over by another truth that could separate you two. Face this one down, swallow your pride, and get the DNA swab... you don't have to go to the Court approved one yet. Here's a link to a $79 paternity test:
https://www.gtldna.net/?gclid=CLDymsrIvLACFcIUKgod5Fd-qg

Also - final argument - remember when you first came to us couple years back? Well we were all pretty much right about Crazy. We're all pretty much right about taking a DNA test man. If you can't see that... good luck.

stop with all your common sense crap. Champ lives very happily in a place called denial. He's the kindof guy who prefers not to know things and just hope for the best. When he get's hammered, well, what's a guy to do anyway?

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 01:16 PM
Agreed. Nothing to do here but follow your heart. You parctically have nothing to lose at this age, (DONT FORGET THIS PART) and everything to gain.

Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!

At the age of 25, you can take some gambles. Follow your heart.




"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.

Dukes
06-07-2012, 01:18 PM
They peed on your f#%king rug.

Who peed on the dudes rug Walter?

Tombstone RJ
06-07-2012, 01:20 PM
hehehe yah TJ and Rohirrim... If I was Champ I'd punch both of you in the face...

baja
06-07-2012, 01:21 PM
Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!






"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.

Yes much better to sit home and eat Cheerios.

Archer81
06-07-2012, 01:22 PM
Nothing to lose? Just one of so many ****ed up replies given to him. You are all co-dependent at fault. So much failure and even though I gave the correct advice, maybe a few pages too late (with Jason from LA). If you don't know Leykis, married to be or not, figure out some of the rules and then you can GTFO! Leykis 100 ... google it!






"Follow your heart" then pick it up, take the knife out and try to continue on like nothing happened. Yeah, great advice morons.


You learn more from a mistake than you do from a success.

But that does not mean you walk into a minefield with dick in hand picking daisies.

:Broncos:

baja
06-07-2012, 01:24 PM
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce - never get married, in fact never leave your room at mom's house you might get hurt. Brilliant advice

Tombstone RJ
06-07-2012, 01:32 PM
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce - never get married, in fact never leave your room at mom's house you might get hurt. Brilliant advice

hey baja, this thread is for adults. You can go play with the kiddies in the sand box. Maybe your bff Sandy Vagina will show up!

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 01:33 PM
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce - never get married, in fact never leave your room at mom's house you might get hurt. Brilliant advice

The morons still backing their opinion. Great job....

Don't let these guys scare you. Trust your heart.

What do you have to lose? Your business...ummm no. Your house...umm no. If you're ever going to take a leap of faith, nows the time. It won't always be this easy to try something like this. Sooner than you think life will tie you down.

So what if you have to crawl home to the parents and start over. At least you would have tried. Is this your 'dream job'...doubtful.

Yeah, what did he gain? A big headache right from the start.

No one said to take risks but when red flags are all around you and you still do it, you are dumb. Those that back up the plan are just as stupid but luckily for them, might not have encountered such a ****ed up chick.
Get real old man and others.

Archer81
06-07-2012, 01:34 PM
A reason against gay marriage, this entire thread is.

Yodaism#1...


:Broncos:

SonOfLe-loLang
06-07-2012, 01:36 PM
Yeah, there is one thing missing from this conversation. Most relationships don't work out. So, you didnt even need the details of this situation to guess that it'd end poorly.

That said, this one ended really poorly :)

baja
06-07-2012, 01:38 PM
hey baja, this thread is for adults. You can go play with the kiddies in the sand box. Maybe your bff Sandy Vagina will show up!

You really think you are an adult? I've been reading your posts and can assure you you are not.

Adult bawhaaaa that's a good one.

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 01:41 PM
Oh I know that guy... He's a nihilist.

Say what you like about the tenets of National Socialism, Dude. At least it's an ethos.

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 01:42 PM
Yeah, there is one thing missing from this conversation. Most relationships don't work out. So, you didnt even need the details of this situation to guess that it'd end poorly.

That said, this one ended really poorly :)

Spare me your subjective opinions.

TheElusiveKyleOrton
06-07-2012, 01:53 PM
You learn more from a mistake than you do from a success.

But that does not mean you walk into a minefield with dick in hand picking daisies.

:Broncos:

Imagery for the win.

baja
06-07-2012, 02:02 PM
A farmer had only one horse. One day, his horse ran away.

All the neighbors came by saying, “I'm so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We'll see.”

A few days later, his horse came back with twenty wild horses. The man and his son corraled all 21 horses.

All the neighbors came by saying, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!” The man just said, “We'll see.”

One of the wild horses kicked the man's only son, breaking both his legs.

All the neighbors came by saying, “I'm so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We'll see.”

The country went to war, and every able-bodied young man was drafted to fight. The war was terrible and killed every young man, but the farmer's son was spared, since his broken legs prevented him from being drafted.

All the neighbors came by saying, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!” The man just said, “We'll see.”

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 02:11 PM
I will continue the story.
The son gets better and is now working in the pen with the 21 horses. They decide to all take off to Myrtle Beach because there are some total ,slutty fillies there that **** and don't have time for working the field. So they bum rushed the son and fence, killing him instantly and off they went to never be seen again.

All the neighbors came by saying, “I'm so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We'll see.”

Moron.

baja
06-07-2012, 02:13 PM
I will continue the story.
The son gets better and is now working in the pen with the 21 horses. They decide to all take off to Myrtle Beach because there are some total ,slutty fillies there that **** and don't have time for working the field. So they bum rushed the son and fence, killing him instantly and off they went to never be seen again.

All the neighbors came by saying, “I'm so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We'll see.”

Moron.

That woosh sound was the point flying over your head.

Stagger Lee
06-07-2012, 02:16 PM
I'm confused. Were the wild horses banging the dudes wife?

RhymesayersDU
06-07-2012, 02:16 PM
There was a point?

baja
06-07-2012, 02:16 PM
Are you raising another man's child?



Patrick Connaro, a 42-year-old robotics engineer living in Colorado Springs, was sitting in the bleachers one warm Saturday afternoon in 2003, watching his son's Little League game, when the ground opened beneath him.

"My little boy was there, he was up at bat, and I started yelling for him, 'Go Matthew [not his real name]! Knock it out of the park!' And another man started screaming for Matthew. Louder than me. I looked over, and I looked at him, and I was like, Who is this guy? And I looked at my son, and I looked at him . . . and they were identical."

After the ball game, Connaro ordered a paternity test. The results came back 2 weeks later. "I opened up the letter from Labcorp, and it said, ' . . . 99.9 percent chance you are not the biological father of this child.' I started crying. My head started spinning."

Connaro admits that the possibility had crossed his mind before, given his son's dissimilar facial features, but each time he questioned his wife about it, she vehemently denied the suggestion. Even when he showed her the test results, she still denied it. "She said, 'You forged this,' " Connaro recalls, shaking his head in amazement.

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

"I was so disillusioned, I just didn't know what to say. It was horrible. I don't think anybody could experience what I experienced there."

Some call this paternity fraud. But a more accurate term is "paternal discrepancy." Paternity fraud emphasizes the financial aspect of the phenomenon, but paternal discrepancy (PD) describes the anomaly itself--the disconnect between what men think is true and the genetic reality. And research shows that it's a lot more common than we might believe.

After recently reviewing 67 studies on the subject, University of Oklahoma researchers found that PD rates tend to be much higher among men who have reason to believe there's been more than one dog in the yard. No surprise there. But leave out these men and you end up with a number that can safely be assumed to represent the rest of us. That number is 3.85 percent. Another review of 19 studies by a group at Liverpool John Moores University backs this up, putting the figure at 3.7 percent of dads. It may not seem like a lot--until you do the math. According to a 2005 U.S. Census Bureau report, there are 27,940,000 fathers nationwide with a child under 18. That means over a million guys out there are taking care of some other man's kid.

Compared with this, infidelity by itself is a mere white lie, a misdemeanor, maybe even forgivable. But this . . . this lie unravels years of commitment in a single stroke. Does forgiveness even apply here?

There are those who believe that biology shouldn't make a difference, that fatherhood is just a social construct. Connaro himself refuses to let genetics stand between him and his son. "I'm the only man that he knows as his dad," he says. "Why should I lose that bond and that love?"

Many men in Connaro's position might not feel the same way. Studies show that evolution has designed men to care deeply about who their children are. In 2003, for instance, researchers at the State University of New York at Albany recruited 20 men and 20 women, then morphed their facial features with photographs of children. Subsequent testing showed that the women responded equally to photos of kids whose faces resembled theirs and those that resembled the faces of strangers. The men, on the other hand, reacted far more positively to children whose faces resembled their own.


Read more at Men's Health: http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/fathers-and-kids-parenting-fraud#ixzz1x8lyJJwU

HILife
06-07-2012, 02:17 PM
That woosh sound was the point flying over your head.

I missed it too. Are you trying to say he's in denial?

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 02:22 PM
I'm confused. Were the wild horses banging the dudes wife?

Good chance she was.

Baja in this thread... Hilarious!

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 02:24 PM
Are you raising another man's child?



Patrick Connaro, a 42-year-old robotics engineer living in Colorado Springs, was sitting in the bleachers one warm Saturday afternoon in 2003, watching his son's Little League game, when the ground opened beneath him.




.

baja
06-07-2012, 02:25 PM
I missed it too. Are you trying to say he's in denial?

Hard to pass judgement on life events especially when your are talking about someone else's life.

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 02:27 PM
I really feel that this is the time we need to revisit this fantastic video.

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broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 02:32 PM
Dom,
Can you post the entire video? It stops before those men decide to cut off their testicles and hand them over to their domineering wives.

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 02:33 PM
Dom,
Can you post the entire video? It stops before those men decide to cut off their testicles and hand them over to their domineering wives.

I think you're talking about the prequel.

Dr. Broncenstein
06-07-2012, 02:35 PM
I think you're talking about the prequel.

Lololololol

Houshyamama
06-07-2012, 02:47 PM
Never stick your dick in crazy.

But if you do, run like hell afterwards, and never, NEVER, EVER EVER EVER fail to use some sort of contraceptive measure (nothing against your apparently beautiful young daughter).

DomCasual
06-07-2012, 02:47 PM
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ColoradoDarin
06-07-2012, 04:20 PM
This whole thing is just a metaphor for the Shanahan/McDaniels/ElFox Broncos drama over the last few years, right?

underrated29
06-07-2012, 04:53 PM
Hard to pass judgement on life events especially when your are talking about someone else's life.




Maybe I can be of assistance then. I am 27, divorced single dad of a 5 year old. With custody because I had a seriously bat **** crazy ex wife (drugs destroyed her).......

.....Now, she did not cheat on me, I did not let her or some dude live with me at anytime, let alone without paying rent. And the few occasions where her new husband has wanted to get physical I laughed at him, made fun of him and called him names. Then I proceeded to walk calmly into his house and grab some of my sons things and my son and walked out while they sat their and watched.
Im not a bitch, and they both know it. That is why they did not even think about harrassing me when I went into THEIR house to get my son.


So while my situation is not nearly as dire as Champ24 (sorry other champ lol) I think I am pretty damn close enough in scenarios to relate. And with that I have to say:

WTF! -MAN UP AND BE RELENTLESS ON THIS BIOTCH. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, BE PROACTIVE AND GET THE DAMN TEST STUPID!

baja
06-07-2012, 04:58 PM
Maybe I can be of assistance then. I am 27, divorced single dad of a 5 year old. With custody because I had a seriously bat **** crazy ex wife (drugs destroyed her).......

.....Now, she did not cheat on me, I did not let her or some dude live with me at anytime, let alone without paying rent. And the few occasions where her new husband has wanted to get physical I laughed at him, made fun of him and called him names. Then I proceeded to walk calmly into his house and grab some of my sons things and my son and walked out while they sat their and watched.
Im not a b****, and they both know it. That is why they did not even think about harrassing me when I went into THEIR house to get my son.



So while my situation is not nearly as dire as Champ24 (sorry other champ lol) I think I am pretty damn close enough in scenarios to relate. And with that I have to say:

WTF! -MAN UP AND BE RELENTLESS ON THIS BIOTCH. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, BE PROACTIVE AND GET THE DAMN TEST STUPID!

There is a difference between judgment and informed advice. I think you advice is sound.

BTW Reading here the possible consequences of her later coming back and claiming he is not the father has made me rethink the DNA test. I now see the reason to do it and agree.

broncocalijohn
06-07-2012, 05:10 PM
There is a difference between judgment and informed advice. I think you advice is sound.

BTW Reading here the possible consequences of her later coming back and claiming he is not the father has made me rethink the DNA test. I now see the reason to do it and agree.

The informed advice came and went and he ignored it. Now we judge. Here is his chance to make bad situation right by going through the correct motions. As much as this thread is full of fun for us on the outside, I would hate to see that his update in a year is bad news for him because he didn't take sound advice.

Shananahan
06-07-2012, 05:50 PM
I'm not too worried about him, honestly. Assuming all of this isn't completely fabricated, he seems very adept at gargling urine and claiming it tastes like lemonade.

Willynowei
06-07-2012, 07:47 PM
There is a difference between judgment and informed advice. I think you advice is sound.

BTW Reading here the possible consequences of her later coming back and claiming he is not the father has made me rethink the DNA test. I now see the reason to do it and agree.

This man does not take sound advice, he has shown that he is not only a poor decision maker, but blocks reality out when it suits him to. He needs to be judged and screamed, or something extreme so he can wake the **** up.

He honestly needed to be beaten more as a kid.

Goobzilla
06-07-2012, 07:53 PM
This thread is already being measured for its Ring of Fame jacket. 2 years of pure awesome, don't stop now!

Spider
06-07-2012, 08:10 PM
You got some solid advice ....go for it ...you only live once make the most of it ....

theAPAOps5
06-07-2012, 08:12 PM
My question is this, why was a guy at his sons baseball game cheering and so was another guy? Yeah we find out because he is the father but when you firs read it sounds like a random dude just started cheering and lo and behold he is

Are you raising another man's child?



Patrick Connaro, a 42-year-old robotics engineer living in Colorado Springs, was sitting in the bleachers one warm Saturday afternoon in 2003, watching his son's Little League game, when the ground opened beneath him.

"My little boy was there, he was up at bat, and I started yelling for him, 'Go Matthew [not his real name]! Knock it out of the park!' And another man started screaming for Matthew. Louder than me. I looked over, and I looked at him, and I was like, Who is this guy? And I looked at my son, and I looked at him . . . and they were identical."

After the ball game, Connaro ordered a paternity test. The results came back 2 weeks later. "I opened up the letter from Labcorp, and it said, ' . . . 99.9 percent chance you are not the biological father of this child.' I started crying. My head started spinning."

Connaro admits that the possibility had crossed his mind before, given his son's dissimilar facial features, but each time he questioned his wife about it, she vehemently denied the suggestion. Even when he showed her the test results, she still denied it. "She said, 'You forged this,' " Connaro recalls, shaking his head in amazement.

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

"I was so disillusioned, I just didn't know what to say. It was horrible. I don't think anybody could experience what I experienced there."

Some call this paternity fraud. But a more accurate term is "paternal discrepancy." Paternity fraud emphasizes the financial aspect of the phenomenon, but paternal discrepancy (PD) describes the anomaly itself--the disconnect between what men think is true and the genetic reality. And research shows that it's a lot more common than we might believe.

After recently reviewing 67 studies on the subject, University of Oklahoma researchers found that PD rates tend to be much higher among men who have reason to believe there's been more than one dog in the yard. No surprise there. But leave out these men and you end up with a number that can safely be assumed to represent the rest of us. That number is 3.85 percent. Another review of 19 studies by a group at Liverpool John Moores University backs this up, putting the figure at 3.7 percent of dads. It may not seem like a lot--until you do the math. According to a 2005 U.S. Census Bureau report, there are 27,940,000 fathers nationwide with a child under 18. That means over a million guys out there are taking care of some other man's kid.

Compared with this, infidelity by itself is a mere white lie, a misdemeanor, maybe even forgivable. But this . . . this lie unravels years of commitment in a single stroke. Does forgiveness even apply here?

There are those who believe that biology shouldn't make a difference, that fatherhood is just a social construct. Connaro himself refuses to let genetics stand between him and his son. "I'm the only man that he knows as his dad," he says. "Why should I lose that bond and that love?"

Many men in Connaro's position might not feel the same way. Studies show that evolution has designed men to care deeply about who their children are. In 2003, for instance, researchers at the State University of New York at Albany recruited 20 men and 20 women, then morphed their facial features with photographs of children. Subsequent testing showed that the women responded equally to photos of kids whose faces resembled theirs and those that resembled the faces of strangers. The men, on the other hand, reacted far more positively to children whose faces resembled their own.


Read more at Men's Health: http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/fathers-and-kids-parenting-fraud#ixzz1x8lyJJwU

baja
06-07-2012, 08:17 PM
This man does not take sound advice, he has shown that he is not only a poor decision maker, but blocks reality out when it suits him to. He needs to be judged and screamed, or something extreme so he can wake the **** up.

He honestly needed to be beaten more as a kid.

Haven't you ever made a dumb decision against the advise of older wiser people (parents maybe) and only in the aftermath of the experience did you realize just how silly your choice was? I know I have and I bet most here have. I don't think I would have benefited from "more beatings". I think that is just a asinine statement. But there have been no shortage of asinine statements on this thread. Maybe one or two by me. ;D

Hope the kid is done posting and gets on with the business of living his life and raising his daughter.

McDman
06-08-2012, 12:31 AM
Again, the thing that kills me is he knowingly let a guy who was banging his wife live with them in the house. WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

WinningMatters
06-08-2012, 12:43 AM
Champ how much money are you making now? Did you get a better job or what?

Archer81
06-08-2012, 01:57 AM
The more I think about this thread, the more it seems like its the longest running fraud in the history of the OM.

Was there a crazy bitch? Yes. Is there a daughter? Probably.Was there a Kyle? Yes.

So he hooked up with a crazy chick, possibly knocked her up and allowed another man to not only take away the crazy chick (a blessing, IMO) allowed said free agent dick to take residence in his home for a month.

...

The entire scenario sets my bull**** meter off.

:Broncos:

maven
06-08-2012, 05:01 PM
Interesting thread. Well, at least you have a beautiful daughter out of all this. Lemme know when she's legal.

Pony Boy
06-09-2012, 08:38 AM
Maybe I can be of assistance then. I am 27, divorced single dad of a 5 year old. With custody because I had a seriously bat **** crazy ex wife (drugs destroyed her).......

.....Now, she did not cheat on me, I did not let her or some dude live with me at anytime, let alone without paying rent. And the few occasions where her new husband has wanted to get physical I laughed at him, made fun of him and called him names. Then I proceeded to walk calmly into his house and grab some of my sons things and my son and walked out while they sat their and watched.
Im not a b****, and they both know it. That is why they did not even think about harrassing me when I went into THEIR house to get my son.


So while my situation is not nearly as dire as Champ24 (sorry other champ lol) I think I am pretty damn close enough in scenarios to relate. And with that I have to say:

WTF! -MAN UP AND BE RELENTLESS ON THIS BIOTCH. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING, BE PROACTIVE AND GET THE DAMN TEST STUPID!

I say WTF to your WTF ....... If you have a seriously bat **** crazy ex wife (who destroyed herself on drugs)....... why would you let her have unsupervised visitation with your son and did you have a criminal background check run on her new husband? Where was your attorney, asleep at the wheel?

RhymesayersDU
06-09-2012, 08:40 AM
Interesting thread. Well, at least you have a beautiful daughter out of all this. Lemme know when she's legal.

By that time the Heat will have won nothing and you'll be hiding in a secret bunker, off the grid.

Meck77
06-09-2012, 09:22 AM
The more I think about this thread, the more it seems like its the longest running fraud in the history of the OM.

Was there a crazy b****? Yes. Is there a daughter? Probably.Was there a Kyle? Yes.

So he hooked up with a crazy chick, possibly knocked her up and allowed another man to not only take away the crazy chick (a blessing, IMO) allowed said free agent dick to take residence in his home for a month.

...

The entire scenario sets my bull**** meter off.

:Broncos:

I agree but the Oprahs of the site are eating it up which is pretty funny actually.

DENVERDUI55
03-20-2013, 10:58 AM
What was the outcome of this thread? Heartbreak I would guess.

ZONA
03-20-2013, 11:15 AM
What was the outcome of this thread? Heartbreak I would guess.

Cmon man, this was thread worthy when he needed the advice. It's been 2 years. If you want to know send them man a PM. Don't bring something like this back to life. Good lord. This website is already slower then a turtle. No need to make it slower with keeping a topic like this ongoing.

Jekyll15Hyde
03-20-2013, 11:18 AM
I just want to thank the bump because I missed this when it was ongoing. Didnt read it all but loved some of the synopsis presented. CrazyHoBurg.... :rofl:

SleepingTiger
03-20-2013, 12:43 PM
dang, i just saw this thread. wow.... speechless.

anyways, did he ever get a paternity test?

penguintheory
03-20-2013, 11:26 PM
Mind go boom

ZONA
03-21-2013, 12:22 AM
Mind go boom

Awesome avatar - rep

Jason in LA
03-21-2013, 12:50 AM
This is one of the greatest threads ever! It brought us the "Myrtle Beach" jokes. Those are as good as the "Ghost Buster" jokes.

Jason in LA
03-21-2013, 12:52 AM
Interesting thread. Well, at least you have a beautiful daughter out of all this. Lemme know when she's legal.


Lesbo action!

Jason in LA
03-21-2013, 01:19 AM
wow....im here eating a corndog in Newark, NJ, watching Japanese Anime Porn and missing my ex girlfriend...decided to log on here for a moment

thank God I did....this makes me feel a lot better about myself

this update can't be true

I'm going back through some old posts for kicks. This one made me laugh. lol

Jason in LA
03-21-2013, 01:24 AM
This has to be a joke. Please tell me it is. Damn, if it's true, yeah, I don't know how else to say this, but you're ****ed. I mean, royally ****ed. Damn, properly ****ed too!

You can't tell anybody anything when they are in "love". Damn, how many lives is love going to ruin. ;D

I said this stuff back in 2010. This is kind of funny.

TheChamp24
03-21-2013, 07:12 AM
What was the outcome of this thread? Heartbreak I would guess.

Heartbreak? No, I am doing well, have had some bumps in the road, but things are going well. I'm starting to look at possibly moving out of Texas, would like to go back to Colorado but that probably won't happen for a little bit.

Anyways, back to the Doom/Urlacher/Draft threads now.

TheReverend
03-21-2013, 07:30 AM
Heartbreak? No, I am doing well, have had some bumps in the road, but things are going well. I'm starting to look at possibly moving out of Texas, would like to go back to Colorado but that probably won't happen for a little bit.

Anyways, back to the Doom/Urlacher/Draft threads now.

You should hire me on retainer to make all your life decisions for you.

Rohirrim
03-21-2013, 08:37 AM
Redicule? I forgot the fiance had come on and posted. :spit:

Jekyll15Hyde
03-21-2013, 10:16 AM
Redicule? I forgot the fiance had come on and posted. :spit:

Link?

Rohirrim
03-21-2013, 10:30 AM
Link?

About two thirds of the way in. Rockpapersissors, I think was the name she took.

DENVERDUI55
03-21-2013, 10:33 AM
Heartbreak? No, I am doing well, have had some bumps in the road, but things are going well. I'm starting to look at possibly moving out of Texas, would like to go back to Colorado but that probably won't happen for a little bit.

Anyways, back to the Doom/Urlacher/Draft threads now.

Good to hear. I only read the first couple pages and skipped to the end.

scrap
03-21-2013, 11:32 AM
Good to hear. I only read the first couple pages and skipped to the end.

You missed A LOT!
The "bumps in the road" include:

Got her pregnant, she went crazy, left him and wants no part of the child.

She gave up rights to the child via Wal-Mart parking lot meeting penned on a napkin

Allowing his woman to bring a man to live in his home, not pay rent, bang his woman and kick his ass in front of the child....and he let the guy stay a month afterword.

She pays no support, he's not really interested in making her do so

He admits that there a chance kid isn't his, but see's not reason to get a DNA test
..and much much more.

In summary:
Guy asks for advice on a message board->Guy does not follow a single bit prudent of advice given. He's either fake or someone Manti Teo would call a naive pussy.

scrap
03-21-2013, 11:39 AM
I am new here (this is my first post) I too am a high school droop out but I am smart enough to know most of you so called men are children that shave. How dare you judge this woman. What gives you the right. Do you know anything about her? Many fine marriages come from this same sort of a back ground. They seem to be in love and that will overcome many a hardship. This guy Reverend seems more interested in showing off how smart he thinks he is more than actually helping with any sincerity. Course how do you take seriously a guy that mates with lobsters. At least he is an individual all the rest of you just follow his lead. I don't see one man on this thread well there are two but that's a scarce few considering to the number that chimed in. I'd screw either one of them but they are both old uck!!!

Rev probably has lobster aids.

HAHAAHA , found his girl's first post. Wish SHE would update us on this cuckold.

SonOfLe-loLang
03-21-2013, 11:58 AM
Say what you want about Rev, he owned this thread

gyldenlove
03-21-2013, 12:01 PM
Say what you want about Rev, he owned this thread

I don't know, his advice about investing wasn't what we would normally consider great timing given the financial collapse between then and now, but other than that he was definitely on the money.

But with great wisdom comes lobsteraids.....

SonOfLe-loLang
03-21-2013, 12:03 PM
I don't know, his advice about investing wasn't what we would normally consider great timing given the financial collapse between then and now, but other than that he was definitely on the money.

But with great wisdom comes lobsteraids.....

Oh, i didnt mean the financial part..haha. But everything else. I still can't believe how poorly that turned out, but what doesn't kill you ... i guess?

DENVERDUI55
03-21-2013, 12:26 PM
You missed A LOT!
The "bumps in the road" include:

Got her pregnant, she went crazy, left him and wants no part of the child.

She gave up rights to the child via Wal-Mart parking lot meeting penned on a napkin

Allowing his woman to bring a man to live in his home, not pay rent, bang his woman and kick his ass in front of the child....and he let the guy stay a month afterword.

She pays no support, he's not really interested in making her do so

He admits that there a chance kid isn't his, but see's not reason to get a DNA test
..and much much more.

In summary:
Guy asks for advice on a message board->Guy does not follow a single bit prudent of advice given. He's either fake or someone Manti Teo would call a naive p***Y.

Wow Hollywood can't even make that up or top it.

chadta
03-21-2013, 06:32 PM
did this guy ever leave a number or anything ? I still go to MB every year, maybe ill give em a shout and find out how things went next time im down there.

Jason in LA
03-21-2013, 09:19 PM
Good to hear. I only read the first couple pages and skipped to the end.

You should read it. Multiple plot turns. It's worth the time.


Guy asks for advice on a message board->Guy does not follow a single bit prudent of advice given. He's either fake or someone Manti Teo would call a naive p***Y.

I'm still not sure if this is a true story, but if it is, he did ask for advice only to ignore all of it, which landed him in all of this drama.

underrated29
03-21-2013, 11:56 PM
I say WTF to your WTF ....... If you have a seriously bat **** crazy ex wife (who destroyed herself on drugs)....... why would you let her have unsupervised visitation with your son and did you have a criminal background check run on her new husband? Where was your attorney, asleep at the wheel?



God I love this thread.

As to your question pony boy- I had no attorney. Neither did she. Colorado is a woman's state, you'd be surprised, I mean choking on a dick surprised at that crap they will let a mom do and get away with all because she is a mom. In any event we were able to do it without attorneys and no child support so I got that ish done before she changed her mind or wisened up to how the courts rule. (Always in favor of the mom- even if she had no legs and rode I to the courtroom riding the face of the retarded guy from goodies covered in potatoe salad.)

Cito Pelon
03-23-2013, 10:21 AM
You should read it. Multiple plot turns. It's worth the time.



I'm still not sure if this is a true story, but if it is, he did ask for advice only to ignore all of it, which landed him in all of this drama.

I remember reading some of this when it first popped up and thinking this is a made up story by the OP solely to entertain himself. I figured it HAD to be yanking chains to get some response.

It actually is very entertaining, and this is the first time I ever really looked at it in depth. Rev made me LOL with his "Captain Save-A-Ho" remark.

DENVERDUI55
03-23-2013, 12:05 PM
I remember reading some of this when it first popped up and thinking this is a made up story by the OP solely to entertain himself. I figured it HAD to be yanking chains to get some response.

It actually is very entertaining, and this is the first time I ever really looked at it in depth. Rev made me LOL with his "Captain Save-A-Ho" remark.

On the second or third page someone commented whatever you decide just don't knock her up!

Bacchus
03-23-2013, 09:41 PM
Okay, I'm in the process of making a decision in my life, and need some advice.

I am currently living in Texas, and I hate it here, only reason I moved here was to be near my family. However, there are family issues and I really want to move away.
First, let me say I got involved with a great woman, and we got engaged not too long ago. She moved here in Texas to be with me, but alas, she hates it here too. Now, I don't want to get in too many details, but she had a terrible childhood that caused her to have to drop out of high school, but is set on getting a GED to get into college. She is 22, and I am 25 with a Bachelor's in Accounting from University of Oklahoma. I have an okay job for a private company here, but could definitely get a better one with the economy picking up. She hasn't had a job because she continues to get hired at a place and either not like it, or the pay/hours are **** and no use working it for getting the price back to cover the gas.
Also, she has a 4 year old daughter, so makes it tougher.
Now, she comes from the East Coast, Myrtle Beach, SC. She is very easy-going, comfortable and I'll say "care-free". Most people over there are. Well, she tells me we can move to Myrtle Beach, cut our expenses down, she can easily get a job as a server, and she has contacts and a staffing agency that can get me a job in a month. Basically, become financially stable because we aren't here.
Now, my parents/family will be upset due to the fact that I am leaving a job, known income, to go someplace where there is no guarantee, and also have no money.

I know I'm leaving some stuff out, but basically, I want to hear what other people think of moving out there, which she wants to do in June, for what she feels is the right thing to do, and will make us stable and happy.

In all honesty dude, you are 25 years-old do whatever the **** YOU WANT TO DO. Your parents and girl friend will get over it or they won't. You're young, do whatever you want. Now is the time to do what you want. Later in life you will not have these options.

Tombstone RJ
03-23-2013, 09:46 PM
lol...

RhymesayersDU
03-23-2013, 11:22 PM
In all honesty dude, you are 25 years-old do whatever the **** YOU WANT TO DO. Your parents and girl friend will get over it or they won't. You're young, do whatever you want. Now is the time to do what you want. Later in life you will not have these options.

lolwat

Kaylore
03-23-2013, 11:27 PM
In all honesty dude, you are 25 years-old do whatever the **** YOU WANT TO DO. Your parents and girl friend will get over it or they won't. You're young, do whatever you want. Now is the time to do what you want. Later in life you will not have these options.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/3/3b/Paris_Tuileries_Garden_Facepalm_statue.jpg/300px-Paris_Tuileries_Garden_Facepalm_statue.jpg

Bacchus
03-23-2013, 11:30 PM
25 years-old...what I would pay to be 25 years old again. Dude, go walk across country, be homeless, join the peace Corp, Do whatever you want to do. When you turn 30 you start to lose your will and you start thinking about the future, at 25, **** the future. If you want to go and get tied down with this lady and her kid do it but if you move all the way across country for her you have yourself a family and it is time to hand in that freedom card and start thinking about setting up a college fund for the rugrat and a retirement fund for you and the old lady. You'll have to buy life insurance to make sure if you get decapitated in a traffic accident while on the way to work your family will be covered all that other responsible fun ****.

At 25 do you want a family?

Bacchus
03-23-2013, 11:30 PM
yes i am drunk..... VODKA COKES BABY!!!! I am celebrating!!!

Bacchus
03-23-2013, 11:32 PM
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/3/3b/Paris_Tuileries_Garden_Facepalm_statue.jpg/300px-Paris_Tuileries_Garden_Facepalm_statue.jpg

You're close to 25 but you're a morman so you don't count.

baja
03-23-2013, 11:58 PM
You could not pay me enough to be 25 again unless of course I would retain what I know now and continue to build on that life experience.

spdirty
03-24-2013, 12:03 AM
God I love this thread. I can't figure out how it isn't in the ring of fame.

spdirty
03-24-2013, 12:06 AM
You could not pay me enough to be 25 again unless of course I would retain what I know now and continue to build on that life experience.

I'd love to go back to 2005 when I was 25. Make a few truckloads of money.

baja
03-24-2013, 12:16 AM
I'd love to go back to 2005 when I was 25. Make a few truckloads of money.

If you are thinking to go back in time in order to capitalize on your knowledge of future events you would be disappointed to learn you had no knowledge of the future because it has not happened yet. ;D

Bacchus
03-24-2013, 12:30 AM
If you are thinking to go back in time in order to capitalize on your knowledge of future events you would be disappointed to learn you had no knowledge of the future because it has not happened yet. ;D

well, that would suck because I would make all the same dumb decisions!!!!

24champ
03-24-2013, 12:54 AM
25 years-old...what I would pay to be 25 years old again. Dude, go walk across country, be homeless, join the peace Corp, Do whatever you want to do. When you turn 30 you start to lose your will and you start thinking about the future, at 25, **** the future. If you want to go and get tied down with this lady and her kid do it but if you move all the way across country for her you have yourself a family and it is time to hand in that freedom card and start thinking about setting up a college fund for the rugrat and a retirement fund for you and the old lady. You'll have to buy life insurance to make sure if you get decapitated in a traffic accident while on the way to work your family will be covered all that other responsible fun ****.

At 25 do you want a family?

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1m97yUn7jKc/ULo2kLNPUHI/AAAAAAAADlw/trPGRA9bFQg/s1600/Marty-McFly.gif

Bacchus
03-24-2013, 01:02 AM
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1m97yUn7jKc/ULo2kLNPUHI/AAAAAAAADlw/trPGRA9bFQg/s1600/Marty-McFly.gif

LOL....you ready to spend the rest of your life with this woman?

If yes, then do not listen to your family. She is the most important thing.

If hesitant than DON'T leave your support system and go move away with her.

that should be less confusing!!

DBroncos4life
03-24-2013, 07:03 AM
LOL....you ready to spend the rest of your life with this woman?

If yes, then do not listen to your family. She is the most important thing.

If hesitant than DON'T leave your support system and go move away with her.

that should be less confusing!!

I agree. I mean what is the worst that could happen!!!! Ha!

TheChamp24
03-24-2013, 08:57 AM
In all honesty dude, you are 25 years-old do whatever the **** YOU WANT TO DO. Your parents and girl friend will get over it or they won't. You're young, do whatever you want. Now is the time to do what you want. Later in life you will not have these options.

http://exitpursuedbyabear.net/wp-content/uploads/DavidTennantCryingintheRain.gif

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:00 AM
http://bluntobject.files.wordpress.com/2009/12/double-facepalm.jpg


The caption of this photo posted on page 6 was "you showed her this thread?" lol

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:02 AM
Moving to SC = Fail

Showing her this thread = Epic Fail

The gems from this thread are just awesome. lol

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:21 AM
I didn't get on this thread until page 11. My first reply was in reply to TheReverend's advice.

==================

Originally Posted by TheReverend
Break up. Dead serious.

Originally Posted by Jason in LA
I 100% agree.

==============

Also, the best piece of advice that he was given was to not knock her up. If he just followed that one thing then he was have avoided this mess. I said this back on page 11.

"He's going down a road that will screw up his life. If he continues down this road he's going to knock her up and then he'll really be stuck. Hopefully he doesn't knock her up any time soon, so he better wrap it up every single time."

Yep, it was easy to see where this one was going (if this whole thing is real).

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:32 AM
...

We really outdid ourselves with this thread!

Everybody should go back and read it again. There are some awesome replies.

***Damn the photo didn't show up in the quote. It's on page 12.

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:40 AM
This thread is still going?

At this point, I assume McFoneco is talking to Blue about a new forum name. ;D


Damn, this from page 12.

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 09:44 AM
You can be mad at me for giving you good advice all you want. I don't need to retaliate at all. Life is apparently doing a better job at that than I ever could.

Damn!

Page 12 was good!

nyuk nyuk
03-24-2013, 11:16 AM
Okay, I'm in the process of making a decision in my life, and need some advice.

I am currently living in Texas, and I hate it here, only reason I moved here was to be near my family. However, there are family issues and I really want to move away.
First, let me say I got involved with a great woman, and we got engaged not too long ago. She moved here in Texas to be with me, but alas, she hates it here too. Now, I don't want to get in too many details, but she had a terrible childhood that caused her to have to drop out of high school, but is set on getting a GED to get into college. She is 22, and I am 25 with a Bachelor's in Accounting from University of Oklahoma. I have an okay job for a private company here, but could definitely get a better one with the economy picking up. She hasn't had a job because she continues to get hired at a place and either not like it, or the pay/hours are **** and no use working it for getting the price back to cover the gas.
Also, she has a 4 year old daughter, so makes it tougher.
Now, she comes from the East Coast, Myrtle Beach, SC. She is very easy-going, comfortable and I'll say "care-free". Most people over there are. Well, she tells me we can move to Myrtle Beach, cut our expenses down, she can easily get a job as a server, and she has contacts and a staffing agency that can get me a job in a month. Basically, become financially stable because we aren't here.
Now, my parents/family will be upset due to the fact that I am leaving a job, known income, to go someplace where there is no guarantee, and also have no money.

I know I'm leaving some stuff out, but basically, I want to hear what other people think of moving out there, which she wants to do in June, for what she feels is the right thing to do, and will make us stable and happy.

Well I think it's immature of her to quit a job for not liking it. You cannot do that, especially when you have a child to support.

As far as the rest, I don't see the big deal with it. Life has its unknowns and you only live once.

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 12:01 PM
This thread really should be sent to the ring of fame soon. It's one of the most hilarious things I've ever seen, and unless it gets moved to it's rightful place, it runs the risk of being forgotten by some and lost to all...

***above quote was posted in 2010.***

Naw, this thread won't be forgotten about. lol

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 12:09 PM
Well as long as the guy doesn't have a kid with her at least he has an exit strategy.

Yeah, about that exit strategy.

Jason in LA
03-24-2013, 12:13 PM
I think the one thing we've all learned from this thread is that it generally ain't such a hot idea to ask for serious relationship advice on an internet sports board.

Other than not knocking her up, this is probably the second best piece of advice in this thread.

broncocalijohn
03-24-2013, 12:23 PM
If you are thinking to go back in time in order to capitalize on your knowledge of future events you would be disappointed to learn you had no knowledge of the future because it has not happened yet. ;D

plus, he would be 25 and drunk and forget what he learned in the future. ;D

I made good decisions at 25 and while there are some I would change in a heartbeat, I wouldn't want to take that chance and screw it all up. Live and learn. Only thing with the OP is he got some great advice and decided not to take it. I hope those, like Baja, realized how wrong they were when they first gave out their horrible experiences to screw this young lad up.

broncocalijohn
03-24-2013, 12:25 PM
Well I think it's immature of her to quit a job for not liking it. You cannot do that, especially when you have a child to support.

As far as the rest, I don't see the big deal with it. Life has its unknowns and you only live once.

I am quoting this before nyuk nyuk erases it for not realizing that this is a really old thread and his advice is horribly wrong as you read through it.

broncocalijohn
03-24-2013, 12:29 PM
Agreed. Nothing to do here but follow your heart. You parctically have nothing to lose at this age, and everything to gain.

Front page quote you wish you didn't say! So many right and wrong.

Nothing to lose? correct except your dignity, freedom, brain, money, etc. You gain a headache, parental responsibilities all alone, debt, etc.


Great advice their Dear Abby.

underrated29
03-24-2013, 12:51 PM
Wow... What similiar situations you and I have/had...


Here is the thing dude. I already know what you are going to do. So do you. Now the good news is, you will learn a FREAKING TON from this. Bad news is that you are not going to make it as a couple and you will feel that you wasted a good portion of your life.....Trust me on this. read this whole thing and you will know why I say this... And dont use this as motivation. I did when people said the same to me, but you can not control the other person.

On the other hand you can not experience the learning part yourself but take everyones word for it.

Think of it like this. You can see a piece of candy that looks good to eat, yet everyone says no do not do it, it fell in dog ****. But it looks clean and you really want that candy and it doesnt smell like dog****. So you either eat it and taste the fact that its dog ****, or you can take everyones word for it. On one hand you will learn it yourself and experience it which is much more powerful, but at the same time suffer through the bad part. Or you can learn that it is bad but not as much as if you ate it.



I was similiar to you. I am 25 my ex is 22. We were best friends since highschool. She dropped out of HS, was a model for Mac (make up company)...Could have gotten a great job paying 75k a year, but kept putting off the GED. For some reason or another there was always a reason or excuse. She even went in to take the test and the fire alarms went off and the building had to be evacuated. Some things are signs bro. watch out for them...I went to school and became a badass- but dont get paid like one...yet.....But essentially the same thing and scenario.....Long story short, we are not together have a 3 year old son....... I learned sooo much over those 4 years that when I think i wasted my life (which I did somewhat) its not bad because I learned so much....Having said that, I think I would have been a lot better off just listening to everyone who is older, mainly my parents...... She is now married again with another kid, still no ged and now she has no job..When we were together she bounced around jobs too. Luckily i was good with money and how to use it/spend it.....I am guarantee that she will be divorced again and homeless within 2 years, probably by this fall.

I can not tell you what it is, but somehow, even though they seem more mature than you...I know mine was.. They are not.22 year old girls are 22 year old girls. They dont understand life yet... I know that wont make sense, but it is sooo freaking true its retarded.

The part about risk and diving head first..I agree with, but your situation is not one of them... Move somewhere, if you want, not because of her, and dont give up a good job or anything else...Ask yourself this.. Where would she be right now if she was not with you? She is probably a great person, but that answer right there should tell you everything you need to know. THe answer is simple, she would be with another guy, latched to him- same situation... That situation will always follow her around no matter who she is with until she gets her **** in gear. Girls like that normally do not until they hit rock rock bottom. And she never will until you are out of the picture, and the cycle will always continue as is now until she hits rock bottom. Which once again will not occur until you are out of the picture.

I know that sounds rough and I am SURE she is a really really great sweet girl. But just because she makes you feel good about yourself does not justify anything else.

My advice after all that crap----Do what you want, as you know what you will. Just be prepared to learn and learn as much as you can. In the end you will be a good person and a better one. And dont get down on yourself if things dont work out how you want. They rarely do. But they do always work themselves out in the end.

Good luck.





Hmmm. Looks like that was pretty solid after all. Page 4.


So- is she with that other guy still or did she latch on to a new one? I bet a new one. Just like I said.