ooops i messed up.....need advice

[PaintballCLE]

Ok so i go over my best friends (and his wifes) house today.....and when i get there......his wifes mother passed away....(lets keep in mind i am good friends with his wife too -- i even introduced him to her back in the day) after telling her im sorry to hear that and gave her a hug, she was telling me when the funeral was going to be.........then i blurt out "well at least it happened now and not during football season......or else i wouldn't have been able to come after all im going to all 16 games. I have too much money invested in this"

My best friend....while not a broncos fan, lives and dies browns(he goes to about 12-13 games a year)..........said "hell yeah me either" although i didn't think he was serious......as sad as this sounds I was.

Well this infuriated his wife, and she took the car and left........and wont answer his calls.

Now i fell partly (ok 99%) responsible for this.......any advice on what i should do? Is she jsut overreacting since her mother just died? Or did i just open up a whole can of worms.

Either way i feel like i need to do something..... any sugestions?

[Spider]

you have to get her a gift , so does he ......... one hellva apology letter ......

[ludo21]

you definitely meant what you said.

But regardless, that was a very very dumb thing to say man... i dont know what to do but to leave a message with an apology.

[JCMElway]

And then apologize in person later.

Good luck with that.

[PaintballCLE]

you definitely meant what you said.

But regardless, that was a very very dumb thing to say man... i dont know what to do but to leave a message with an apology.

lol no i know i meant what i said..........the thing is i know my friend said that to try to turn it into a joke so that she wouldnt get pissed.........but she took him seriously too and got pissed.

I didn't mean for it to come out that loud.... only so my friend could hear me lol DOH

[Ian BDB]

A gentleman, when he makes a mistake admits it immediately. You're the patch between the wife and husband. Get to her immediately, whether it means going to her or meeting a mutual location.

She's not mad at you, she's mad at her loss and she's mad at her husband for agreeing with you.

You're fully capable of fixing it, just put yourself in her shoes- seriously. Imagine what you'd need to hear and just say that.

Wait, you're supporting McCaine?

**** you. :~ohyah!:

[PaintballCLE]

well when i apologize.........should i play it off like it was a joke........and im sorry it wasn't a time to joke around.........or should i tell her i meant it, but it was an awful thing for me to say. Im leaning towards the joke lol

[Ian BDB]

well when i apologize.........should i play it off like it was a joke........and im sorry it wasn't a time to joke around.........or should i tell her i meant it, but it was an awful thing for me to say. Im leaning towards the joke lol

Don't down play anything. Admit the mistake, "I'm sorry, that was the most insensitive thing to say..." Follow that up with a, "I was just trying to lighten up the situation and I made a mistake, I was wrong, you can't make this situation light. I'm sure that was (husband's) idea as well..."

The thing that women really want to think is that they are the only person that has gone through this on the planet. So let her feel like that, she is a beautiful butterfly, despite what you learned from watching Fight Club.

[ludo21]

I wouldnt joke around in that way, but I would just say very seriously that Im sorry and it wasnt a time to be joking around.

[AZBroncomaniac]

Wow. Sorry, you and your bud are in the ****ehouse for a while.

I can't fathom the thought of that reaction, even with those I have joked with my entire life. Sorry, got no advice here.

[Ian BDB]

The other thing, after a bit of analysis, you said what you said, because you didn't know what else to say. It's okay to admit that. It was a self defense mechanism, depending on her level of intelligence she will accept that as well.

[Jason in LA]

I'm usually on the guy's side, and usually would tell a guy to be a man and stop taking crap from a woman, but damn, I can't believe you said that. I'm totally with the wife here. She should be pissed.

A simple apology is in order. But no ass kissing. Be a man lol.

[Rock Chalk]

Dude, you have serious issues. WTF is wrong with you?

[Florida_Bronco]

I'm usually on the guy's side, and usually would tell a guy to be a man and stop taking crap from a woman, but damn, I can't believe you said that. I'm totally with the wife here. She should be pissed.

A simple apology is in order. But no ass kissing. Be a man lol.

I agree. That was a bad thing to say and she is right to be upset.

Best thing you can do is step up and take it all on yourself. Tell her that you said something stupid, her husband know it and tried to turn it funny to prevent the inevitable anger.

You might be in the doghouse for awhile, but you can probably save the husband.

[PaintballCLE]

Dude, you have serious issues. WTF is wrong with you?

ok i think you guys are misunderstanding this.........i didn't say it to be "honest" i said it as a joke (even though deep down i meant it)......i had no idea my friend was gonna jump in on it like that.......there is no way i would have said that seriously.....i meant it as a joke...SHE KNEW I WAS JOKING, but when my friend jumped in she thought HE was being serious.

[Blueflame]

Ok so i go over my best friends (and his wifes) house today.....and when i get there......his wifes mother passed away....(lets keep in mind i am good friends with his wife too -- i even introduced him to her back in the day) after telling her im sorry to hear that and gave her a hug, she was telling me when the funeral was going to be.........then i blurt out "well at least it happened now and not during football season......or else i wouldn't have been able to come after all im going to all 16 games. I have too much money invested in this"

My best friend....while not a broncos fan, lives and dies browns(he goes to about 12-13 games a year)..........said "hell yeah me either" although i didn't think he was serious......as sad as this sounds I was.

Well this infuriated his wife, and she took the car and left........and wont answer his calls.

Now i fell partly (ok 99%) responsible for this.......any advice on what i should do? Is she jsut overreacting since her mother just died? Or did i just open up a whole can of worms.

Either way i feel like i need to do something..... any sugestions?

I'd suggest a profuse apology... women respond differently to the loss of a loved one than men do and it's a certainty that she was hurt by not just your remark but also by her husband's response to it. There's no use in trying to play it off as a joke... the damage is already done. She's hurting really bad and needs all the emotional support she can get. (just my $.02)

[Hogan11]

Yeah, it's definitely damage control time... you have to Man up and take responsibility for the whole thing

[Killericon]

I thought this sort of **** only happened on sitcoms.

[Florida_Bronco]

Yeah, it's definitely damage control time... you have to Man up and take responsibility for the whole thing

Yeah, he's gonna have to fall on this grenade for sure.

[That One Guy]

Well hell... you're already F'd.

If you talk to her... ask her if she misses her mom. When she says yes, tell her to bring the f'n car back or she'll be joining her. Then you and your buddy go to the bar. :)

Problem solved.

[BroncoMan4ever]

you screwed your boy. you need to grovel to her and he is going to have to buy some serious bling to get her back.

he can also forget about going to all those games this year if he wants to keep her

[worm]

Wow. Even I am not this insensitive.

End it now. Definitively.

Otherwise, every Bronco game you make this year will just remind her of this...and you and your bro will be repeatedly screwed. Some of the enjoyment WILL be sucked out of those games. She will find a way.

[manchambo]

I'm in wonderment.

There must be a drug that could help you, but I'm not sure what it would be. Why your mind would ever jump form death to the Broncos, particularly when there is no actual conflict, is a total mystery to me.

I have no idea how you can fix this. You revealed to her that you care about football far more than the the death of her mother, and somehow also got your idiot friend to do the some thing. I don't see how she'll ever think any better of you. You just have to hope that her love for your friend will help her overlook this astonishing character flaw. She doesn't love you, so there's no hope for you.

I don't think you have any viable option but to offer yourself for scientific research.

[manchambo]

ok i think you guys are misunderstanding this.........i didn't say it to be "honest" i said it as a joke (even though deep down i meant it)......i had no idea my friend was gonna jump in on it like that.......there is no way i would have said that seriously.....i meant it as a joke...SHE KNEW I WAS JOKING, but when my friend jumped in she thought HE was being serious.


So it's somehow supposed to make this seem better that your first reaction to hearing of someone's mother's death is to crack a lame joke?

[cutthemdown]

what can say other then I'm sorry I'm such a stupid man. Then tell her that you get so nervous dealing with stuff like this you always say something you regret. Then remind her that you really do feel for her loss and ask her if she can please forgive you beacause what she thinks about you is very important to you.

Also I would suggest showing up on a Sunday and taking her to brunch while the Broncos are playing. Show her football isn't more important then friends.

[dekers]

Ok so i go over my best friends (and his wifes) house today.....and when i get there......his wifes mother passed away....(lets keep in mind i am good friends with his wife too -- i even introduced him to her back in the day) after telling her im sorry to hear that and gave her a hug, she was telling me when the funeral was going to be.........then i blurt out "well at least it happened now and not during football season......or else i wouldn't have been able to come after all im going to all 16 games. I have too much money invested in this"

My best friend....while not a broncos fan, lives and dies browns(he goes to about 12-13 games a year)..........said "hell yeah me either" although i didn't think he was serious......as sad as this sounds I was.

Well this infuriated his wife, and she took the car and left........and wont answer his calls.

Now i fell partly (ok 99%) responsible for this.......any advice on what i should do? Is she jsut overreacting since her mother just died? Or did i just open up a whole can of worms.

Either way i feel like i need to do something..... any sugestions?

Man i tell you what you really #### up . If one of my friends had been this insensitive to me when my father passed away . I would have kick the #### out of them. I hope she forgives you friend , and she might forgive you but she will NEVER forget. As far as Suggestion's i think you should follow
IAN BDB advice:

Don't down play anything. Admit the mistake, "I'm sorry, that was the most insensitive thing to say..." Follow that up with a, "I was just trying to lighten up the situation and I made a mistake, I was wrong, you can't make this situation light. I'm sure that was (husband's) idea as well..."

The thing that women really want to think is that they are the only person that has gone through this on the planet. So let her feel like that, she is a beautiful butterfly, despite what you learned from watching Fight Club

[That One Guy]

what can say other then I'm sorry I'm such a stupid man. Then tell her that you get so nervous dealing with stuff like this you always say something you regret. Then remind her that you really do feel for her loss and ask her if she can please forgive you beacause what she thinks about you is very important to you.

Also I would suggest showing up on a Sunday and taking her to brunch while the Broncos are playing. Show her football isn't more important then friends.

Or take her week one and TELL HER the Broncos are playing... then proceed to your regularly scheduled Monday Night Game :)

What's done is done, if she knew you were joking then so be it. You can appologize but noone should ever bend over backward and beg someone to be their friend.

[cutthemdown]

Or take her week one and TELL HER the Broncos are playing... then proceed to your regularly scheduled Monday Night Game :)

What's done is done, if she knew you were joking then so be it. You can appologize but noone should ever bend over backward and beg someone to be their friend.

When someone is grieving over a parents death I would say you most certainly bend over backwards.

[That One Guy]

When someone is grieving over a parents death I would say you most certainly bend over backwards.

There's a fine line though between trying to make her feel better and trying to get the friend back. The friend will return if they feel like it. Anytime you have to work to make someone your friend, it's wasted effort. Appologizing can make some of the anger go away, taking her to brunch is excessive for me though.

Unless it's on Sunday and the games are on Monday, like I said.

[vancejohnson82]

wow...just wow...

[no-pseudo-fan]

A simple, "I sorry for being insensitive at your darkest moment" and a pink Jay Cutler jersery should be more than enough.

[ol number 7]

lol no i know i meant what i said..........the thing is i know my friend said that to try to turn it into a joke so that she wouldnt get pissed.........but she took him seriously too and got pissed.

I didn't mean for it to come out that loud.... only so my friend could hear me lol DOH

NFL Shop has alot of makeup stuff. My family doesn't even invite me to family events during football. Missed weddings for pre season games, family reunions, picnics etc. After 25 years they know better.

[Beantown Bronco]

Damn....you guys are a bunch of wussies....it's not like he punched her in the throat or anything.

[bronco_diesel]

ok i think you guys are misunderstanding this.........i didn't say it to be "honest" i said it as a joke (even though deep down i meant it)......i had no idea my friend was gonna jump in on it like that.......there is no way i would have said that seriously.....i meant it as a joke...SHE KNEW I WAS JOKING, but when my friend jumped in she thought HE was being serious.

i may as well jump in here.

i don't think those who responded are misunderstanding. we get it, you made an off the cuff remark about the broncos. it may have been (or attempted to be) delivered in a fashion to "lighten things up."

the problem is death is the harshest reality we face in life...and the simple fact that you were even thinking about the bronco's and made comment about it (regardless in what flavor it was delivered) shows that you do indeed place the broncos as priority over the loss of a friends loved one. we all make comments in humor and usually what we say is truly what we feel. you showed your hand - but you can also show your depth here. we all know you didn't intend to hurt her or cause trife. it was a stupid mistake and now your dealing with the fallout.

at this point the only thing you can do is apologize. don't sugar coat it, or try to explain yourself - just apologize, leave it simple and sincere. it's up to her as to whether she's willing to accept and forgive.

[Hotrod]

Holy **** when Alec thinks you have issues your pretty much ****ed Ha!

You owe it to your boy to do anything and everything to fix this mess. Seriously its on you man.

[Jason in LA]

Damn....you guys are a bunch of wussies....it's not like he punched her in the throat or anything.

Reading the responses, I agree with you. He's totally in the wrong, and he needs to apologize, but he shouldn't grovel, buy her anything, miss a game for her, or do anything that would kiss her ass. Man up doesn't mean be a pussy and kiss somebody's ass.

Here's the plan. Apologize. Tell her that you feel really bad. You feel like a big jerk, and you value her friendship. It's that simple. If she values your friendship and she's a sensible person she'll accept the apology and the friendship will resume. If she doesn't accept it or makes you try harder to apologize, screw her. You did your part. If she doesn't accept then screw the friendship. Tell her that if she crooks during football season and her funeral is during a Broncos game you aren't showing up. Yeah, that sounds like a good one ;D

[theAPAOps5]

People get uncomfortable around death. You made a joke based on reality. Stuff happens, and she is just emotional right now. Let it breath some and then explain that you meant no harm and am sorry.

As for the husband can't be resonsible for another mans idiot gene. We all sucumb to it every now and then.

[SoonerBronco]

Dude, you have serious issues. WTF is wrong with you?


REP!!! Alec you crack me up!:notworthy

[loborugger]

I like playing junior headshrink from time to time. So, in that light, here comes my 2 cents.

First off, I think every person has to own up to their own actions. I know, I know, in this way off wacky world where bubble gum addiction leads to serial killers, its an old school notion.

Therefore, your friend has to own up to what he said. You definitely laid a nice trap, but he fell into it. The disagreement is between him and her - you just provided a nice ignition point.

Also, in that light, all you really owe her is an apology. A sincere, heartfelt apology. And since she is a woman, you might wanna follow it up with a card, flowers, or whatever she really likes (I dont know her). Afterall, she is your friend, not your wife.

Finally, I dont know the time frame of how long she has been gone and refusing to return calls. However the longer that time is, the more I think there is a serious issue between them that has very little to do with the comment. I am gonna say that there are some issues between the two of them and this comment light the fuse. Just a guess. My experience is that things often work like that.

I absolve you of your comment. Go an sin no more. ROFL!

[HILife]

Ok so i go over my best friends (and his wifes) house today.....and when i get there......his wifes mother passed away....(lets keep in mind i am good friends with his wife too -- i even introduced him to her back in the day) after telling her im sorry to hear that and gave her a hug, she was telling me when the funeral was going to be.........then i blurt out "well at least it happened now and not during football season......or else i wouldn't have been able to come after all im going to all 16 games. I have too much money invested in this"

My best friend....while not a broncos fan, lives and dies browns(he goes to about 12-13 games a year)..........said "hell yeah me either" although i didn't think he was serious......as sad as this sounds I was.

Well this infuriated his wife, and she took the car and left........and wont answer his calls.

Now i fell partly (ok 99%) responsible for this.......any advice on what i should do? Is she jsut overreacting since her mother just died? Or did i just open up a whole can of worms.

Either way i feel like i need to do something..... any sugestions?

My best advice is...Hilarious! Hilarious! Hilarious! ROFL! Ha! :spit: That is all.

[HILife]

Well hell... you're already F'd.

If you talk to her... ask her if she misses her mom. When she says yes, tell her to bring the f'n car back or she'll be joining her. Then you and your buddy go to the bar. :)

Problem solved.

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA LOL LOL LOL wow!!! only the most F'd up people post here.

[PaintballCLE]

Ok guys.........first, thanks for all the advice.........second, i just got in contact with her. The reason she didn't answer her phone is because when she stormed out, she forgot to take it. She said she went to her dads house, and that she really wasn't mad.....she was just pretending to be to get back at her husband (my friend) for saying that. She said she knew we were joking, and she expected it from me, but when he said it...(though she knew he was joking) wanted to get back at him. So after i offered my apologies, she said they weren't needed because she knew i/we were joking. PHEW i think we dodged a bullet here!

[DenverBroncosJM]

Tourettes is very tough to deal with. I would suggest going to see your doctor right away.

[Hotrod]

Ok guys.........first, thanks for all the advice.........second, i just got in contact with her. The reason she didn't answer her phone is because when she stormed out, she forgot to take it. She said she went to her dads house, and that she really wasn't mad.....she was just pretending to be to get back at her husband (my friend) for saying that. She said she knew we were joking, and she expected it from me, but when he said it...(though she knew he was joking) wanted to get back at him. So after i offered my apologies, she said they weren't needed because she knew i/we were joking. PHEW i think we dodged a bullet here!

Thats great news.....that or your being set up. I'd avoid eating over for awhile :)

[Dagmar]

I am going to hell, I know but I laughed my arse off at this. Top notch comedy!

[Jason in LA]

and that she really wasn't mad.....she was just pretending to be to get back at her husband

Just like a chick, all show just to get her way or prove her point. Too many guys now a days fall for that crap. That's how chicks run the relationship.

It's funny how you, and probably her husband, get all paranoid over her being mad. Guys need to stop being afraid of their women.

[Orange_Beard]

Culter Jersey.

[Beantown Bronco]

Culter Jersey.

Sarah Culter? They sell her "jersey"?

http://sports.webshots.com/photo/1326035924013736246YuNYvJ

[Hotrod]

Just like a chick, all show just to get her way or prove her point. Too many guys now a days fall for that crap. That's how chicks run the relationship.

It's funny how you, and probably her husband, get all paranoid over her being mad. Guys need to stop being afraid of their women.


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[Hotrod]

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[Bronx33]

Holy **** when Alec thinks you have issues your pretty much ****ed Ha!You owe it to your boy to do anything and everything to fix this mess. Seriously its on you man.



LMAO!


Seriously though i fully agree with what jason said i will add that people make mistakes and say things they wish they could take back, she should understand that and i really think she is going a bit overboard by running off.

[PLOWHORSE]

LMAO!


Seriously though i fully agree with what jason said i will add that people make mistakes and say things they wish they could take back, she should understand that and i really think she is going a bit overboard by running off.

I agree with Bronx...she ws caught up in the moment dude...she will mourn for as long as it takes, and she probably will admit she was emotional and took your remark, as dumb as it was, badly. A simple Hallmark card and some baked Ziti should do the trick ala Tony Soprano.

[ColoradoBuff]

Do you have a pic of the wife? ;)

[Inkana7]

I thought lines like that were only said in Sitcoms.

I really don't know what to tell you.

[That One Guy]

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3170/2336010906_84c4a50d28.jpg?v=0

LOL Daaaaaaaamn! I hope she learned her lesson...

[Taco John]

Wow.

"I'm glad your mom died now, and not during football season!"

That dude just lost a girlfriend. That's the kind of stuff that you never live down with a woman.

[ScottXray]

I have been known to be insensitive at times...but that was REALLY REALLY
dumb. Your friend is F****D, and so are you. Women don't forget this kind of stuff, EVER!

If you can, tell her that you seem to make stupid remarks like this when you just don't know how to react to the situation at hand. So you blurted this out while not thinking how much it would hurt her. While trying to manage it this way may eventually get you back to 'friend" status, her hubby is goinjg to have to come up with something like"I couldn't believe he actually said that, and rather than punch him, I tried to treat it like a joke, by repeating it."
He's in the dog house for an indefinite amount of time, even with that and major groveling, bling and flowers.

Ad nauseum. Get your stories straight and apologize with "viggah"! Good luck!Hilarious!

[Sassy]

That was very insensitive...joke or not...even if she took it as a joke, it would still be nice to send flowers or something...

[Rock Chalk]

ok i think you guys are misunderstanding this.........i didn't say it to be "honest" i said it as a joke (even though deep down i meant it)......i had no idea my friend was gonna jump in on it like that.......there is no way i would have said that seriously.....i meant it as a joke...SHE KNEW I WAS JOKING, but when my friend jumped in she thought HE was being serious.

I dont think anyone misunderstood anything. Even a joke like that is out of line, in bad taste and at best a very poor judgment call at worst it makes you to be one of the dumbest sumbitches ever.

You broke two cardinal rules: 1) You made a joke about the idiocy of the woman's mind with a woman present. 2) You screwed your friend by baiting him into the same joke.

He is an idiot, but you set him up to be the idiot. Which makes you a colossal prick and I wouldnt ever talk to you again if I were him and I damn sure know my wife would not allow you back into the house...ever. And if momma aint happy, I aint happy so your ass wouldnt be my friend anymore.

Next time, keep your trap shut until women are out of earshot.

[oubronco]

HA HA thats some pretty ****ed up ****

[gyldenlove]

I dont think anyone misunderstood anything. Even a joke like that is out of line, in bad taste and at best a very poor judgment call at worst it makes you to be one of the dumbest sumb****es ever.

You broke two cardinal rules: 1) You made a joke about the idiocy of the woman's mind with a woman present. 2) You screwed your friend by baiting him into the same joke.

He is an idiot, but you set him up to be the idiot. Which makes you a colossal prick and I wouldnt ever talk to you again if I were him and I damn sure know my wife would not allow you back into the house...ever. And if momma aint happy, I aint happy so your ass wouldnt be my friend anymore.

Next time, keep your trap shut until women are out of earshot.

Actually, you can argue the setup both ways. If your friend comes over and sets you up to be big time stupid in front of your girlfriend, if you can walk away from the setup in a natural way it will make you look great. The easiest way to look good is to look better than the alternatives, so if you can look more mature and less idiotic than your friends in front of your girl, you are ahead on points.

[Broncoman13]

So what's the outcome, it's been a week now right? She over it or still upset about it.

btw, stupid move but you already knew that. Xray is right, PEOPLE remember stuff for ever!

You can save a hundred children from a burning building but f--k one goat and that's what everybody will remember, in other words, you can't just be good sometimes.

[Beantown Bronco]

To everyone still bagging on him, you people really need to read ALL the posts in a thread:

Ok guys.........first, thanks for all the advice.........second, i just got in contact with her. The reason she didn't answer her phone is because when she stormed out, she forgot to take it. She said she went to her dads house, and that she really wasn't mad.....she was just pretending to be to get back at her husband (my friend) for saying that. She said she knew we were joking, and she expected it from me, but when he said it...(though she knew he was joking) wanted to get back at him. So after i offered my apologies, she said they weren't needed because she knew i/we were joking. PHEW i think we dodged a bullet here!

[TailgateNut]

ok i think you guys are misunderstanding this.........i didn't say it to be "honest" i said it as a joke (even though deep down i meant it)......i had no idea my friend was gonna jump in on it like that.......there is no way i would have said that seriously.....i meant it as a joke...SHE KNEW I WAS JOKING, but when my friend jumped in she thought HE was being serious.


Serious or joking, who gives a ****. That has to qualify a stupid asshole comment of the month, if not year. WTF was going on with your "gray matter"?

[OABB]

I don't see the problem here. If my own mother died during a bronco game, I would fill the bathtub with ice, and keep her cool until the game is over.

[worm]

I don't see the problem here. If my own mother died during a bronco game, I would fill the bathtub with ice, and keep her cool until the game is over.

Pre-season game as well?

[Beantown Bronco]

I don't see the problem here. If my own mother died during a bronco game, I would fill the bathtub with ice, and keep her cool until the game is over.

Not me.

I need that ice to keep the beer ball cold.

[OABB]

Not me.

I need that ice to keep the beer ball cold.

kill two birds with one stone and...


aw man, I'm going to burn in hell.

[bronco0608]

Simple formula:

1. Tell her you don't know how to deal with grief, so in turn, the only thing you know what to do is try to lighten the situation.

2. Tell her a story about how a relative passed away and you still haven't been able to deal with the grief. You just don't know how to act.

3. Tell her you like to run away from grief. It hurts you deep inside your core and you hate feeling that way.

4. Tell her you didn't even cry at a relatives funeral and didn't even go, actually.

Play the "i dont' know how to deal with grief" card. That's your best bet.

And by the way, that was one of the dumbest things to ever say after someone's mother passes. You ****ing talked about football and told her you are glad she didn't pass away on during football season. That's just moronic.

[AlphaOmega]

Simple formula:

1. Tell her you don't know how to deal with grief, so in turn, the only thing you know what to do is try to lighten the situation.

2. Tell her a story about how a relative passed away and you still haven't been able to deal with the grief. You just don't know how to act.

3. Tell her you like to run away from grief. It hurts you deep inside your core and you hate feeling that way.

4. Tell her you didn't even cry at a relatives funeral and didn't even go, actually.

Play the "i dont' know how to deal with grief" card. That's your best bet.

And by the way, that was one of the dumbest things to ever say after someone's mother passes. You ****ing talked about football and told her you are glad she didn't pass away on during football season. That's just moronic.

This is the answer!? Tell me you are NOT serious?!

[Bronco_Beerslug]

well when i apologize.........should i play it off like it was a joke........and im sorry it wasn't a time to joke around.........or should i tell her i meant it, but it was an awful thing for me to say. Im leaning towards the joke lolWell, apparently you really don't give a sh8t so what's the problem?

[loborugger]

So what ever became of this mess?