Ive just be informed my father has passed

[Los Broncos]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.

[Spider]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.

Man ... sorry to hear that Bro , I know it may not mean much , but at least you can learn from your dad mistakes , with your kids

[Sassy]

Sorry Lynch :(
How come she didn't call you sooner?

[Los Broncos]

Man ... sorry to hear that Bro , I know it may not mean much , but at least you can learn from your dad mistakes , with your kids

Thanks Spider, me and my son are close and thats something that me and my dad never had.

I just want to give him what my father never did for me.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry Lynch :(
How come she didn't call you sooner?

Well, back in 89 her mother and brother died.

It was a hard time for her because we were close.

We lost contact and she didn't know where to find me.

I just wish i would have tried to find her sooner.

I looked her up in the whites pages, first person i found was her.

[Orange_Beard]

Sorry to hear that. Don't know what else to say.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry to hear that. Don't know what else to say.

Thats all i need man, thank you.

I have support from my remaining family, it just feels good to know you care a little.

[Orange_Beard]

I wish there were more I could say or do.

[Los Broncos]

I wish there were more I could say or do.

I feel ya, same here.

[Sassy]

So you contacted your Aunt then? That makes sense now.

[Los Broncos]

So you contacted your Aunt then? That makes sense now.

Well for the past couple of months ive been trying to find my father, no luck.

So today i went to whitepages.com and found her, called her up and left a message.

[Los Broncos]

I don't mean to get all milky, but all i ever wanted was a father.

It hurts more now then ever.

[Blueflame]

I'm so sorry to hear the news, Lynch... many positive thoughts and prayers will be coming your way.

[Los Broncos]

I'm so sorry to hear the news, Lynch... many positive thoughts and prayers will be coming your way.

Thank you Blue very much.

[Beantown Bronco]

Sorry to hear the news.....

[sutoazul]

hey Sorry Lynch to know you've been going through this. It truly sucks. I hope the best for you and your son. Take this bad experience and build it into a positive one with your own kid. Teach him the value in that too.

[Los Broncos]

hey Sorry Lynch to know you've been going through this. It truly sucks. I hope the best for you and your son. Take this bad experience and build it into a positive one with your own kid. Teach him the value in that too.

Thank you, i use this as a positive.

[smalltowngrll]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.


Lynch...I'm sorry to hear of your news.

I do know somewhat how you feel as I found out a year later that my natural father (who was an alcoholic, too) passed away. That was back in 2001.

Though you never were able to 'say' goodbye, you still have the opportunity to take the good things from him and allow them to live on in you and your son. You will be able to show your son the good things about your father!

Always remember that our loved ones who have passed live on in us and the memories we hold close to!!

My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

[Los Broncos]

Lynch...I'm sorry to hear of your news.

I do know somewhat how you feel as I found out a year later that my natural father (who was an alcoholic, too) passed away. That was back in 2001.

Though you never were able to 'say' goodbye, you still have the opportunity to take the good things from him and allow them to live on in you and your son. You will be able to show your son the good things about your father!

Always remember that our loved ones who have passed live on in us and the memories we hold close to!!

My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

Thank you STG, i just think about the short time we had together.

Memories mend the pain.

[TailgateNut]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.


Lynch, my condolances. May you find peace in knowing he passed away peacefully.

One question for you. Why haven't you seen nor stayed in contact for over 16 years?

[Crushaholic]

As much as he made bad decisions in his life, he's still your father. I can imagine that it hurts. May you find the strength to deal with this emotionally...

[Los Broncos]

Lynch, my condolances. May you find peace in knowing he passed away peacefully.

One question for you. Why haven't you seen nor stayed in contact for over 16 years?

When i was 17 my grandmother passed away, which is aunts mother and my fathers mother.

Then my uncle committed suicide, my aunt was going threw a hard time.

And at 19 i went off to Utah (job corps), lost contact with my father who was homeless at the time.

I had my life to live, i figured my aunt would come around after a while but never did.

[Los Broncos]

As much as he made bad decisions in his life, he's still your father. I can imagine that it hurts. May you find the strength to deal with this emotionally...

Thanks buddy.

[AZ!]

I don't mean to get all milky, but all i ever wanted was a father.

It hurts more now then ever.

I know it's hard because I am in the same boat, not exactly because my father is still alive. However, when I think of my father (since we have never spent any real time together) I try to always remember the good things. The things we have never done together, I sure make sure that I do them with my kids.

Stay strong and hang in there brother, things will get better over time. My prayers will be with you and your family during this difficult time!

[theAPAOps5]

Hey buddy sorry for your loss. I myself have a father that lets just say I call the sperm donor. He hasn't been there much as I have grown in life. But there is always that strange bond so even though you were seperated I know its still pains you. My thoughts are with you and take man!

[Billy Clyde Puckett]

Sorry for your loss Lynch. give that son of yours a big hug.

[Los Broncos]

Hey buddy sorry for your loss. I myself have a father that lets just say I call the sperm donor. He hasn't been there much as I have grown in life. But there is always that strange bond so even though you were seperated I know its still pains you. My thoughts are with you and take man!

Thank you very much.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry for your loss Lynch. give that son of yours a big hug.

Hes coming over for the weekend, ill make sure i do that, thank you.

[crawdad]

My brother calls our Dad, Bio-dad. He left when I was 6 and lives out west now. Sorry to hear of your loss, Lynch. Find comfort in the fact that you will not make those mistakes with your boy. How is the military search going?

[Bronx33]

I don't mean to get all milky, but all i ever wanted was a father.

It hurts more now then ever.



Just keep your head up and be there for your kids,

[Los Broncos]

My brother calls our Dad, Bio-dad. He left when I was 6 and lives out west now. Sorry to hear of your loss, Lynch. Find comfort in the fact that you will not make those mistakes with your boy. How is the military search going?

I'm still thinking about it, but in the end i prolly wont go.

[Los Broncos]

Just keep your head up and be there for your kids,

Thanks Bronx, thank you.

[broncocalijohn]

I don't mean to get all milky, but all i ever wanted was a father.

It hurts more now then ever.


sorry about your loss but the best thing to do is end the cycle of bad parenting. Seems you have done that with your son. Best thing is not to mimic the wrongs of people that are supposed to direct us the correct way in life, but to do the opposite and learn from it. I hope you can go through this tough time. I hear a game in San Diego helps a little.

[Meck77]

Sorry to hear the news man. When I lost my mom several years ago I promised myself that I wouldn't take a single day for granted. It really sped up my plans in life and brought me closer to my remaining family. I was close with her but did lose her without warning. It was very difficult not being able to say goodbye.

I'll pray for you guys.

[bronco610]

Hey Lynch, Sorry to hear about your dad. Your thoughts helped a lot when I was talking about losing my father on the bike for Sam thread. As everyone has said, try and teach your son the good things and know the bond there will help carry you through. My condolences on your father.

[Los Broncos]

sorry about your loss but the best thing to do is end the cycle of bad parenting. Seems you have done that with your son. Best thing is not to mimic the wrongs of people that are supposed to direct us the correct way in life, but to do the opposite and learn from it. I hope you can go through this tough time. I hear a game in San Diego helps a little.

Thanks John, im working on the SD game.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry to hear the news man. When I lost my mom several years ago I promised myself that I wouldn't take a single day for granted. It really sped up my plans in life and brought me closer to my remaining family. I was close with her but did lose her without warning. It was very difficult not being able to say goodbye.

I'll pray for you guys.

Its hard accepting that i never was able to say goodbye.

I just think of the short time we had together on this earth.

The power to let go it sometimes hard to find i guess.

[Los Broncos]

Hey Lynch, Sorry to hear about your dad. Your thoughts helped a lot when I was talking about losing my father on the bike for Sam thread. As everyone has said, try and teach your son the good things and know the bond there will help carry you through. My condolences on your father.

Thanks for being here when i needed you, it means more than you know.

[Jana®]

I am praying for you also, Lynch. My heart goes out to you, that sucks.

[REB]

Very sorry for your loss Lynch. Thoughts and prayers go out to you.

[Los Broncos]

I am praying for you also, Lynch. My heart goes out to you, that sucks.

Thanks, it means a lot.

[Los Broncos]

Very sorry for your loss Lynch. Thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Thank you brother.

[Northman]

Sorry to hear about your father man. Its got to be tough but hang in there.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry to hear about your father man. Its got to be tough but hang in there.

It does man, im hanging tough.

[Los Broncos]

I never take death hard till later, when i read of hear something.

Today i shed a tear thinking of my father.

[Arkansas Bronco]

Sorry bro, and I definatly know how it feels to grow up without a father. My mom and dad got a divorce when I was one.

[Los Broncos]

Sorry bro, and I definatly know how it feels to grow up without a father. My mom and dad got a divorce when I was one.

Mine were never married, and somehow ive done the same.

But me and my son are close, that easies the pain a little.

I was just listening to some Pink Floyd, and it reminded me of him. :)

[Blueflame]

Mine were never married, and somehow ive done the same.

But me and my son are close, that easies the pain a little.

I was just listening to some Pink Floyd, and it reminded me of him. :)

I can relate... my Dad passed away 2 years ago last month and there are still times when the grief is as fresh as it was immediately after he passed on. Time does help to some extent, but there will always be "triggers"... a song, a picture, or a memory that brings it all back.

[Los Broncos]

I can relate... my Dad passed away 2 years ago last month and there are still times when the grief is as fresh as it was immediately after he passed on. Time does help to some extent, but there will always be "triggers"... a song, a picture, or a memory that brings it all back.

I feel bad at first, but then i grieve alone.

I never let anyone see the pain on my face, i hide behind a mask i guess.

Just needed to get it out...

[Blueflame]

I feel bad at first, but then i grieve alone.

I never let anyone see the pain on my face, i hide behind a mask i guess.

Just needed to get it out...

I try to do that as well because it upsets my husband and kids when I'm in a sad mood... and after two years, they tend to think I should be "over it"... but those moments do still come (like the anniversary of his passing, Fathers Day, his birthday... and of course,Thanksgiving and Christmas). One has to work through the grieving process and each person is an individual; there's no set timetable; each person has to deal with loss in the way that works for them.

[gunns]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.

I'm so sorry LM. I believe you will see him again but that's a whole other story. Concentrate on whatever good memories you do have. I know what you are going through as I haven't spoken with my mom in over 7 years and I doubt I ever will. I just think of the good times and like your dad if she ever goes all the bad things on earth will be forgotten by her. I've already forgotten. He knows how you feel.

[Los Broncos]

I'm so sorry LM. I believe you will see him again but that's a whole other story. Concentrate on whatever good memories you do have. I know what you are going through as I haven't spoken with my mom in over 7 years and I doubt I ever will. I just think of the good times and like your dad if she ever goes all the bad things on earth will be forgotten by her. I've already forgotten. He knows how you feel.

Thanks, sucks that you haven't talked to her.

I talk to mother once a week, but i know when she has sunken down because she wont return my calls.

Sucks because im so far away, time for a visit i guess.

[Los Broncos]

I try to do that as well because it upsets my husband and kids when I'm in a sad mood... and after two years, they tend to think I should be "over it"... but those moments do still come (like the anniversary of his passing, Fathers Day, his birthday... and of course,Thanksgiving and Christmas). One has to work through the grieving process and each person is an individual; there's no set timetable; each person has to deal with loss in the way that works for them.

Its tough to find that balance between the present and past.

You cant help how you feel at a giving time, but then again you don't want to bring the people around you.

With me, it will pass with time.

But i cant help but think sometimes, he was out there dying and i was here.

So close but yet so far, thats what i cant get over....

[orinjkrush]

"fathers are eternal mysteries put on the earth to trouble their sons ...as well as teach them."

"road to perdition" in reverse. didn't speak to my father for over 15 years. had mixed feelings when he departed.

just do right by your son. someday it may make sense.

[REB]

I try to do that as well because it upsets my husband and kids when I'm in a sad mood... and after two years, they tend to think I should be "over it"... but those moments do still come (like the anniversary of his passing, Fathers Day, his birthday... and of course,Thanksgiving and Christmas). One has to work through the grieving process and each person is an individual; there's no set timetable; each person has to deal with loss in the way that works for them.



QFT

October this year will be the 4th year of my Moms unexpected passing and there are times when the hurt feels just as strong or stronger then it did then. God knows I miss her.

[Taco John]

Just got off of the phone with my aunt that i haven't talked too in 17 years!

She informed me that my father passed away last year from cancer.

He was an alcoholic and drug user, he passed away peacefully with no pain.

The last time i seen him was the summer of 91.

A lot of things come to mind at this time.

The times we had, the things we never did together.

He never got to see his grandson, we never got to attend a football game.

The hardest part is never getting to say goodbye to him.

In his suffering he asked about me many times and i thought of him.

It hurts to know that i will never see him again or my son will never meet him.

I'm just asking for support from some of you, it would make me feel a lot better.



Sorry to hear about this challenge that has been put in your path. I'm certain that it's going to be a difficult one to cope with.

My close friends and I were talking about our fathers on the way up to the mountain. We all had our ups and downs about them. In the end, the sentiment was the following:

The best thing a guy can do when it comes to their own relationships with their father is remember and treasure the good things, and never forget the bad things -- for they are signposts on the road of fatherhood that tell us what to avoid with our own children.

God bless you as you try to figure this whole situation out.

[Sassy]

The best thing a guy can do when it comes to their own relationships with their father is remember and treasure the good things, and never forget the bad things -- for they are signposts on the road of fatherhood that tell us what to avoid with our own children.

Nice advice TJ!

[Los Broncos]

Sorry to hear about this challenge that has been put in your path. I'm certain that it's going to be a difficult one to cope with.

My close friends and I were talking about our fathers on the way up to the mountain. We all had our ups and downs about them. In the end, the sentiment was the following:

The best thing a guy can do when it comes to their own relationships with their father is remember and treasure the good things, and never forget the bad things -- for they are signposts on the road of fatherhood that tell us what to avoid with our own children.

God bless you as you try to figure this whole situation out.

Thanks TJ, certain things in my life surface every now and then.

I try to face them head on instead of shoving it down inside.

[Spider]

Man I was in tears today , my kids threw a fit when I left out this time ...... I am sure your father loved you down deep. he had to of ......

[Punisher]

r.i.p

[Los Broncos]

Was thinking about taking a little trip this weekend to where me and and him would hang out.

He would make me die laughing, little one liners are cool.

[REB]

The best thing a guy can do when it comes to their own relationships with their father is remember and treasure the good things, and never forget the bad things -- for they are signposts on the road of fatherhood that tell us what to avoid with our own children.

Nice advice TJ!


x2

[Los Broncos]

Well, tonight is a bad night for me.

My girlfriend of seven years has sat down and told me that she no longer loves me.

It has crushed me to the bone, very emotional.

I feel like I should take all of the blame for this not working out in the end.

The hardest part was hearing another human being tell me they no longer love me.

I called my son to talk to him, it hurt because they are close.


She told me there is no way to work this out, she is moving on.

Now I'm stuck with no place to go really, says we cant be roommates.

All I can think about is being near my family and wanting to see my son very badly.

I know its apart of reality, but its hard to take.

[Blueflame]

That sucks, Lynch.... I'm sorry you're having to go through this. :(

[Los Broncos]

That sucks, Lynch.... I'm sorry you're having to go through this. :(

Thanks, did it to myself I guess.

Things always work out in the end.

[dreasher54]

You and your family are in my prayers.

[Los Broncos]

You and your family are in my prayers.

Thank you kind sir, your words and actions make it easier.