The Marriage advice thread...

[Sassy]

In honor of Masterpain's engagement :)
Of course, I have no marriage advice, since I'm not married. So, I'll let you guys go at it! ;D :devil:

[eddie mac]

Dont do it. There's my advice in a nutshell.

[ak1971]

Marry someone who puts up with your gambling, drinking, broncos habit.

[Hotwheelz]

Trophy wife.

[heydensmom]

LOL worship her like the goddess she is ;D

[Sassy]

LOL worship her like the goddess she is ;D

There ya go! Ha!

[Orange_Beard]

Get a plant.

[Jason in LA]

Dont do it. There's my advice in a nutshell.


And if you did it, get out while the gettin' is good.

Stippers are better than wives. ;D I'm kidding...kind of ;D

[brncs_fan]

LAS VEGAS! ELOPE! DO ANYTHING OTHER THAN SPEND A BUNCH OF MONEY ON A BIG WEDDING!


Does that cover it?

[Jason in LA]

Get a pre-nup, but not one done by Michael Stahan's lawyers. Good Lord did he get taken out back and robbed. She got like $7 mill off the top, and the half of what was left. She's richer than he is now.

Okay, I need to stop. This is the marriage advice thread, not the divorce advice thread.

Good luck Masterpain.

[Ray Finkle]

A ring doesn't clog a hole.......it's good advice...

[Atlas]

You thought the bachelor party was wild wait until the divorce party...That is insane!!

[Atlas]

Instead of getting married you should just find a woman you absolutley hate and buy her a house.

[heydensmom]

More advise, but a big house you live downstairs, and she lives upstairs. You have your broncos computer play room, and she has the rest of the house and be happy with that, because that's all your ever going to get.

[Hogan11]

Get a plant.

Ha!

[jayman_37]

LAS VEGAS! ELOPE! DO ANYTHING OTHER THAN SPEND A BUNCH OF MONEY ON A BIG WEDDING!


Does that cover it?

Also since I am newly engaged and going through the planning process. She will get pissed because you don't get all gung ho about planning. I just say whatever she wants and then I am obviously not excited enough so I get the look. So you got that to look forward to.

[Clockwork Orange]

Best advice I can give is don't sweat the small stuff, give each other space when needed and spoil her unexpectedly from time to time.

Those things have kept my wife fooled into thinking I'm a good guy for a long time. :)

[BroncoInferno]

The question you need to ask yourself is this: "Would I want to wake up next to her mom every morning for the rest of my life?"

If her mom is not much to look at, you might want to reconsider.

[Hogan11]

W.C. Fields on marriage:
http://www.funthingies.com/quotes/wcfields.jpg
"Marriage is better than leprosy, because it's easier to get rid of."
Secretary: "It must be hard to lose your mother-in-law."
W.C: "Yes it is, very hard. It's almost impossible."
"Women are like elephants. I like to look at 'em, but I wouldn't want to own one."
"Few things in life are more embarrassing than the necessity of having to inform an old friend that you have just got engaged to his fiancée."
"Marry an outdoorswoman. Then if you throw her out into the yard for the night, she can still survive."

[Barry Ramey]

I'm not married myself, but I think to a have a successful marriage, both need to be willing to compromise and you genuinely like spending time together. There's more to a marriage of course, but if you have those two things, I think a great chance of having a lasting, happy marriage.

[smalltowngrll]

Definitely your best friend! Marry your best friend. Communication.

[Spider]

Been Married over 15 years same woman .......... not sure if I am bragging or complaining .........
secret to marriage = if you are a man , everything , I mean everything is your fault ........
if she isnt talking to you . you are the problem , doesnt matter what you did or didnt do .........
if momma isnt happy , no one is happy ..........
never go to bed pissed off ..........

[Spider]

oh .And think before you speak ........I am very guilty of this one ........... one time my Mother in law , said I am down to 150 pounds , I said 150 pounds with those thighs?...........I was in the dog house for months

[24champ]

My advice is to buy a nice couch that your comfortable sleeping in.;D

[Atlas]

I'm not married myself, but I think to a have a successful marriage, both need to be willing to compromise and you genuinely like spending time together. There's more to a marriage of course, but if you have those two things, I think a great chance of having a lasting, happy marriage.


Yeah you're definatley not married. Hilarious!

[watermock]

LOL worship her like the goddess she is ;D

Spank her doggie style. It's amazing how women can master an art as difficult as spending three hours primping but don't seem to be able to run a microwave oven.

[Florida_Bronco]

Marry someone who makes you better a better person...so marry a Husker fan :)

Congrats on the engagement.

[broncocalijohn]

She is a very pretty girl. I hope the thing that turns her off of sex is not wedding cake. What she does BEFORE marriage doesnt mean she keeps it going after marriage. Work out issues before you get married. We did it through the Catholic church and it brings out things that you might not have been brought up before. Make sure huge amounts of debt is paid by debtor before marriage. Not talking about car payments but crap like nordstrom credit card. Dont take on someone else's debt.

[broncocalijohn]

Spank her doggie style. It's amazing how women can master an art as difficult as spending three hours primping but don't seem to be able to run a microwave oven.

Yes true but when was the last time your "woman" needed to put jack daniels in the microwave for you.

[CHEF LUIGI]

aks her if she loves you.
then ask her what love means. then tell her what you reallyb think about her mother or something that you really dislike about her.
then ask her again if she loves you.
if you think she is just telling you what you want to hear, call her mother an ugly name and see how she responds.
the advice about the comfortable couch is smart.
men marry women, hoping they will never change, and they always do.
women marry men, thinking they will change them and they never do.
men see women as they are not as what they will become.
women see men as something they can be, not for what they are.
is it any wonder why so many marriages end in divorce or homicide?
some women think a marriage is all about the wedding, avoid those women at all cost!

[maven]

My advice? Break off the engagement. You want to bone the same woman for the next 30 years? You only live once. There's billions of women on this planet that need pleasure.

[CBF1]

I'd hit it :) opps wrong thread lol

Been there done that.... I am not the one to ask about marriage, It starts out good, but goes to hell in a handbag quickly. Personally, Buy her a dog, live together and change the subject if she brings it up again.

[broncoblue]

Definitely your best friend! Marry your best friend. Communication.

oooops......isnt there a law against marrying my dog?

my advice haahaah is dont listen to me ive failed twice:sunshine:

[baja]

Someone said marry your best friend...

Marry your best friend only if you enjoy boneing your best friend.

[BFDD]

The leading cause for divorce is marriage.

Just word for the wise, If you buy ANYTHING that you always wanted while married, expect your wife to sue you’re a$$ off to try and get it during the divorce. That nice shiny boat you bought with your bonus money one year, yup, you guessed it, not yours. Or that $750 Elway signed super bowl helmet, not yours.

Men stand to gain nothing from marriage, and as Strahan found out, women stand to gain everything.

[clarkster]

marry your best friend only if you want to eventually hate them. seriously, i love my wife but shes the most irritating person i know right now. i am in love with my daughter though so there you go.
if i had to do it again, i probably would just because of my little one, however, thats about it.
advice? only thing i can say is be a jerk from the get go, then you can either claim that youre improving or drop the "hey you knew who i was when we got married" line.
also, a little known fact, always have a place to run, you cannot win a fight no matter what, best thing to do is run to the garage/lake/bar/etc...and deal with it later. if you dont already, get a hobby that doesnt include her.
i got a ton of pet peeves, and most i have to tolerate as there isnt enough hours in the day, so i am not the one to ask for advice. again, had i known, i wouldve bought a dog and called it good there.

[dbfan21]

I never imagined this board to be full of such cynical people when it comes to marriage. I get the sense that a lot of it is in jest, but if it isn't, that's pretty sad.

Maybe I got lucky with the one I married. I've known her for almost 9 years and we have been married for nearly 6. It seems like I have violated a lot of the "warnings" that have been posted here, but also followed through on some recommendations. I took on her college loan debt whenb we got married (I had none). I bought her a dog the first time she brought up getting pregnant. That stalled the conversation for about 18 months. Then, I bought her a second one to delay the convo for 3 more months. We now have 2 kids and they are wonderful.

My strongest recommendations for a good marriage are:

1. Communicate. Let her know how you're feeling as soon as something upsets you. If it builds up, it'll blow up. Encourage her to do the same.

2. Never go to bed angry at each other. (Someone posted this earlier)

3. Split the responsibilities 50-50. I got that advice some from old fart when he learned we were engaged and it has been some of the best advice I ever received. If you're pulling your weight around the house, she will give you a lot of slack when it comes to worshipping the Broncos or hanging with your buddies.

4. Surprise her with flowers at her place of business from time to time (not on the expected days, i.e. Valentines, b-day, etc). Every chick likes to get flowers in front of co-workers.

5. Tell her that she is beautiful. Tell her you love her. Tell her that her outfit looks great on her. Hopefully you don't have to lie on this one, because it is important for her to hear.

This last one is optional b/c it all depends on what you believe, but if you claim yourself as a Christian, go to church regularly. I say this because I have seen a major impact on my life and marriage because of it.

Good luck! :welcome:

[redrage]

I can say that my wife is my best friend, but there are things that I would tell my guy friends that I would NEVER tell my wife.

The criteria that I tell most couples who are thinking about getting married is that you are selecting a life partner. The romantic feelings and infatuations that new lovers feel can sometimes cloud over more serious differences that, once that infatuation period subsides, will rear its ugly head.

I'm not saying that you have to agree on everything. Like someone said, don't sweat the small stuff. The arguments that my wife and I have are usually over relatively petty things. That's why we are always able to make up and move forward.

But on life-altering decisions, both of you should be on the same page. You are going to be LIFE partners. Yes, love them, find them sexually attractive, but also be of one mind on the things that really count. Everything else should be gravy.

[clarkster]

oh yeah, make sure you have a good phone/long distance plan...at least i had to.
seriously though, weve been married for 11 years together for just over 12, and i wouldnt be where i am without her. she does manage to keep me out of trouble for the most part, and shes pretty damn tolerant of my quirks and ever changing hobbies.(im a restless person by nature) and i try to be tolerant of her quirks(bric a brac, the consistent emotional overload, etc)

i do believe in the 50/50 thing, but theres a catch i think. when we first got married she wanted to quit her job and be a housewife. the deal was thats her job and she gets paid very well for it, and as soon as shes lacking, ill fire her. when she took on a part timer though, i pulled my own weight as well, so things were good.
every marriage is different and the same, and it depends on how much you and her can tolerate, because theres times when thats the best you can expect. but most of that is temporary and will pass. there are good times, but you know the story on that, you never remember those

[Traveler]

* Discuss each other roles concerning the household.

* Discuss one another plans and goals for the future so both of you are
working toward the same goal(s)

* Never go to bed angry (although make-up sex is awesome!)

* Support her in all endeavors

[Old Dude]

http://golb.blog.ocn.ne.jp/golb/images/imgp0426s.jpg

[zdoor]

Wait for at least 5 years to have children. You'll know each other much better at that point and some of the initial tough times are complicated by children.

Make sure she enjoys a lot of the same things you do and vice versa.

Learn to find a way to put up with things that you normally wouldn't. Example: my wife likes me to go shopping with her so I try and get some fun out of it by flirting with her and picking sexy things for her to try on.

You have to totally trust each other prior to marriage and have no trust issues. Once trust is gone it's almost impossible to get back.

Sex has to be good. You'll be with this woman for the rest of your life. Lusting for someone else is a no win.

Make sure you know how you both handle stress and are able to put up with each other during stressful times. If you are young you are likely to endure financial strains early on, these can be marriage breakers. Make sure you are both able to handle it.

Spend some time discussing your short term goals as well as long term goals. If she plans on working or not working make sure you know ahead of time. If you plan on changing careers or something else major in your life make sure she knows and is supportive.

Don't hide things from her, your probably not good at it and she'll find out anyways. Goes back to trust.

The honest truth is if you really love her now, 10 years from now you'll Love her a 100 times more. A good marriage gets better and better.

[Billy Clyde Puckett]

My advice - ear plugs

[Los Broncos]

Dont get married unless your ready. Get all of the one night stands out of the way, the partying with the boys, road trips. And women are attention whores and they will do anything to get it.

[brncs_fan]

Also since I am newly engaged and going through the planning process. She will get pissed because you don't get all gung ho about planning. I just say whatever she wants and then I am obviously not excited enough so I get the look. So you got that to look forward to.

It does go a lot smoother if you do help with the wedding details. I myself was not averse to helping out with wedding planning. If you begin to feel like you don't want to do it, just remember that it is usaully greatly appreciated by the fiance and will usually result in a little bonus for you if you are attentive. ;)

Try to stay away from spending a lot of money on the ceremony though. The day goes by so quickly that all the little things that you thought you had to have, you won't even notice. Have good food, a good DJ, and a good photographer and everything else is just an extra expense.

And NO dry weddings.

[Los Broncos]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?

[Spider]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?

dont know really ........ i think it has something to do with child birth ........... ;D

[bigfan]

dont know really ........ i think it has something to do with child birth ........... ;D

And the fact that men tend to think with two heads instead of one.

[clarkster]

only answer i got is- dont. i dont. before i get flame sprayed, let me explain. what good am i doing if i expend all my money and all my energy making her happy? now the marriage is failing already. from my over a decade of experience, only thing ive figured out is if she aint happy, neither are you, if you aint happy, well that goes without saying, shell be happy still. my wife needs a lot of attention, and alot of it im am ill equipped to provide, but as long as she doesnt kill herself making me happy and im not either, we both seem to find a happy medium.

[Los Broncos]

dont know really ........ i think it has something to do with child birth ........... ;D

LOL

[Los Broncos]

only answer i got is- dont. i dont. before i get flame sprayed, let me explain. what good am i doing if i expend all my money and all my energy making her happy? now the marriage is failing already. from my over a decade of experience, only thing ive figured out is if she aint happy, neither are you, if you aint happy, well that goes without saying, shell be happy still. my wife needs a lot of attention, and alot of it im am ill equipped to provide, but as long as she doesnt kill herself making me happy and im not either, we both seem to find a happy medium.

Glad to hear it.

[Spider]

And the fact that men tend to think with two heads instead of one.

I got 6 kids ...........one head is done thinking , I can tell you that much

[Old Dude]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?


Because it beats the alternative:

http://www.sgn.org/sgnnews11/pictures/MEN-JeffPalmer2%20(WinCE).jpg

[Spider]

only answer i got is- dont. i dont. before i get flame sprayed, let me explain. what good am i doing if i expend all my money and all my energy making her happy? now the marriage is failing already. from my over a decade of experience, only thing ive figured out is if she aint happy, neither are you, if you aint happy, well that goes without saying, shell be happy still. my wife needs a lot of attention, and alot of it im am ill equipped to provide, but as long as she doesnt kill herself making me happy and im not either, we both seem to find a happy medium.

man when I screw up , I know I am in trouble deep , I go tens miles out of my way to make her happy ............

[Los Broncos]

Because it beats the alternative:

http://www.sgn.org/sgnnews11/pictures/MEN-JeffPalmer2%20(WinCE).jpg

Married and bored or single and lonely?

[Los Broncos]

man when I screw up , I know I am in trouble deep , I go tens miles out of my way to make her happy ............

Haha.

[clarkster]

man aint that the truth...gotta feel some sympathy for women i guess. i think we make out ok on the sex side.

[Old Dude]

man aint that the truth...gotta feel some sympathy for women i guess. i think we make out ok on the sex side.

The sex side of what?

[clarkster]

of a relationship. no wonder more women are turning gay every day. if i was a woman, i would rather screw another woman than a man.

[dbfan21]

Married and bored or single and lonely?

Hilarious! LOL

[footstepsfrom#27]

Been married twice...first one was 15 years of pure hell. Second has been 5 years of pure heaven. I've learned the following:

1) don't get married till your at least 30, preferably 35
2) marry your best friend, but only if you're overwhelmingly attracted to her
3) never marry a woman you think you can live with...marry the one you know you can't live without.
4) make it the most important thing in your life
5) don't screw it up with something stupid
6) get on her mom's good side from day one
7) follow the heart not the head (either one)

[Old Dude]

of a relationship. no wonder more women are turning gay every day. if i was a woman, i would rather screw another woman than a man.

I have a theory about that, actually.

[Spider]

Been married twice...first one was 15 years of pure hell. Second has been 5 years of pure heaven. I've learned the following:


5) don't screw it up with something stupid
6) get on her mom's good side from day one
7) follow the heart not the head (either one)
5 is impossible , we are men , doing something stupid is encoded in our DNA ...
6 is a good Idea , but damn hard with a interfering mother in law ......
7........ yeah right ;D

[Popps]

50% of marriages fail.

65% of Americans are overweight.


A happy marriage is like staying in shape. It takes an enormous amount of work and energy that most people simply aren't up to.

If people looked at it that way, they likely wouldn't be surprised when the "work" part of marriage showed up.

Even more difficult, unlike the analogy of staying in shape, you have to depend on someone else to put the same amount of work, energy and selflessness into the arrangement, or it's doomed to fail.

I'm only in my second year of marriage, but that (and our children) are the best thing that have ever happened to me. Now, it's up to me to continue to put the work in, and hope that I've picked a partner who will always do the same. It sure appears that I have. I'm an incredibly lucky guy.

[footstepsfrom#27]

50% of marriages fail.
Actually they don't. That stat is statistically skewed. It measures the number of marriages in a given year and compares it to the number of divorces in the same year. The figures are not accurate because the divorces result from marriages that occured over many other years. The true rate of failure is lower...how much lower is open to debate.
Even more difficult, unlike the analogy of staying in shape, you have to depend on someone else to put the same amount of work, energy and selflessness into the arrangement, or it's doomed to fail.
Bingo.

[smalltowngrll]

Wow, can you bash women any more than you already are? No wonder some of you aren't happy. So sad. Remember that every time you point a finger at someone else for all of their inadequacies, you have more pointing back at you...and all of YOUR inadequacies.

I still have a positive outlook. I believe that with lots of communication and honestly, you truly can have a happy marriage. Will there be down times and hurtful times? Yup...that's what forgiveness is for.

[TheDave]

The following technique should get you through the first year or so:

"You know (insert wifes name here), I hadn't thought of it that way. I Think you're right."

(pause up to 3 seconds: Take a deep breath, exhale slowly with a hint of sincerity)

"That's why i love you so much..."

(finish with some type of physical gesture... warm hug, light kiss,sometimes just a slight touch to the back of the hand)


Warning: If you overplay the above they will catch on to you! Used sparingly this technique can and has worked for many

[Spider]

The following technique should get you through the first year or so:




Warning: If you overplay the above they will catch on to you! Used sparingly this technique can and has worked for many

LOL .. I got to try this one

[Popps]

Actually they don't. That stat is statistically skewed. It measures the number of marriages in a given year and compares it to the number of divorces in the same year.

Sounds to me like over 40% fail in the first 15 years...


The National Center for Health Statistics recently released a report which found that 43 percent of first marriages end in separation or divorce within 15 years.

I'd assume it's safe to tack on 7% more from 15 years on....

But, I do agree that numbers can always play out how people want them to.

I suppose I could have just said a "high percentage" of marriages fail, and kept the same point in tact.

[Mountain Bronco]

DBFan offers some great advice. However, if you are the only one putting forth that type of effort, you are screwed. Marriage is a two way street if the other party isn't willing to give the effort needed, IT WILL FAIL. Make sure your partner is truely your partner (women are much more decieving and far better liars than men will ever be).

[Los Broncos]

Wow, can you bash women any more than you already are? No wonder some of you aren't happy. So sad. Remember that every time you point a finger at someone else for all of their inadequacies, you have more pointing back at you...and all of YOUR inadequacies.

I still have a positive outlook. I believe that with lots of communication and honestly, you truly can have a happy marriage. Will there be down times and hurtful times? Yup...that's what forgiveness is for.

Hey i feel ya, i love women but at what cost? i mean im not a catch by any means, i dont make good money which helps when finding a wife or gf, and im not perfect and i dont point the finger.

[Los Broncos]

Sounds to me like over 40% fail in the first 15 years...


The National Center for Health Statistics recently released a report which found that 43 percent of first marriages end in separation or divorce within 15 years.

I'd assume it's safe to tack on 7% more from 15 years on....

But, I do agree that numbers can always play out how people want them to.

I suppose I could have just said a "high percentage" of marriages fail, and kept the same point in tact.

I just kind of feel like a relantionship is like "what can you do for me" kind of thing, here in socal the women want your money and want to know what kind of car you drive, what kind of cell phone do you have and all of that, well unless your a bbw or something like that.

[Tom H.]

Dont be like Pink or Pinks wife in the movie "Pink Floyd The Wall"

Another vote for Footsteps quote "you have to depend on someone else to put the same amount of work, energy and selflessness into the arrangement, or it's doomed to fail."

[Popps]

I just kind of feel like a relantionship is like "what can you do for me" kind of thing, here in socal the women want your money and want to know what kind of car you drive, what kind of cell phone do you have and all of that, well unless your a bbw or something like that.

It's definitely a mine-field in LA with regards to women, no question. Actually... I've been (and lived) all over the country, and LA features some of the least likable people I've encountered. I mean, people still litter here. I mean, serious littering. They'll finish their McDonalds and throw the entire bag out the window, or just open the door and drop it at a stoplight. But, that's another story.

That said, I found the greatest woman in the world here, so the second greatest may be out there somewhere. :)

[baja]

I have a theory about that, actually.

what is it?

[orinjkrush]

first one was good.
second one was better.
third one is fantasmic.
keys to success: vasectomy and pre-nuptials.
Don't leave home without them.

[Ray Finkle]

Been married twice...first one was 15 years of pure hell. Second has been 5 years of pure heaven. I've learned the following:

1) don't get married till your at least 30, preferably 35
2) marry your best friend, but only if you're overwhelmingly attracted to her
3) never marry a woman you think you can live with...marry the one you know you can't live without.
4) make it the most important thing in your life
5) don't screw it up with something stupid
6) get on her mom's good side from day one
7) follow the heart not the head (either one)

Very good advice....

[bendog]

But my mother in law doesn't have a good side.

I remember one time when the kid was about 2, my mother in law thought the kid was growing too fast. We're sitting in the dining room having dinner, and I turn and look the old bat square in the eye and say, "You're right, I guess we should stop watering her every day." My MIL had no clue, but my wife and FIL were cracking up. Shut the old bat up for the rest of dinner.

[broncocalijohn]

My advice? Break off the engagement. You want to bone the same woman for the next 30 years? You only live once. There's billions of women on this planet that need pleasure.

He will bang the one hot one and leave all the fugly chicks for you. There is a billio fuglies out there and Master Pain invites you to enjoy all those for your taking.

[Hogan11]

This Man taught me all I ever need to know about marriage.....

http://www.bundyology.com/sfg/412a.jpg

Seriously though, hopefully Betty knows I'm kidding and wishing him & his Fiancee all the best.

[Hotrod]

I like the "get a plant" and "buy a nice couch" Ha!

On a serious note if you even think there is a chance of having kids discuss this issue in GREAT detail before you get married. Examples are parenting style....thoughts on various punishments.....sports/studys.....etc..

[Old Dude]

Best advice I can give you for marriages is to remember that males and females are emotionally different.

Females use both sides of their brain at the same time, and so they are always concerned with things like security and sentimentality and devotion and cuddly cutesy-wootsy stuff.

Males just generally move to one side of the brain or the other and settle in and get comfortable for awhile. That why women see us as bi-polar, even if we aren't. And when we go to that soft side of the brain, it's usually painted in one of three colors: I'm angry. I'm horny. Or I'm tired. Those are the three basic male emotions. Which is why we spend a lot of time over on the other side.

[Old Dude]

To be fair, some of us guys have a fourth emotional dimension, which I call "drunk." But it's really just sort of like Kant's conception of the noumenon.

[bendog]

Not to get serious, but I've actually had unpleasant conversations with gay and lesbian folks on homosexual marriage. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for civil unions and no discrimination, but it just seems to me marriage between a male and female will encounter different emotional makeups. Yes, I agree with them that a same sex couple faces the same challanges of not enough money to spend on the kids, discipline, boredom, etc. But, I'm just wired differently from my wife. I tend to obsess over things, and I think most men do as well. Stuff like retirement or savings or bills. I'll figure something ten different ways trying to make it better. Mrs Dog tends to take a more decade long look, rather than trying to fix it all real quick. I think in general, women can "look further out."

[Old Dude]

Oh, women obsess over things too. Just not the same things, usually.

Unless you can find a quality mate who's either a compulsive-obsessive or bipolar, or, preferably, both, in which case it's basically a just matter of trying to coordinate your mood swings.

[ak1971]

you want a test of your marriage before you even get started?

1.) have your house burn down 4 months prior to wedding.
2.) live with future in-laws for 2-3 weeks.
3.) live in a hotel for an other month.
4.) Live the remainder of time in a rental home with none of your stuff.

If you can get through that, you are destined to be with each other, or are just too stupid to know better LOL

[Sassy]

you want a test of your marriage before you even get started?

1.) have your house burn down 4 months prior to wedding.
2.) live with future in-laws for 2-3 weeks.
3.) live in a hotel for an other month.
4.) Live the remainder of time in a rental home with none of your stuff.

If you can get through that, you are destined to be with each other, or are just too stupid to know better LOL

Yep!
Everything getting back to normal for you AK?

[Malcontent]

Walks on the beach....talking over a cup of coffee...Gazing at a beautiful garden...Picking out curtains...Do you like my sweater?...I'm so tired, can YOU get dinner tonight(for the 4th night in a row), Why don't you have a real hobby ?. Just some sentences that will become quite familiar to you bud!

[gunns]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?

As women, we wish that were true.

Remember that just because you marry the good won't necessarily get better and the bad won't necessarily go away, in fact it may get worse.

Remember once you have children, if she is staying home with them, that is 10 times harder than any job you may have.

And last, always remember, she is right. :curtsey:

[Spider]

]quote]Remember once you have children, if she is staying home with them, that is 10 times harder than any job you may have.
I have been home for over a week now , dont know how my wife does it ......those triplets are some damn hard work ........ I need to go back to work for the rest .........

And last, always remember, she is right. :curtsey:
thats the rumor anyway ;D

[cutthemdown]

As women, we wish that were true.

Remember that just because you marry the good won't necessarily get better and the bad won't necessarily go away, in fact it may get worse.

Remember once you have children, if she is staying home with them, that is 10 times harder than any job you may have.

And last, always remember, she is right. :curtsey:

What if you're a coal miner. Is it still easier to stay at home with kids?

[Sassy]

I have been home for over a week now , dont know how my wife does it ......those triplets are some damn hard work ........ I need to go back to work for the rest .........


thats the rumor anyway ;D

Yep...no kids here...but I work in a daycare center. When I worked with them full-time, I had absolutely no energy at the end of the day. ...and that was only 8 hours...with a break!

[Spider]

Yep...no kids here...but I work in a daycare center. When I worked with them full-time, I had absolutely no energy at the end of the day. ...and that was only 8 hours...with a break!

I may joke around alot , but if that woman wants something she gets it no questions asked ........ She deserves that.........

[gunns]

What if you're a coal miner. Is it still easier to stay at home with kids?

The coal mine would be a vacation.

I may joke around alot , but if that woman wants something she gets it no questions asked ........ She deserves that.........

The fact you realize that Spider is why you are still married. It makes her job a little easier.

[Spider]

The coal mine would be a vacation. No kidding ..... one of my trips doesnt need surgery after all .... a load off our shoulders



The fact you realize that Spider is why you are still married. It makes her job a little easier.

;D it has to be something .......

[HAT]

Marry 'em young.....before they learn to hate men, Duh.

[gunns]

Marry 'em young.....before they learn to hate men, Duh.

Aint happening dude. 51% of women in this country are not married. They said this is due to women waiting longer to marry and widows and divorcees choosing not to remarry. You've been exposed!

[HAT]

Never marry a woman older than half of your age plus 7.

[broncoblue]

Marry 'em young.....before they learn to hate men, Duh.

LOL ^5 done that 2wice failed 2wice

well serious head on...some know my story and how i have been divorced twice and how i vowed never ever to get in a relationship again....i went coke snorting,drinking beeer every night and 1 nights stands and three night stands with all sorts,dwarf,huge,skinny bondage etc i was off the rails ,i met my g/f 12 months ago and ive never ever been happier and if i can make a relationship work anyone can.
Im trying harder as well and she is too and like i say im loved up to hell .

[Odysseus]

Marriage advice is soooo subjective. If you are relying on this thread for insight mark it down you are already in trouble.

Marriage is 2 parts money, 1 part love, and 3 parts faith in similar values. (Some call it true friendship, some call it a habit you can't quit, and others call it "oh what the hell".) If you go to the same church but don't sit in the same pew you might want to think about that.

One of the tricks to a marriage is honoring the conversation between you. It's kind of like peeing in the pool. Don't expect tossing a bunch of flowers in the water to make it all better. Do the flowers and then excuse yourself for the sake of the pool water.

Women are emotional. No matter how well they "play man" they essentially want to know that you care, you understand and that you are listening. You don't have to be a psychic just shut up once in awhile and see what conversation comes up. She might surprise you.

Men, no matter how stupid they are, want desperately to be right. Sometimes a woman has to make the supreme sacrifice and let a man throw himself under the bus. You don't realize how much suffering she has to go through not laughing aloud and pointing.

If a woman loves you in very few circumstances will she hold you in disregard. If a woman doesn't love you if you came to her with flowers, candy and winning lottery ticket all she would want is the limo you came in and half of the money.

If a man loves you he will feel that he can move heaven and earth for you. Don't be disappointed if all he does is pay the bills and keep food on the table. Sometimes that is a miracle in these heavily taxed times.

The trick to any relationship is gratitude. This is the secret of why so many people need jacked up relationships so that they can appreciate however low they have to sink in the pool of human expecation. If you can't be thankful for what you have just wait. You will get what you are after. No matter how many people you have to hurt.

Women always want more. The trick is figuring out what that more is. Men always want more too but sometimes not giving them that more is what will motivate them. This does not, however, work with women. This also can cause a man to stop at a bar on the way home. Balance is the key.

First rule in marriage advice is there is no such thing as marriage advice. If you don't know who you are with or why nobody else is going to be able to help you. So when you roll over in bed and ask "who the heck are you?" be ready for the answer because if you were there the whole time you'll have to pay for every minute you were there but you were not.

Never quit. Sometimes the only thing you have is being too mean to quit.

[watermock]

http://static.flickr.com/25/99321671_b292246abb_o.jpg

"I come home early and find this between you, Alice, and Trixie? I just bought that rug."

"To the moon Alice...I'm going to give you a face plant..."

Alice:

"Don't make me bite your balls off Ralph...I still want children you impotent fat ass..."

[Old Dude]

what is it?

I don't remember now. Something about free will, I think, but I lost my train of thought.

[Old Dude]

By the way, for those of you who live in Michigan, you better give up your paramours:

http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/archives/2007/01/adultery_could_carry_life_sentence_in_michigan/

[bendog]

Infidelity isn't logical to me because if my wife finds out I am still capable of having sex, she'll want me to have sex with her.

[Hotrod]

Yep...no kids here...but I work in a daycare center. When I worked with them full-time, I had absolutely no energy at the end of the day. ...and that was only 8 hours...with a break!

Oh crap my wife was a director at a huge daycare center when we first started dating. I'll tell you her love of kids really was a major plus BUT I seriously almost left her around week 12 when I had been sick for about 12 weeks Ha! Seriously people who work with kids have this super human anti-germ/bug ability. The problem is I swear she was bringing every cold straight to my house. The upside is I finally built up the same super human ability.

As far as a stay at home mom being the hardest job I'd have to agree. Its a war zone I cant disagree BUT I do 50% of the housework and 50% of the childcare. Of course my wife does not stay at home with the kids. We have friends where they both work and then the wife does all the housework/childcare and the guys wonder why their wives are always tired and cranky :loopy: I find its easier to pitch in and have a wife who still has the energy to take care of me ;D

[Spider]

Yeah , before kids me and the wife had a plan , I would truck , she would go with me , we will live on the road .........Ha! Kids happen .......... all in all we are pretty happy with the way things turned out ........

[ak1971]

Yep!
Everything getting back to normal for you AK?

Somewhat. Back at home, so thats good.

[Bronco Billy]

"My advice to you is to get married. If you find a good wife, you'll be happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher."

- Socrates

[smalltowngrll]

Never marry a woman older than half of your age plus 7.

I suppose if you like the jealous psycho types...that would be best for you! ROFL!

[zdoor]

Infidelity isn't logical to me because if my wife finds out I am still capable of having sex, she'll want me to have sex with her.

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Odysseus]

I wonder why the guns thread is larger than the married thread? You would think there would be more shotgun weddings.

The finance thread cannot stay on the front page for more than a few minutes and is always smaller than the gun thread.

Apparently we like guns more than women and money? No?

[Hotrod]

I wonder why the guns thread is larger than the married thread? You would think there would be more shotgun weddings.

The finance thread cannot stay on the front page for more than a few minutes and is always smaller than the gun thread.

Apparently we like guns more than women and money? No?

Wow thats a tuff call ;D

Of course we need $ to buy our guns and guns to protect our women. See there all really connected ;D

[Odysseus]

Wow thats a tuff call ;D

Of course we need $ to buy our guns and guns to protect our women. See there all really connected ;D

You are right professor Hotrod. Your relationship to life all depends on guns. If you are using guns for bad you are in essence bad. If you are using guns for good you are in essence good. Guns are life. (Dripping sarcasm)

Courtship is the art of figuring out what that person is about.
Marriage is the price you pay if you wrong or the reward if you are right.

[freak6]

Dont do it. There's my advice in a nutshell.

Agree.

[Odysseus]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?

These are called American women. Don't think because you stray outside America that the first available woman you meet is only interested in making you happy. These are called hookers. Hookers are bad unless of course they are good hookers which in that case they are bad but they are good. It gets complicated. If you find a woman whose not a hooker whose first reaction isnt' to grab your money you are now on what is called the right path. Bear in mind that the further you get away from ammenities and civilization the closer you get to third world women. Die hard third world women are bad. They don't understand a thing you are saying and have friends who make assumptions about you being rich or more importantly someone respectable.

First thing to remember in any relationship is don't pretend you am what you ain't because the truth will set you free whether you want it to or not.

Second thing in any relationship don't dedicate yourself to helping them, changing them, fixing them or making them better. Leave that crap up to them. Your job is to simply let them in your life and enjoy them like they are. Sorry. This might as good as they get.

Third thing is always remember that there are no simple rules for anything that work without eventually getting to details.

Remember! Mister Jimmy hat is your only trusted friend until you figure out what you got or ain't getting! :sunshine:

[Sassy]

BUMP! Because it's the off season and this thread was hilarious!

[Bronx33]

Donkey punches accomplish nothing (just sayin)

[spdirty]

My advice is to put the house in your grandparents name and the truck in your sisters name right before getting divorced.

Oh, and make sure she has a good job right before you file. That helps with alimony/child support.

And prenup.

Or if your really stupid, Chris Rock has some advice. Im paraphrasing here. "Every morning when you wake up, go to the bathroom, look at the mirror, and say 'F@ck you. F@ck you dreams, f@ck your goals, f@ck your hobbies, f@ck shlt that makes you happy, f@ck your friends. You just gotta figure out how to make that bltch happy you dumbass."

[maher_tyler]

Been married for almost a year and it's had it's ups and downs but overall it's been good and i don't regret it one bit. Give her space when she needs it..theres gonna be times where you wish you were adam sandler in the movie click and could just hit the mute button..yer gonna have a lot of fun and make a lot of good memories together...honesty and communication are huge...yer gonna have bad days and good days..always tell her you love her and that shes beautiful..you never know if it'll be the last time you'll get the chance to tell her how much you lover her..you don't know how much you love something till its gone!!

[missingnumber7]

Ok, my small words of advice go as follows...if you are bad with remembering what day you were married...just get deployed and spend your 1st anniversary overseas, the birth of your 1st child overseas, your wifes 30th birthday(which i really didn't forget, but pretended to and it made her happy). It makes being forgetful much easier.

But on a more serious level. Find someone that shares some of your enjoyments. My wife thought football was ridiculous the first little bit we dated, in fact she thought I was obsessed, but then she started sitting down watching. She attended every home NDSU game while I was gone, because she wanted to. And she is looking forward to going to a Broncos game again this year(she has a secret fund set aside that I'm not supposed to know about.) But also have stuff that you enjoy doing apart. Life is much better if you are not forced to spend every second together because you only have common interests.

[CBF1]

Wife's....
Can live with them, Can't shoot them ???

Like drugs, Just say NO

[L.A. BRONCOS FAN]

Dont do it. There's my advice in a nutshell.

+1

Why give up 50% of the gross for something you can find on the back page of the L.A. Weekly for $300?

Yes, I'm cynical :D

[TailgateNut]

If you do marry, find someone who doesn't have a "jewelers" eye.;) It can get super expensive. My wife is like a diamond appraiser (maybe better).



Just kidding.


Just lock youselves in a small room for a week. If after a week you haven't commited suicide or killed each other, you SHOULD be ok. ROFL!


No guarantees!

[SleepingTiger]

oh .And think before you speak ........I am very guilty of this one ........... one time my Mother in law , said I am down to 150 pounds , I said 150 pounds with those thighs?...........I was in the dog house for months

Hilarious!

[SleepingTiger]

On a serious note, take a marriage class at a local church. Find one that is around 3-4 months long. Those weekend classes I heard don't do much.

The class teaches the guys to be better husbands and wifes not to nag so much.

[theAPAOps5]

The following technique should get you through the first year or so:




Warning: If you overplay the above they will catch on to you! Used sparingly this technique can and has worked for many

Ha I just read this whole thread and found this!

I use a similar technique. Its called You're Right, I'm Wrong, I'm Sorry

Use it very sparingly but when used and done in the most sincere argument it gets you out of trouble quick.

[TailgateNut]

On a serious note, take a marriage class at a local church. Find one that is around 3-4 months long. Those weekend classes I heard don't do much.

The class teaches the guys to be better husbands and wifes not to nag so much.

LOL I've also heard you can meet a GOOD GIRL at church.ROFL!

[DenverBroncosJM]

Instead of getting married you should just find a woman you absolutley hate and buy her a house.

HAHAHAH

[Jason in LA]

My advice? Break off the engagement. You want to bone the same woman for the next 30 years? You only live once. There's billions of women on this planet that need pleasure.


QFT

I'm kidding...kind of. ;D

[Jason in LA]

I hate to sound bitter here, but why we as men have to spend all of our energy trying to make the woman happy?

I wonder the same thing. Why do we have to sleep on the couch, always give in, always have to bend over to make them happy, and a few other things like that. What happened to all this equality? She doesn't want to watch football, so I'm not going to make her. I don't want to go watch some chick flick, so she shouldn't make me.

[Beantown Bronco]

Why do we have to bend over to make them happy

Jason, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think you're doing it wrong.

[TailgateNut]

Jason, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think you're doing it wrong.

just take a look at someof the road ho's he has in his pix and you'll understand who's on top.:~ohyah!:

[Breaker]

Q. Your wife is at the front door, locked out and yelling to be let in. Your Dog is at the back door, locked out barking to be let in. Who do you let in first?

A. The Dog. At least it will shut up once it is inside the house :)

[Hotrod]

Jason, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think you're doing it wrong.

LOL

foneco

[TailgateNut]

Q. Your wife is at the front door, locked out and yelling to be let in. Your Dog is at the back door, locked out barking to be let in. Who do you let in first?

A. The Dog. At least it will shut up once it is inside the house :)


REP!!!Hilarious!

[Los Broncos]

I wonder the same thing. Why do we have to sleep on the couch, always give in, always have to bend over to make them happy, and a few other things like that. What happened to all this equality? She doesn't want to watch football, so I'm not going to make her. I don't want to go watch some chick flick, so she shouldn't make me.

I think its a matter of give and take.

I mean, i go and watch chick flicks for her benefit.

And i dont force her to watch sports, just let me do my thing when the time comes.

[Los Broncos]

I'm not married myself, but I think to a have a successful marriage, both need to be willing to compromise and you genuinely like spending time together. There's more to a marriage of course, but if you have those two things, I think a great chance of having a lasting, happy marriage.

I always say, if you have to compromise then your with the wrong person.

[Crushaholic]

I always say, if you have to compromise then your with the wrong person.

Compromise is what the whole committment thing is about. You don't get everything you want and she doesn't get everything she wants...

[Los Broncos]

Compromise is what the whole committment thing is about. You don't get everything you want and she doesn't get everything she wants...

Why should you have to change for anyone?

[alkemical]

I always say, if you have to compromise then your with the wrong person.

Maybe for you it's the wrong person. I compromise with my women. Sacrifice always happens. But if each person were selfish, there would be no co-existence.

But i had the same POV, and i ended up meeting lots of co-dependant women who were fine with that POV (no comprise) - and it bored me.

[TailgateNut]

I always say, if you have to compromise then your with the wrong person.



Lynch, Lynch, Lynch........where do I start. Call it what you which, but once, as they say "the honeymoon is over" there will be things in any relationship which will require "give and take", unless of course you are joined at the hip AND married, which would mean you are from the back hills of W. Va, and then nothing would matter.

[Crushaholic]

Why should you have to change for anyone?

If you choose to be with someone, you have to consider THEIR wants and needs as WELL as your own. Companionship has its positives and negatives. If the negatives outweigh the positives (in your mind), you need to be alone doing your own thing.

[SleepingTiger]

LOL I've also heard you can meet a GOOD GIRL at church.ROFL!

I don't think going to church has anything to do whether your a good person or not. You just know what the churches morals are and where you stand. You can be serial killer and go to church every sunday, it doesn't make you a GOOD person. Its funny how people put a church going person on a higher standard than anyone else. People forget they are human and they will make mistakes too.

About the classes (which I'm taking right now), its actually already helped us out. She knows what her resposibilty as a wife/mother and i know what my responsibility as a husband/father. What it really does is let you know if you're ready for marriage. I know several couples that have either postponed their wedding date or just moved on because of the class.

[Los Broncos]

If you choose to be with someone, you have to consider THEIR wants and needs as WELL as your own. Companionship has its positives and negatives. If the negatives outweigh the positives (in your mind), you need to be alone doing your own thing.

I have been with the same woman for six years.

She doesn't want me to change ME and vice versa.

I just dont think getting married will make us happy.

Just leaving well enough alone.

[Sassy]

No compromise would be dull.

[Jason in LA]

Jason, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think you're doing it wrong.

LOL you bastard. ;D

[Sassy]

SO...question...for those of you that are married...do you have separate or joint checking accounts? Did any of you do prenups!? Yeah, I'm being nosey...but what are the pros/cons of each?

[ak1971]

One bit of advice...dont get hammered and forget you have dinner reservations...oops

[Sassy]

One bit of advice...dont get hammered and forget you have dinner reservations...oops

Was that tonight AK? Are you sleeping on the couch tonight! Ha!

[maher_tyler]

Ha I just read this whole thread and found this!

I use a similar technique. Its called You're Right, I'm Wrong, I'm Sorry

Use it very sparingly but when used and done in the most sincere argument it gets you out of trouble quick.

So true..i've used it a couple of times works pretty much everytime!!

[TailgateNut]

SO...question...for those of you that are married...do you have separate or joint checking accounts? Did any of you do prenups!? Yeah, I'm being nosey...but what are the pros/cons of each?


All kinds of accounts. Business, my checking/savings/retirement, her checking/savings/retirement. I pay all the bills and her income is her misc spending and shopping/ vacation and "mad money". I'm OK with the way things are. Life is GOOD.


No pre-nup. I think it's BS to go into a relationship planning for a break-up. Doesn't bode well in the "until death do us part" statement. The way I see it, if it ever were to get to the point of divorce talk, life will suck so bad I wont worry about the greenback issue. We're in this together.

[TailgateNut]

I don't think going to church has anything to do whether your a good person or not. You just know what the churches morals are and where you stand. You can be serial killer and go to church every sunday, it doesn't make you a GOOD person. Its funny how people put a church going person on a higher standard than anyone else. People forget they are human and they will make mistakes too.

About the classes (which I'm taking right now), its actually already helped us out. She knows what her resposibilty as a wife/mother and i know what my responsibility as a husband/father. What it really does is let you know if you're ready for marriage. I know several couples that have either postponed their wedding date or just moved on because of the class.


I'm curious. According to your church, what ARE your RESPONSIBILITIES and what ARE her RESPONSIBILITIES?

[ElwayMD]

SO...question...for those of you that are married...do you have separate or joint checking accounts? Did any of you do prenups!? Yeah, I'm being nosey...but what are the pros/cons of each?

We have a joint checking and savings account...with online banking its pretty hard for one of us to buy something without the other knowing in about 10 minutes.

Prenups are just retarded...if you have to file a prenup doesn't that scream that you aren't ready to make the commitment to live with this person for the rest of your life? It's selfish and marriage is supposed to be selfless.


If you want a sucessful marriage you have to talk. The more you let things simmer underneath the bigger they get. Oh...yeah and don't get into fights about money...make sure you both are on the up and up about who spent what and why or else problems will start.

[SleepingTiger]

I'm curious. According to your church, what ARE your RESPONSIBILITIES and what ARE her RESPONSIBILITIES?

I don't know, during the classes, i usually doze off.

joke

I just started the class, but from what i have seen;

Husbands responsibility is toward his wife and only his wife. This includes providing a home, food and doing the man stuff around the house. Not spending all his time with the children, hanging out with friends all the time, hobbies, bad habits (gambling), tv, sports. If he puts her above everything else to where she doesn't feel neglected, then he is doing his job.

Wife responsibility is toward the children and herself. This includes taking care of the baby, raising the baby and schooling of the children.
She also has to take care of herself and looking decent. That means working out, put on clean clothes, brushing your hair. Not anything like model, but nothing like a bum either. This also applies to the husband, but not as much.

Also understand that i am sure i have missed some key points. But this are some of the key points. This is not a guideline to divide the duties in the house as it will change from house hold to house hold and person to person. But more of a key role responsibility. Alot of it is common sense, but to some people they just have no idea.
I know guys that go out every night, gamble and loose thousands of dollars and they wonder why their wife is at home crying. Much worse, they could careless if she is at home crying.

[defenseman]

You must become the epitemy of patience to marry anyone. And, healthy respect both ways is an absolute key ingredient for a long successful marriage...dman

[Beantown Bronco]

I'm not picky....the only requirement I made back in the day for the future Mrs. Bean was that she be a Broncos fan. I was granted my wish and we've been happily married for 5 years now.

[broncofan2438]

Don't freak me out people, I'm engaged and we were talking about joining accounts last night.

[dbfan4life]

I don't think going to church has anything to do whether your a good person or not. You just know what the churches morals are and where you stand. You can be serial killer and go to church every sunday, it doesn't make you a GOOD person. Its funny how people put a church going person on a higher standard than anyone else. People forget they are human and they will make mistakes too..

My mother-in-law is always preaching the "going to church = successful marriage" message to me. Here's how I was brought up....My mom took the kids to church every Sunday while dad stayed home and worked around the house. If we wanted to stay home, we had to help around the house. My parents have been married for 30 years. When I present that argument to my mother-in-law, she tells me that's the exception not the rule. I just have to laugh. I have nothing against church but if I had my choice (which I don't), I'd rather have it like my dad. Stay home and work around the house, let my wife take the kids to church.

[SleepingTiger]

My mother-in-law is always preaching the "going to church = successful marriage" message to me. Here's how I was brought up....My mom took the kids to church every Sunday while dad stayed home and worked around the house. If we wanted to stay home, we had to help around the house. My parents have been married for 30 years. When I present that argument to my mother-in-law, she tells me that's the exception not the rule. I just have to laugh. I have nothing against church but if I had my choice (which I don't), I'd rather have it like my dad. Stay home and work around the house, let my wife take the kids to church.


You can go to church everyday in you life, it doesn't make you a good husband or wife. People go to church for different reasons. A successful marriage has nothing to do with the church, its all up to the individual. The church provides guidance i guess.

[SleepingTiger]

All kinds of accounts. Business, my checking/savings/retirement, her checking/savings/retirement. I pay all the bills and her income is her misc spending and shopping/ vacation and "mad money". I'm OK with the way things are. Life is GOOD.


No pre-nup. I think it's BS to go into a relationship planning for a break-up. Doesn't bode well in the "until death do us part" statement. The way I see it, if it ever were to get to the point of divorce talk, life will suck so bad I wont worry about the greenback issue. We're in this together.

good point!

[dbfan4life]

You can go to church everyday in you life, it doesn't make you a good husband or wife. People go to church for different reasons. A successful marriage has nothing to do with the church, its all up to the individual. The church provides guidance i guess.

Absolutely correct! Kinda what I was getting at with my story.

[SleepingTiger]

Absolutely correct! Kinda what I was getting at with my story.

i know, i was agreeing with you in my own words

^5

[Los Broncos]

You can go to church everyday in you life, it doesn't make you a good husband or wife. People go to church for different reasons. A successful marriage has nothing to do with the church, its all up to the individual. The church provides guidance i guess.

I enjoy going to church with my son.

It gives us quality time together.

[ak1971]

We have separate bankrolls for gambling, other than that its all the same.
If one of us goes busto, we just have to have a meeting to replenish the BR and to what extent. My wife charges some pretty hefty juice for BR stake

[TailgateNut]

I don't know, during the classes, i usually doze off.

joke

I just started the class, but from what i have seen;

Husbands responsibility is toward his wife and only his wife. This includes providing a home, food and doing the man stuff around the house. Not spending all his time with the children, hanging out with friends all the time, hobbies, bad habits (gambling), tv, sports. If he puts her above everything else to where she doesn't feel neglected, then he is doing his job.

Wife responsibility is toward the children and herself. This includes taking care of the baby, raising the baby and schooling of the children.
She also has to take care of herself and looking decent. That means working out, put on clean clothes, brushing your hair. Not anything like model, but nothing like a bum either. This also applies to the husband, but not as much.

Also understand that i am sure i have missed some key points. But this are some of the key points. This is not a guideline to divide the duties in the house as it will change from house hold to house hold and person to person. But more of a key role responsibility. Alot of it is common sense, but to some people they just have no idea.
I know guys that go out every night, gamble and loose thousands of dollars and they wonder why their wife is at home crying. Much worse, they could careless if she is at home crying.

YIKES!!!...only thing missing is the "barefoot and pregnant" part.ROFL!

[JCMElway]

Marriage advice for my friends here at the Mane.

Don't. Just don't.


;)

[alkemical]

I'd rep that if i could.

[Bronx33]

She must agree with atleast 25 of these postions and at least 3 she doesn't.

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[Sassy]

YIKES!!!...only thing missing is the "barefoot and pregnant" part.ROFL!

That's what I was thinking!
That's a little old fashioned for these days!

I'm ok with a joint household type of account and separate accounts for personal stuff, but I don't think I agree with the prenup stuff.

[Sassy]

Bump ;D

[Sassy]

4 Fights That Men Fear
Posted Tue, Feb 26, 2008, 10:02 am PST
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Post a Comment View All 161 Comments Typically, guys like fights when they're at a hockey game, or watching reality TV. But guys don't particularly like fights when they happen in relationships.

We shy away from confrontation for several reasons: first, men win arguments with women about as often as Dennis Kucinich wins presidential primaries.

Second, we don't have that much we want to argue about. When Rodney King asked, "Can't we all just get along?" there were millions of guys nodding their heads, asking the same thing. For the vast majority of guys, fighting is failure, and quite possibly a violation of local noise ordinances.

We may have a few little things to quibble about (Where in the world did you put my Strokes concert T-shirt?), but for the most part, we'll do anything to avoid conflict, especially these types of conflict:

The "Blackberry" Fight

You look at it too much. Does that thing always have to be on? You work way too much! You're right, you're right, and you're right. When a man's work is pitted against his relationship for time and attention, he can feel utterly conflicted.

Many men feel an intense pressure to succeed, to be the one who's counted on, to be hardwired into whatever's happening, even if it's not much. And when you tell him that he should feel that way about you rather than the job, he retreats.

That's because he'd rather make a choice between right and wrong than the choice you're asking him to make: The choice between two things that are both important, but vastly different.

The "Ex" Fight

You want to know what she's like, what she does, why your man was into her, and why they broke up. Him? He wants to stay as tight-lipped as the CIA's man in Moscow.

Which only fuels the speculation - she must've been great, she must've broken up with him, she must've been the love of his life. The truth may be none of those things, but he wants to reveal as little as possible because there's no upside.

If he recalls any positives about her, he's afraid you'll compare, and think poorly of yourself. If he says nasty things about his ex, he loses two ways: you'll think badly of him for unchivalrous behavior, and wonder why he was with such a no-good girlfriend in the first place.

The "Finale" Fight

When a break-up is inevitable, a guy doesn't want to go out with shouts, insults, crying, and random appliance tossing. Even though this relationship may have not worked out entirely the way either of you had pictured, he doesn't want it to end badly.

Why? Because there's a big part of him that cares very much about his rep; he doesn't want to be perceived as a bad guy, or a mean one, or some jerk who deserves to be hit by the cross-town bus next time he crosses the street.

Even if he wants an ending, he doesn't want it to be a bad one - which is why many breakup-minded men try to make a soft landing back in the singles world: Slowly, gently, and perhaps unfairly as well.

The "Wedding" Fights

Not the wedding fight, as in whether or not to have one. But fights, as in plural, the kind that happen between the first ring he puts on your finger, and the second. He knows you want him involved in all the decisions big (who to invite) and small (what style napkins). He knows that "It's up to you" is usually one of the "Five Things You Should Never Say to a Woman," as this article artfully instructs (hint: make sure he reads and heeds it!).

But in this case, his acquiescence isn't because he's uninterested; it's because he respects that this is your (and possibly your mother's) big day, so enjoy it, do what you want, and don't get mad because he won't tell you if he prefers the butter cream icing or the marzipan.

[Que]

Remember guys, no matter how good she looks some other guy got tired of putting up with her ****.


Just kidding. Though I always found some humor in that. Marry your best friend - case closed.

[Beantown Bronco]

Marry your best friend - case closed.

Now I know we can do that in Massachusetts, but most states aren't that liberal.

[TailgateNut]

Now I know we can do that in Massachusetts, but most states aren't that liberal.



EEEEEK!LOL

[Sassy]

OMG! Where is this going ;D